What's an immediate turn off in a person?

Happens to be true in all modern western countries though, only the US seems unable to force companies to pay a livable minimum wage.

That is specifically a US problem.

If I am ordering and picking up at a counter fuck tipping. If I'm actually being waited on then I'll always tip if the service wasn't dogshit.

Bro they are working in a high intensity environment. You are there to have fun. They are talking behind your back. (So how does that affect you?) Versus actively being a jerk to someone just doing their job (which is, unfortunately, to engage with you). It's not the same.

Good for you. That's disgusting behaviour.

it's "childish" to enjoy fun things like the zoo, according to some incomprehensibly boring and immature people.

I don't understand what you are trying to say.

It's fine to not be into whatever you want. If I said I didn't find Asians attractive, that wouldn't make me a racist. (I do, for the record, same as I'm into boys of every other nationality, but if I didn't it would still be a personal preference and no one's business but my own.)

Nope. You literally cannot smoke without polluting others.

You mean smokers cannot respect consent? Agreed

Yes, but not to the same degree.

I mean anyone who use the word Woke (Or Progre in my language) unironically.

Dogwhistle for "I hate people tackling social issues and think we should go back to women being controlled and abused, and men being miserable all day at work, while we completely disregard queer and children's mental health".

Or at least, it gets used that way by people who don't use it as a reclamation term in a positive sense.

Cluster B personality disorders - most commonly known for borderline and narcissistic PDs.

Still discusting.

Why would I be talking about the first one? Toxic positivity is complete and utter bullshit, and I'm tired of people telling me I can't complain about other people for whatever reason.

right? i mean, i'm balding and i find the alternative of growing the little hair i have left far more unpleasant than just having a buzz cut. but hey, that's just preferences.

Fr? Maybe it is just the people I hang out with but I dont know anyone who is outwardly mean to animals. Atleast I haven't seen it

Eh, some of us are just balding and it's the least bad option.

Buzz cut to me screams “I have so much social anxiety, have been bullied so badly, that I don’t trust a barber to give me a good haircut”

To me, it looks more like social camoflauge. "I'm just a normal guy, i have normal opinions, trust me bro" is the vibe I get. I get putting it on for things like work, but if you decide to blend in as your preferred look, ehh, i dunno, maybe I'd rather hang out with the bear, you know?

Only carrier pidgeons allowed

Self compiled Linux distribution for a phone you soldered together yourself - what else?

I hate that you people are even allowed on the internet.

• Send from a PDP11- </S>

Even if they were. Windows is on the list of turnoff OS. Just use a flip phone for calls and a raspberry pi with the raspberry screen for scrolling through lemmy. Now i am imagining someone writing an essay in a Starbucks with a raspberry a propped up screen an a little keyboard.

I think shitbucket covers that category too.

They are joking.

Linux phone is the only real acceptable option. Just not Ubuntu touch begause of Ubuntu

they dated vicki from small wonder.

I was so apathetic in my early voting years, so I guess I'm doing my weird political thing in mid-life.

Obviously. Im just not dumb enough to put myself in a box.

It seems like sometimes women (in specific) start with these crazy high expectations, but then start lowering them during the relationship, and never stop lowering them.

There absolutely is such a thing as being too accepting of bad behavior from a partner. That's just healthy boundaries. Letting your gums rot probably should be outside that scope, if they can help it at all.

I really don't know whether to upvote or downvote. Upvoted because I feel you are a kindred spirit, but not for that person...no, not ever.

There's a difference between goofy and dumb. Goofy is fun, I'm all over that. Actually dumb is exhausting and awkward, it's just not fun

A stick up the ass isn't the exact same thing as low intelligence or whatever this turnoff is, but then again I'm not good at let-loose stupid fun, so maybe I'm biased.

Either way, more left for me, as they say, as long as everyone's having a good consensual time.

I would agree unless the looseness and stupidity is caused by alcohol. In that case is a huge red flag.

I have a sister who I'm close with, who has all kinds of dinosaur-themed stuff and loves it. That's not the issue. It was a poor choice of wording I guess to describe it that way. I had an exchange recently where I literally felt like I was talking to a kid after a while, though, and all thoughts of romance were immediately dead, so that was my first thought.

you shouldn't judge people solely on how they act

I'd say it's impossible to do it I any other way. We're not telepaths and intent is not magic.

The way people act is the interface with which you interact with them. It makes little difference if what lurks behind is an intelligent person or a child if they both behave the same.

fame-seeking

I agree there, lol. I'm not into people who are doing what they do for the fame.

More this for me. I deal with activist drama enough just doing activist stuff.

I like it...

Whatever you want...

Humans are all about resources (look at how everyone wants to make more money). Status effectively means access to (human) resources. When you have status, you can tell someone what to do or think and they'll do it or believe you. When someone does something for you or believes what you tell them, you don't only have access to your own resources, you effectively have access to their resources as well, so in the end, status is more important than having resources yourself.

The managers/bosses in a company have status. The musicians in a band playing at a pub have status. The pastor at the church has status. The millionaire has status. The politician has status. The teacher at a dance class has status.

These are easy examples. But there are a myriad more, especially more "sneaky" ones. Status doesn't have to be obvious/institutionalized like the examples above, status is part of every single human interaction.

The "popular friend" has status. For example, they might organize gatherings that people actually come to. If another one of the friend group, that has less status, tried that, less or no people might come. I'm sure you noticed something similar.

Or some gossipy/overly friendly person in the office has status. They make little friends everywhere, give people small meaningless gifts, pay attention what's happening and offer people information (also a resource) for free. If they suddenly start badmouthing someone (even if that person has not deserved it and only angered them for some trivial reason), they might cause the badmouthed person lots of trouble through reducing their status.

Of course, status-seeking behavior is not necessarily bad. A philanthropic, intelligent, always (actually) being nice person also gathers status. People like them, they say true things that help people, which gives them status. They give people favors, like inviting them for food, which also gives them status. And so on.

As you can see, status-seeking behavior is literally everywhere. Our psyche is built to seek more status and it's one of our main drivers in life. For example, if you want to get good at playing an instrument, your driving force behind that desire is seeking the status that comes with it. You might say it "is just fun", but what is fun but a motivational force of your psyche to make you do something? Fun things are fun because doing those things gave an advantage in an evolutionary context. The status that comes with getting good at an instrument and being able to make other people feel good through music is the ultimate "goal" of your evolved behavior.

So yeah, once you understand this, you actually see status-seeking behavior everywhere. And almost everyone is completely unaware of it. I myself am essentially looking for status right now by explaining this to you, I give you a "smart" explanation demonstrating my knowledge that thus makes me look intelligent. There is no direct advantage to me explaining anything to you. It makes me feel good to share my knowledge, which is why I do it. It feels good because demonstrating knowledge/intelligence raises my status.

Yes! It's crazy how noticeable it is when I'm in the city, rather than out here in the boonies with all the geezers. Why do you do that, fellow youngs?

Absolutely false. It's a universal truth of our species to seek status, everyone does it.

Your statement itself is essentially an attempt to gain more status. You're likely not part of "urban" and "younger" environments, thus "badmouthing" them raises your status comparatively.

My telling you this is an attempt to sound intelligent, which raises my own status.

Only in the "square vs rectangle" sort if way

🚨 Eurocentrism incoming 🚨

I’m gonna bet bri’ish

I’m German. Foreign accents (I.e. some foreigner speaking German) are either funny or cute to me. If I feel neither, that’s probably because I need to concentrate to understand. In German accents, a Bavarian accent, a Saxon or a Frisian one turn me off.

In (to me) foreign languages, I don’t care, meaning that I’m just as fine with „Oi com frum Birmingham“ as with a posh Oxford accent. Also the southern French accent is fine with me, as well as the northwestern one. I’m also fine with Breton, but that’s a language, not an accent. And I don’t understand the latter very well anyway, let alone speak fluently.

The ones associated with poverty are the usual ones that catch crap. Regional or recent immigrant.

Maybe this person is going to surprise me and just finds Australian or Parisian French grating personally, though.

Not OP, but I'd find Liverpudlian and the Birmingham accent difficult to live with.

in a sense you did, but some people do sweat too much, beyond what would be reasonable given environmental factors. it's called hyperhidrosis and can be treated, and you could even find another underlying condition that may cause it, instead of simply bad regulation of the sweat glands or nerves that control them. go check a doctor, don't suffer for no reason.

most gun enthusiasts are straight-out idiots, if not fascists/authoritarians. you can fit nice people within this hobby inside a samba bus.

Hmm. Sex with a non-human animal wouldn't be, at least.

Fair enough. Personally, I prefer personality over appearance. But I also think it's a visual turnoff to see no effort, also because the way a person dresses is usually the first thing most people notice. I do, anyway.

But style is also part of a person's personality no? I say this as someone who slaps on clothes on themselves more often than not.

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