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Why was I crying???
  • I am older, and wanted to say there have been a few random guys who were enormously sexually attractive to me but not on their looks or personality or anything, and I always figured it was just some sort of biological compatibility, that my body recognized they would make healthy babies or something like that.

    This sounds similar to what you have going on here, and it's safe to ignore it. It is puzzling, that feeling, but no way does it mean you'd get along well with someone.

  • What are your small and silly questions in life?
  • At the big cat rescue here they figured out that cats love Calvin Klein Obsession For Men perfume.

    And once my ex stood with the cat on the kitchen counter and opened, one by one, every spice jar in the kitchen and let him sniff it. Then closed and replaced it. The cat just sat there sniffing them. So I'd say yes. Not as food, but certainly as smells.

  • Moms, if you were struggling with your child in public and a man offered to help, would you let him and why?
  • What sort of help? Get something for me while I wrangle the kid? Sure. Also blocking if they are running off and turning them in the right direction, sure.

    No I wouldn't have handed off a baby to a random dude, even though I'm sure that 95% of the time it would be safe to.

  • Lemmings of Lemmy who came over from Reddit what do you miss about Reddit and what do you not miss?
  • I miss the non-sexual nudes threads, Normalnudes and NakedProgress. I miss the nice places like ABraThatFits. I miss having enough of a user base to have a city specific subreddit.

    I don't miss having to take down tens of posts every day in the aforementioned nonsexual nudes threads as a mod helper, because nobody could follow the rules, so to keep it a place for real people it took a lot of culling of mean comments and isolated boner pics and ladies promoting onlyfans.

    I thought I'd miss the busy R/Cocktails but love maintaining the small one here and in nearly a year have had only two reported posts, it's just so much nicer here.

    And when I've ventured back, it's worse even than it was. So many ads.

  • STOP IT.
  • Mine was easy too, no hot flashes or anything, don't even know when it happened since I had the IUD. but got the MHT, low dose estrogen & progesterone, because I was getting bladder infections and worried about osteoporosis (family history) realized I did have some symptoms because my balance came back (standing in one foot balance not like mental balance) and my thinking cleared up some, I was foggy but just figured it was normal. I freaking love this routine except for the fact that it's made me medium sized rather than slender, which is a mindfuck - I feel really good otherwise, both in body and mind. And the weight gain increased my bone mass so I can't even lose it.

    I think it's 50% of women get symptoms like hot flashes - that's a big chunk but certainly not everyone.

  • You don't have to fear these things
  • Not a typo, actually. She's my ex mother outlaw because I never married my ex, her other title is "my kids grandma". She is great, though has the oddball conservative ideas you'd expect for an old person. Like the yogaphobia.

  • How come no one wanna come to her wedding? 🫡
  • I thought a destination wedding was basically an elopement, like you are trying to really cull your guest list. Never felt bad about sending a no to those, always figured that's what they were aiming for.

  • What's your favourite harmless prank you've seen IRL?
  • I got away with so many things like this at my previous job because nobody dreamed I would do it so never, ever was I suspected (older white lady and in a comedy routine I would be the straight person). Accounting often works late though. So I'd move a tyrannosaur toy around, change the after hours sign to say things like "after 5 please dance", put funny things on the printer glass. Others were always suspected. I never even blinked and they never knew who.

  • Ginger spice and everything nice

    Pausing dry July for one drink, streets are too flooded to get to yoga and it's been an eventful month.

    1.5 oz bourbon (any whiskey would be good)

    .75 oz Amaro Toscano (would not substitute another)

    .75 lemon juice

    Shake together then stir in

    3 oz dry or sweet full flavored ginger beer (mine is home fermented, spicy and dry but a strong and sweet one would also work)

    Really hitting the spot, the Toscana and ginger reminds me of gingerbread. An aperitif before supper then back to none for another week. Usually my one drink of July is historically on the 15th so made it an extra week!

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    You don't have to fear these things
  • Yeah I realized after writing that, it's a little flippant. My favorite yoga teacher once described American yoga as an unholy mashup of British calisthenics and ancient Indian spiritual and contemplative practices, and that sounds about right. I do know it's orientalist, and that's problematic, but goodness it is a great physical practice, the way we do it here.

  • You don't have to fear these things
  • My ex-mother outlaw wouldn't do yoga because she thought it was a religion or witchcraft or something (ETA: and thus thought it imperiled her eternal soul because she might pick up some beliefs) and she was a mainline Baptist so yeah, yoga.

  • STOP IT.
  • It hurts. Some Gynecologists will offer anaesthesia, mine is more a "suck it up buttercup" lady but does tell the nurse to hold your hand. The worst part was definitely the depth sounding. Once that's done, it goes in, some cramping, and as I noted, the first one I had the light spotting for nearly a year. I had already had kids, but my daughters reported similar experiences. They didn't have the year of spotting but a couple months of spotting then nothing.

    One or two days of pain for six years of no periods and no pregnancies is a good deal I think. If you don't have sex with men I still think it's a good enough tradeoff for no periods. I left the last one in until my doctor was sure I was through menopause, that made it so easy.

    Birth control pills made my migraines so much worse, and raised my blood pressure. The hormonal IUD did neither of those.

  • What's your favourite harmless prank you've seen IRL?
  • At our last office, the accounts receivable department decorated for Halloween and put a stuffed dummy in a chair in the hall. Then ON Halloween, put their chubby intern in the chair in the outfit instead. Scared the heck out of most of upper management. Very good day at work.

    At the job before that, on April fools day, I got each of the ladies working in my department (including me) to go separately into the boss's office and tell him we were pregnant, giving the same month as when we were due. He didn't figure it out until #4.

  • STOP IT.
  • The Mirena IUD was (after a solid year of spotting) 5 years of no periods. I got it replaced, 6 more years no periods. That is 11 years no periods. Also the best birth control known to science right now, smaller failure rate than getting tubes tied or vasectomy. And none of the side effects I got with the pill.

    Not the copper IUD, that was a nightmare. 2 weeks bleeding, heavily like Carrie, one week off, repeat. Got so anemic I couldn't go up stairs without panting. Terrible side effects with that one.

  • Mixed feelings

    imbibemagazine.com Feeling Without Touching Paloma

    The Paloma gets a bold touch with the addition of arrack and orgeat at Cure in New Orleans.

    Feeling Without Touching Paloma

    This sounds delicious and right up my alley, but a Paloma is so simple and easy and perfect, and with only an oz of grapefruit soda I'm not sure this is even a Paloma variation.

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    The darkest Dark and Stormy

    punchdrink.com The Waterfront Fernet-Branca Cocktail Recipe | PUNCH

    This cocktail recipe makes a boldly bitter, minty Dark ’n' Stormy courtesy of Fernet-Branca evangelist Damon Boelte.

    The Waterfront Fernet-Branca Cocktail Recipe | PUNCH

    From Punch.

    I am making ginger beer this week and sort of dreaming about what to do with it after my Dry July. I don't have the minty Fernet, but may aquire it to try this.

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    N/A - La Verdita

    Recipe is in the non alcoholic pinned post.

    Funny looking but really good. Made a half batch of the Verdita syrup, my jalapeno was not spicy but I guess that's better than too spicy. Mojito Mint.

    Next one I may use tepache, not tonic, and spicy it with some fire tincture. But it's very good.

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    July cocktail contest - Dry Dry July

    The July contest is a non-alcoholic cocktail, must contain at least 3 ingredients. Non-alcoholic for purposes of this challenge is defined as non-intoxicating, not absolute absence of ethanol so a squirt of a tincture, splash of bitters, a base of kombucha or fermented ginger beer is allowed, also caffeine at reasonable level but a THC cocktail would be disallowed.

    Happy July!

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    Made fresh pineapple juice, suggestions?

    I made today a pineapple margarita with mezcal, tequila, lime, and the fresh pineapple juice. One more day before I start Dry July and I would like a banger, this is good but not great.

    Any suggestions for this weekend, also anything interesting and pineapple not alcoholic would also be most welcome. I am making tepache, but it's not done will make ginger beer, have mint in the garden, have tonic water, will probably buy some Chinotto soda too.

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    Punch - Most searched cocktails of June

    punchdrink.com The 5 Most Popular Cocktails of June

    Here are the drinks that you couldn’t get enough of this month.

    The 5 Most Popular Cocktails of June

    Apparently we were a bitter bunch in June!

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    A sidecar-ish

    This is delicious. Fruity, tart, round in flavor.

    2oz cognac

    1oz Giffard Abricot

    1oz Heirloom Pineapple Amaro

    1oz lemon (a little more than an ounce, lemon was juicy)

    Shake everything, a coupe would be ideal but it's too hot now to have an outdoor drink without ice. I wouldn't make any substitutions or corrections so it should probably have a name, but I can't think of one. The cognac and apricot are French, the Amaro is American Hipster, the flavor smooth as hell, feel this should be easy but my brain is fried from work.

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    Paper Plane on a rainy day, what are you having?

    The rain lilies are happy, and I am enjoying the rain with a paper plane. So happy the rainy season has arrived at last.

    What are y'all drinking?

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    Mezcalita, or, a comedy of errors.

    Well, this was quite a journey but it's good.

    I was going to have a margarita with our dinner of chicken and black bean enchiladas, oh no, used almost all the tequila making a batch of margarita and one of Paloma for memorial day. Ok, plug the gap with mezcal, the good one. Measure the juice from my measley lime, nope not enough, juice my last lime, well now it's too much but I don't want to waste it. So a smidge of simple. I'll be damned, it ended up very good but I do think it is because of the good mezcal.

    1oz Tequila Ocho claro

    1oz Del Maguey Chichicapa

    1oz orange liqueur

    1.25 oz lime

    .25oz simple (1/1)

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    Ranglum

    punchdrink.com Berlin’s Modern Classic, the Ranglum, Is No Ordinary Rum Sour

    In less than two decades, the tropical drink has become a sleeper hit in the local cocktail scene.

    Berlin’s Modern Classic, the Ranglum, Is No Ordinary Rum Sour

    Punch has such good articles. Any Germans who can confirm this is a local drink? I've never heard of it. I particularly liked the line:

    "The simplest cocktails have the smallest margin for error."

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    Pineapple & Bourbon cocktail

    I am making tepache, and juiced the fruit of the pineapples. This is heavenly, if you don't have the pineapple Amaro a spiced and slightly bitter but not too heavy amaro, like Toscana might work, or Ancho Reyes original but I highly recommend the Heirloom for fruity drinks, it's so good.

    2 oz fresh pineapple juice

    2 oz bourbon (stronger is better)

    1 oz Heirloom Pineapple Amaro

    1 oz lime juice

    Tajin

    I first mashed the tajin in a mortar and pestle. Wiped the rim of the glass with the squished lime and rolled it in the tajin, put big ice cube in the glass. Then shake everything else together and pour into prepared glass. My pineapple juice is very, very sweet this time, you might need to adjust if you have a more acidic one.

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    June Cocktail Contest - hot, hot, hot

    Happy first birthday to Cocktails@lemmy-world!

    For June, the challenge is a hot cocktail - either spicy or literally hot. Bring on the heat! Warm yourself if you are in the southern hemisphere, or cool off with a spicy spicy drink if it's summer (it is very much summer here).

    No specified ingredient this round, doesn't have to be alcoholic but must contain at least three ingredients, most upvoted wins.

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    The game!

    I was having a cocktail of cognac, apricot liqueur, and lemon juice, and thinking we could have a game. Make a drink using one of the ingredients in the previous drink. So to start - a drink with cognac, apricot liqueur, or lemon juice.

    One more rule: don't repeat the chosen ingredient - so Ruaidhrigh brought the lemon juice from the first drink into the amaretto sour - next drink can't use lemon as the one ingredient brought forward.

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    The Fox River

    punchdrink.com Bring Back the Fox River

    At Beverly Hills’ Spago, the crème de cacao–spiked Old-Fashioned is reimagined as an easy-going stone fruit julep.

    Bring Back the Fox River

    I like Punch's "bring back the" series. Readable and interesting, often like this one, new versions of old forgotten drinks. I wouldn't go to the trouble of making peach bitters, and not sure I could handle something so sweet but the flavors seem mighty interesting.

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    What are you drinking, Lemmy? Memorial Day weekend edition

    I'm kicking off a long weekend with a paper plane with one oz of cognac added. Perfect.

    Has anyone tried Frapin 1270, their entry level congac? I have the namesake perfume and like it a lot, but that doesn't seem like a good enough reason to buy the booze.

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    Siesta-Paloma

    A hybrid.

    2oz tequila

    2oz fresh grapefruit juice

    1 oz fresh lime juice

    1/2 oz Campari

    1/2 oz simple syrup

    Shake all, add 2 oz fizzy water, dirty pour into glass.

    Delicious, honestly. Increase the sugar if you want it more Paloma like, or more of the Topo Chico, to make one like like Texas ranch water. Sub mezcal if you really hate Campari, but you may like it in this.

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    Saturday drink, what are you having?

    I'm having a bourbon and amaretto sour (inverted Morganthaler recipe, basically). Are you having a Saturday drink?

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    Riff on Pas de Loup

    Not much to look at but tastes good.

    1 oz whiskey (bourbon is all I had but I would try with Scotch)

    1oz Mezcal

    1/2 oz Ancho Reyes

    3/4 oz Cynar

    1 oz lemon, 1 oz honey syrup

    It's quite good, I found the original on Mixel app, it seems they scraped it from Reddit? Original omits the whiskey, halfs the lemon and sweetener. But even with the additions I taste mostly mezcal and Ancho. Bitter in a good way.

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    Hi Lemmy, what are you drinking this weekend?

    I'm just having coffee (moka pot coffee with foamed milk!) and water today, can't relax yet. Considering what to make in the weekend.

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