Please don't think I'm here to complain about rizz or skibidi toilet etc. Thats all fine by me.
The term I dislike strongly is 'eeeh' before you make a statement disagreeing with someone. (This is over text only). Now maybe I've been pavloved bc it's always used by someone disagreeing. But I'm happy with people disagreeing with me normally its just the 'eeeh' or 'erm' that annoys me.
So what's a random term that annoys you?
PS. Saying "eeeh actually 'eeh' is a perfectly fine term" would be a ridiculously easy joke and I will judge you for making it. And I know atleast one person will. Especially bow that I've said all this.
Thing is... this sort of makes sense if you say it with a hint of sarcasm. But curiously the only people that use this phrase are Americans. And we all know how much they understand sarcasm 🤣.
I’ve always interpreted it as meaning that I care so little for something I can’t even be bothered to put the effort in to not care about it as much as I should… but, yeah, it’s used incorrectly way too often and makes no sense most of the time.
"Ding ding ding!" When someone agrees with something you wrote, but wants to make sure that you know that they already knew and claim ownership of the statement that you wrote. Condesending asshole. I did not arrive at your opinion late.
"Meanwhile" in cooking recipes. Just no. I am following a recipe in stepwise order. You do not get to tell me what I should have already done in the previous step.
It makes sense to have the ingredients first for making a shopping list and prepping.
However, I do agree, with recipes being online, it should be a small task to include the quantity in the description too, even if it is adjustable for different servings.
People getting brake and break mixed up annoys me, but I get it. If this is you, your car has brakes and you take a break from work after breaking your arm.
I hadn’t thought about that one. I occasionally use the word kiddo, but only to say, “hey kiddo!” I never use it to talk about my kids, like “we took the kiddos to the park yesterday.”
I don’t think it’s some latent psychological issue. I get along great with my mom, and I’ve never felt any resentment toward her. I’m also not bothered by words like mom, moms, mother, etc. I don’t even mind when my sons call my wife “mommy.” It’s just that one word, “momma,” that bugs me. I wish I had an explanation.
I'm also sick of it, but I also sort of like how it's gone viral. I had a very non-techy friend mention it to me the other day. I feel like most of the people who I see talking about it are jazzed because it makes them feel seen. My friend, for example, said to me that before she learned of "enshittification", she felt like she was going mad because of how things don't seem to work like they used to, especially in tech; she said that for the longest time, she had assumed it must be something that she was doing wrong.
Marxists have a hundred years of text dedicated to alienation from labor, the falling rate of profit, degeneration of art and creative disciplines under later capitalism due to the profit motive, cycles of class struggle, all based on a materialist analysis of changing production and class relationsi
But for some reason a trendy term like enshittification that vaguely means things are getting worse, without going into the basis about why they're currently getting worse, has caught on.
I'm convinced it's part of the tech grifter trend to take things that were already invented, slap a new name on it, repackage it, and sell it.
I suggest you read up a bit on how and by whom the term was coined and what it actually means. It's by no means 'vague' and it is also a bit more than just repackaging and selling something already known. I suspect many people using the term aren't even fully aware of what it describes and, crucially, what is being proposed to reduce the effects it describes.
But yet it explains so much about the modern world. All this time we’ve been abused and mistreated, had our data collected and income extracted in so many scammy ways ….. and now we have a word that fits it so perfectly
That never bothered me all too much. Then yesterday i watched a video on youtube to kinda doze off. Dude made some insane stuff in Minecraft. Now i usually don't really watch these videos or Minecraft videos in general. But the production value, time and effort that went into it was beyond everything i have seen so far.
The usage of the word literally kept me awake. Every time i had to flinch and at some point i had to turn it off, despite my interest.
I literally could not care less about literally. MANY words over time end up meaning the opposite of what they did, its just the nature of how humans use language. I love that we've seen this change happen right in front of us.
Eeh, you have a point, but on the other hand, if the word meaning "literally" no longer means "literally" then we need a new definitive term for the concept.
And we don't have one. We just have a word that is becoming more ambiguous every year
They're the same types that appear in comment threads with contradictory arguments to literally fucking anything -
"We should save the whales"
"Yes but my cousin got splashed by a whale on a boat trip as a toddler and now has a terrible phobia that makes her wheeze whenever she sees one. Do you want that, is that what you want?"
"We should plan walkable cities"
"OH MY GOD SHES IN A WHEELCHAIR TOO DO YOU ONLY EVER THINK ABOUT YOURSELF YOU ABLEIST"
😂
My theory is that they're just unbelievably bo-o-o-o-oring, humourless people with nothing to add to a conversation but a desperate need for attention
The wheelchair one (whilst obvious hyperbole) is a great example of why this rhetoric isn't useful.
Often people who say we should plan walkable cities don't consider what that would mean for wheelchair users and other disabled people, because they don't have the lived experience to think along those lines. So it would actually be super useful if someone could say "okay, but what about wheelchair users?" in a constructive way, because there are additional considerations re: pedestrianisation and public transport. Disabled people are way too often treated like an inconvenience or obstacles to progress, and that's fucking exhausting, so it's useful to have allies who ask "hey, what about disabled people tho"
The people your comment is about don't do this. As you highlight, they make things about themselves, and if anything, this makes it harder to have productive conversations about what a 'walkable city' for everyone would look like. I suspect that for many of these people, it's based on a nugget of good intentions inside a blob of insecurity and dread at the state of the world; they feel like they're not doing enough so they resort to very loudly virtue signalling in the most bizarre ways.
Places using "gluten-friendly" to mean "gluten-free". I am gluten-UNfriendly. I do not want gluten. They've tried to be cute and actually managed to make the term mean the opposite of what it's supposed to.
If someone uses the word 'curate' they'd better be preparing to show me a shoebox filled with their favorite vaseline glass and not a pile of random deli meat on a wooden board
10 years ago I learnt that southern New Zealand slang uses bespoke or custom as an indicator of poor quality. Someone shittly welded a tow ball onto their car, that's a 'custom job'.
Your poorly assembled second hand IKEA bookshelf that's falling apart and well fucked? A bespoke piece of furniture.
Those words have never bothered me since. Thanks kiwis.
Don't leave us hanging! Finish the story! Please let the person that said "it is what it is" die a gruesome, dark, and slow death. But not me because I didn't really say it.. I was quoting, and that doesn't count.
I’m currently going through a pretty bad divorce where my wife cheated on me, drained my accounts, lawyered up and send a letter demanding $280,000 and isn’t signing documents or responding to her legal council.
I’d love to get it all finalised and end that chapter of my life but realistically I can’t force her to do anything. I can’t make her sign documents, I can’t make her talk to her lawyer. So ultimately it is what it is.
Frankly, that saying has (since our separation) become an anthem to me. I can understand why you’d think it’s defeatism etc if it’s someone speaking of something they can legitimately do something about but truely sometimes it really is what it is.
More of a grammatical mistake, but "should of" instead of "should've" or "should have" annoys the hell out of me for some reason. I completely get how people make the mistake, but it's more effort than just typing it correctly.
I work as a barista and get much too annoyed by people ordering a "regular coffee".
Like I know that 99.999% of the time they mean a drip/filter coffee (excluding that one lady that one time who was surprised I didn't parse "regular coffee" as a latte), but like can you just say drip coffee? Or even simply "coffee"!
I honestly don't even know why it annoys me this much.
I'm a waitress and "regular coffee" means different things across regions. Some people mean just "drip, not decaf" with no indication of cream or sugar. Some people mean "drip, black" with no indication of caffeine content. And where I grew up, "regular" means "2 cream 2 sugar", as in you'd be asked if you wanted your coffee "regular or black". It's the worst.
That latte lady was just crazy though... unless she meant "my regular"?
Regular coffee is a coffee. People say regular coffee because they've gotten fatigue from "which type?" questions. I'm more annoyed that the understanding of coffee has shifted away from the default just being an espresso. Over here in Spain if you ask for cafe you'll get a cafe solo.
Oh yeah absolutely. I'm a programmer and I see so many companies and recruiters etc use Cyber instead of Cybersecurity. It drives me absolutely mad, but these type of people drive me mad anyways. It's probably the same crowd who ruined AI by overhyping it into its grave, the same crowd who were hyped by web 3.0 and the whole Blockchain craze, and probably all those other dumb crazes before it.
Still, this cyber thing seems to permeate everything, and I've heard people using the term who I otherwise respect. For me it's a quick way to instantly become very sceptical of whatever follows the term
So many things. In written form, I hate when someone writes "Period." after they make a point to mean "this can't be argued" or whatever. My good bitch, I don't think you understand how arguing works. 😆
That's fine as long as you don't spell out the periods. 😆
By the by, I'd love to be the guy with the confidence to end an argument with "thus it is proven". That'd be epic. I think I've only ever used QED humorously or ironically.
Perchance is a great word though. I think I'd probably use it if I knew how to do so appropriately in a sentence (though I imagine only a fraction of people who do use that word use it properly. That tends to be the case with formal or archaic words used in informal contexts)
Yeah, just "sigma" goes back to sigma male claptrap. But as with all internet memes, it evolved super rapidly and took on layers. "Sigma" started to mean just "the best", not in reference to male hierarchy necessarily. Then there was a cartoon clip with Squidward from SpongeBob where he said "what the sigma" and it went viral.
Websearch "what the sigma meme" today and you will get text and video explanations of the meme for old folks like you and me. I prefer ones from teachers who interact with middle schoolers; our frontline troops facing the bleeding edge of internet memespeak.
Also use it around your co-workers and peers who have children and would recognize it when you want to really get under their skin, it's skibidi sigma on cap
So it looks like started as a TikTok thing and then spread into the SpongeBob world.
I’m not sure why my ADHD brain latched on to this question but I HAD to find the answer. I don’t know if this is definitive but it’s at least a direction.
“Beloved” in so many articles. Yes I tend to use a specific browser. No, it is not and never will be “beloved”.
That word is so jarring most of the time and seems to be everywhere online in the last two years. I can only assume it’s some sort of SEO, trying to convince Google it’s a personal article or something. I hope to god it’s not ai assuming that’s what attracts our attention
This one really grinds my gears! I think it's because the person can't even be bothered to describe what they want you to do, just go fix it and don't bother me with any details.
Indian here. Redditors say that Indians say this a lot. I'd like to tell you that while Indians do use this sentence, it's almost always placed only after a long, somewhat-gone-off-tangent-in-some-places conversation that explained everything well.
Maaaaaaybe it was to convince you without describing tasks, but... mostly, it's not so.
Also, I don't remember hearing it IRL at all. Just felt like I have heard it at least twice in my 18 years of humaning around.
But why use such an awkward construction? Why not "please handle this" or "please take care of this"? Or even "please take the necessary steps to address this"? "Please do the needful" is saying Please [VERB] the [ADJECTIVE]. But the correct construction is to verb a noun. So you need a noun (e.g., "this") to act on.
And additionally, "needful" is an adjective, and rarely ever used anyway. For example, you could probably describe a homeless person as "needful", but it sounds awkward, and most people would say "needy" or "in need."
"The proof is in the pudding." It makes zero sense! The actual adage is, "The proof of the pudding is in the eating." It means that a dessert can look perfect and enticing, but if the cook used salt instead of sugar it will taste disgusting.
I don't know what people even think they're saying with "the proof is in the pudding".
when i was a kid, i figured it was a reference to some now obscure detective story, where a bowl of pudding contained the important clue as to who the killer was or something. it wasn't until much later that i heard of this etymology.
Seriously, my bank used to have a password requirement that was 6 characters exactly, no more or less. Plus symbols were completely banned. The reason, it was also your phone password, so in reality it was a 6 digit numeric password where they interpreted the T9 letters as numbers.
I quite like influencer I think it's good that they are called what they are being paid to do and not trying to hide. It's surprising honestly from a very dishonest industry.
I recently heard someone say after they almost accidentally went in a wrong building entrance, "Good thing I didn't do that or I would regret my life choices."
A bit much for something minor that created no more than two seconds of awkwardness.
I unreasonably hate the word "moreover". I see no reason why you wouldn't use the words "also", "additionally", or even "furthermore" that sound way better when read.
It's used incorrectly so often that even when I suspect it's being used correctly I can't be sure. At this point its ambiguity makes it a bad word choice.
Many authors seem to think it means amused mixed with some confusion or puzzlement or something else like that.
Some dictionaries have started to include definitions along those lines, which is correct to do if that is becoming a common usage. But that makes the word bullshit because it no longer conveys a clear meaning. Unlike some words that gain new meanings through misuse, it's usually not clear which meaning is intended from context. Usually I can easily imagine a character's response to something to be either of these definitions so I often can't understand the author's intention. I often find myself taken out of the story while I try to understand which meaning I should use. Because of this I think the word has become useless and shouldn't be used.
This is how I feel about several acronyms at work! There's a three letter acronym recently that was coming up a lot on a meeting. I had to search for a definition to understand the discussion. The meaning is fully encompassed by just using one four letter English word that nobody past kindergarten will be confused about. But this acronym is everywhere! Also, the single word has fewer syllables than the stupid acronym, so it's faster to say. Not by much, but it just adds insult to injury every time I hear it.
Using the phrase "serious question" or "honest question" will make me immediately assume your question is the exact opposite of that. Probably I'm overreacting, but expecting that anyone might respect that declaration you've made about your own question, that gives me narcissist vibes.
Or questions that sound like they're rhetorical, or being asked for provocation's sake, but are being asked in good faith.
Source: I say 'honest question' a lot, and not as a rhetorical device - I just want real answers to questions that might be dumb/asked dishonestly (e.g. as put-downs) in other contexts.
I am someone who really likes the term for myself, because it can encompass a whole bunch of complex identities across gender and sexuality. It feels like it simplifies things for me, and has helped me to properly understand the necessity of LGBTQ solidarity. There have been times when I have been told it's inappropriate for me to personally identify as queer because some people find the term offensive, which I find absurd because such a large and heterogeneous community will never be unanimous on what terms or labels to use.
However, much more frequently than that, I have seen people being insensitive to the reality that there are a ton of people who have pretty legitimate beef with the term and who don't want it applied to them. I'm talking about situations like "queer folk like us <gestures at the entire room>" or "the queer community". It's a pretty reasonable request if someone says "hey, if you're referring to a group that involves me, I'd prefer you not use queer as a blanket term". The appropriate response to that is "I'm sorry, my bad", but I have seen way too many people start arguments that actually the (usually but certainly not always) older gay men are obstacles to Progress.
I like the way that a friend of mine framed it when he said that he's actively jazzed to see a word that did such harm being reclaimed by a new generation who are finding great power and solidarity in it. But that's never going to erase the sting he still feels when remembering being victimised for years by people who'd shout that word. "You can't reclaim a slur if you ignore all its history and disown the members of your community who experienced it as a slur".
It boggles my mind that there are people who are heavy advocates of the power of self determination of one's identity, but who don't see the issue in forcing the label of "queer" onto individuals who have expressly rejected it.
I've always thought queer had 2 connotations. The first being the slur. The second is a catch all for someone not lgbt or someone who doesn't know what they are yet.
But there's also a certain expectation of "flamboyance" from the gay community, or you're "not gay enough" and I think a lot of self-identifying queer peeps are to blame.
On top of the poor history of the word, I just don't want to be associated with colourfulness and energy because that's simply not who I am. People from outside looking into LGBTQ+ assume that that's who gay men need to be because of media representation... It makes me tired.
actually huge pet peeve when people write out erm at all. also poor public speaking really bothers me. slow, with "um"s and "so like"s, monotone. really, really makes a work meeting drag by
tbh ive seen incredible speeches by nonnative speakers because you can feel their passion and effort. the worst presentations at work you can just feel the laziness. i get lazy too, dont get me wrong, but they drag out SO LONG. just spit it out so i can take my desk nap 😭
It is lazy, circular, a cop out and means next to nothing. Vague enough to pass as a wise quip, to some. It is not.
Also not so much a saying per sé, but people who use quotes of famous people at the bottom or ends of emails. As if that implies a personality. If you are going to use something you think sounds smart, at least try to come up with that something yourself.
This one is mine too. It's used in a way that can give it more meaning (mainly, this is something out of our control), but logically the phrase is just corpo filler-speak that means absolutely nothing.
Can I suggest joining "the Toastmasters" https://www.toastmasters.org/ . I found it very educational. I learned that was rushing to fill the "dead air" before I had fully formed my thought (read:sentence).
All my "um"s and "er"s disappeared. You will be fine.
For me it's "I'm offended" or "this offends me". I get it, some topics might be triggering for some people but if you get offended because someone has a different opinion, that's your problem, not the rest of the world problem.
I do the "eh" thing sometimes without thinking about it but I agree with you, I don't like being on the other end of it either. I'm trying to work on that
"Folks" makes my skin crawl. I feel like it's used to make someone appear friendlier while saying "you people", in the context of being manipulated by someone with power.
It's useful when talking about race issues. Instead of saying white/black people you can say white folk or black folk. It just seems more friendly when discussing something that could be sensitive.
I disagree. I play the devil's advocate every now and than just to show how biased people can get. I want to introduce some reflection into the discussion so people could at least try to see a different point of view.
Devil's advocacy is supposed to be, ultimately, constructive to the discussion. If that's what you're doing, then good on you. A lot of people just do it to throw a spanner in the works.
on the internet everything is true. therefore if you don't preface your thoughts with "CW: opinion" your writing permanently alters reality and people will be angry at you for inconveniencing them.
Valid opinion on the phrasing. Disagree with the premise that anything someone says is necessarily their opinion.
Example: "For me, potatoes are easier to peel with a knife than a potato peeler" vs "Potatoes are easier to peel with a knife than a potato peeler". The former says that this is my experience and yours may differ. The latter says that this is true in general and if you find it easier the other way, there's a good chance you're doing something wrong.
The only thing worse than people misusing the term 'enshittification' are people who criticise that but can't be bothered to get their facts straight.
No, it's not a meaningless buzzword. And no, it was not made up by nostalgic millennials. It would have taken you a mere minute of online research to figure that out yourself.
"cis" I feel like it's an extra term for "straight". The "default" for lack of a better term (and one that isn't othering) is near the not trans & not gay part of the gender / sexuality spectra. To me everyone in that zone is "straight" (boring/default/whatever).
"begs the question" because people exclusively use it wrong. Just say "leads to the question" or "poses the question."
And I'm still really salty about everyone giving up on the term "literally" to allow it to mean its exact opposite.
Cis and straight are... Entirely different axes, though. How would you describe someone who is cis and gay, or trans and straight while applying "straight" to both sexual orientation and gender identity?
I find "cis" useful, personally. I'm bisexual, so certainly "straight" isn't applicable. In a lot of contexts I'd use "cis" to refer to myself, I suppose "not trans" would also work, but it'd be clunkier.
Plus, there are times when the thing I want to centre in my communication is the cisgender perspective that I have. For example, I was recently discussing with a friend that seeing trans friend's gender euphoria improved my own relationship to my gender because it made me ask myself whether cis people could experience gender euphoria and if so, why couldn't I recall any instances of experiencing it?
I feel like the term "cisgender" implicitly acknowledges that voices and experiences like mine are important in building a shared understanding of gender — i.e. trans people aren't the only ones who have a gender. Like, obviously I can't speak directly about trans experiences, but that doesn't mean that I'm expected to shut up and contribute nothing to the wider conversation.
There are two kinds of races, white and political.
There are two kinds of gender identities, male and political.
There are two kinds of sexual attractions, straight and political.
There are two kinds of gender congruences, cis and political.
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“Cis” is not an extra term for straight any more than “trans” is. These terms have nothing to do with sexual orientation. If you can handle the word “straight,” as opposed to “boring/default/whatever,” then you can also handle the word “cis” by the same logic.