I don't feel the need to post my life online... Continues to post personal story online
The difference is
it's fakethe anonymity.
Doesn't live online --->>> posts on 4chan
never felt like I needed to post my life for the whole world to see
As he posts a story from his life 🙄
Dude is so oblivious and arrogant. He barely knows her and is already judging, thankfully smart girl saw the signs and dodged a bullet. It's rare for greentext to have a happy ending.
damn bro, no need to get up in arms about it. Everybody judges everybody all the time, just a reality of life. She's judging him, he's judging her, I'm judging you right now, you're going to be judging me when you read this, and on it goes.
NGL if you have a flip phone now, you're either a contract killer, a drug dealer and or a stage 5 weirdo.
This is just judgemental and stupid. If you are easily distracted not using a smartphone outside business hours is hugely beneficial.
I use a lumia 550, but REALLY I would prefer an old school phone like the w800i, but a good k750/w800/k800 is rare and expensive at this point and pretty likely to fail. (I have 2g here). So the lumia it is.
W880i ftw https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sony_Ericsson_W880i
Loved it, really miss small phones.
Friend of mine bought her first smart phone about a year ago. She just didn't need any of the functions on a smartphone and was happier with her flip phone: pretty much infinite battery, near indestructible, does communicate just ok.
Only reason she bought a smart phone is to download some group chat clients. Since she broke up with her BF, we additionally had to write her on SMS. So she made it a bit easier for us.
Or an old person. My grandparents have flip phones lol
Old people are de-facto stage five weirdos.
I only bought a smartphone because I was getting into the HVAC field and I wanted to have access to the Internet to help with diagnostics, if it wasn't for that job I might still just have an old flip phone lol
Or you wanna get away from the distractions of modern smartphones.
Because phone bad.
loner, but not autistic or ugly so I get invited out pretty often
Oof. This hurt to read
A loner autist amish btard is pretty ugly, definitely on the inside, but his mom assures him he's not ugly on the outside. Mom is also the only girl who ever put her number in his flip phone, and she knew what she was doing.
I know this is likely fake, but I have gotten that reaction from people. Folks really find it strange when you don't have social media. The times it really sucks is when they think you're lying and just don't want to add them.
But you are lying. You are on lemmy.
Honestly, this is my only "social media" (well, and LinkedIn, but i only use it when I'm looking for work), and I'm not sure it really counts since it's in no way tied to my Identity.
That's not what people are asking about when they ask for your socials. They are referring to the meta family if sites, snapchat, and maybe Twitter at some point.
It's about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, that's outside of what's normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I don't want to be alone with someone I don't really know who is unpredictable. I'm just trying not to get murdered.
As someone whose only "social media" is Lemmy, I'd be 100% fine meeting in public places or with people you trust. But I'm not going to sell my personal information for a date.
I suppose. Handing over your entire life and information to a corporation and making most of it available to the world should be the larger red flag.
you have xmpp? -no...
Matrix, Briar, SimpleX? -no
gotta have Email at least? ... ... no 🧐
I only know two women who use non-standard social apps, and both of them work in NGOs with good reason to not trust corps/government.
Being on 4chan a wayyy bigger red flag than using a flip phone most of the time.
If you don’t have lemmy nobody will fuck you.
Her: "What's Lemmy?"
Me: "It's like if 500 nerds emulated the Reddit experience of 2011."
Her: (visibly drying)
Redditor? Forever virgin.
Lemming? Sex machine.
for me it usually one of the three: What's a lemmy? What is this lemming site? What did you do to Lenny?
Of course, I imagine he pulled the phone out and opened it in one smooth motion.
In fairness, I've got a foldable flippy type phone and the number of conversations it starts is unreal. If I wasn't happily attached (and had more banter than the average housebrick) I'm sure it'd lead to some good chats and encounters.
As it stands though, it's just a nice talking point.
e: plus it's satisfying as fuck ending a call by closing the phone.
Years ago I had one that was spring-loaded so you'd press a little button on the side and it would pop open in one move. I really liked that phone. Don't remember what brand it was.
I am terminally online and even I don't want to engage with someone I know IRL through social media. We don't need to be on discord or Instagram or Reddit to talk 1 on 1. We can just fucking text. Like on the phone. No, I don't want to download Kik or whatsapp or any other random, sketchy app. We can text through the phone.
Fuck texting like a Neanderthal. Use a modern, and secure app to communicate. WhatsApp as a bottom of the barrel thing (99% of society outside of the US is on it, so it's the de facto standard) , signal or better if you can.
Same here
Well said
I try to limit how much time I spend on social media
Shes gonna think you're handing her a burner phone dude lmao
If someone pulls out a flip phone I'm just going to assume they're a drug dealer
Anon actually is in complete denial about his autism.
Always lead with "I don't have any social media."
Ive missed out on job opportunities because i dont keep any socials. There have been a couple companies ive applied to that i got a callback from after the interviews where they basically said my lack of online presence was a red flag for them. Like wtf does it matter if i use facebook or linkden or whatever? I get that it helps them get a feel for the candidate before hiring them, but still...
Funny thing is, some places love when people Dont have social media. I have had to go thrugh a lot of background checks for my jobs before and most of the time they are happy to hear that there is no social media for me to say dumb stuff on online.
The obsession with social media is fucked up, in my opinion. All the AV- and IT-gear in my school were my responsibility for almost 20 years, I got nothing but praise from everyone. Keeping everything running smoothly was easy and I enjoyed it.
Then one day our principal added "social media presence" to the list of my duties. I asked what that meant. "Well, posting weekly on Instagram and Facebook so that the community can see what good work we do here!"
I resigned from the AV- and IT-duties at that moment. I have zero interest in touching those platforms and I consider posting pictures of students or their work online as a very bad idea.
The principal was visibly shocked by my reaction but could not deny the resignation of my duties, since everyone else had gotten to change their duty roles yearly. Now I take care of the woodshop class and materials, which is nice.
Two younger teachers took shared charge of the IT-duties. They have no idea how to handle any problems, nothing works anymore and people are pissed off, but now we have pictures on the Internet.
Good on you mate! I hated when my school took photos for the websites and socials.
You didn't miss out, you dodged a bullet.
If you don't like social media, why would you pretend to like social media to attract someone else who REALLY REALLY cares about social media? It's bound to fail.
...he didn't pretend to like social media
It's college. Every girl doesn't need to be treated like a potential marriage.
Life doesn't need to be serious when you are young. That's a huge mistake I made.
It's not that these people actively care about social media or anything, it's just a regular part of life. I'm like OP here in the sense that I don't have any active social media attached to my name but I have some token pseudonymous social media accounts for exactly this reason. Being this obstinate about it is legitimately a huge red flag, and imo indicates that you've given up even more control of your life to social media, rather than understanding how to use it as a tool for a set of narrowly defined tasks.
A drug dealers flip phone. Lol
Hey I want to look at 4chan stuff like this but not get flashed with porn, any tips?
Stick to communities like this that screencap the good bits so you don’t have to sort through the crap.
Thanks!
4chan is being actively bombed with interracial/trans porn in an effort to make it less palatable to rightoids. It really just makes it less useful and interesting for everyone but don't bother telling the spammers that, they're on a mission from the secular god known as hormone pills.
In my experience, people tend to drift towards whatever is the most taboo for their personal moral framework. I guarantee for people frequenting 4chan, that is trans porn. There is no other way. I could safely bet money in the triple digits.
Dang, well anyways thanks!
Lemmy is it for me. Oh and a discord server with my gaming buddies. The rest of it just feels pretty gross.
This is why I keep a Bare-bones instagram account,despite not using social media.
Insta-stalker
Same here
I try to limit my time on social media too
Anon's "flip phone"
Woohoo! Bubble gum! Score!
If someone mods that to put in a small form factor phone with a lcd and 3.5mm jack for call functionality Id buy that for 100 bucks
This just makes me even happier that I've been with my (now) wife since sophomore year of highschool so I don't have to deal with this mess of a dating environment
When I met my wife in high-school, not having a phone at all (like not even a landline in the house) was not uncommon. Her family had a cellphone in the house to use as a replacement for a landline and my dad put a password on our phone for outgoing calls (me spending hours on the phone with her might have been part of the reason for that). So I had to buy a pre-paid card and use a payphone to talk to her. I can't believe that less than 5 years later we all had internet and personal cellphones.
Folks wanna know what they're getting into. Your social media feeds are an easy indicator. Your twitter all retweets of Andrew Tate? Facebook filled with pics of you dressed up like a leather dog? Truth social? Concerning for many women.
It can feel like you're guilty until proven innocent.
Hilarious. Just another reason I don't have a social media account in my.real name anywhere.
You want my social media? I hope you love pictures of my cat.
I reallly hope any girl I meet uses lemmy.
Can you imagine?? She uses Lemmy, Linux, and a VPN 🥰
Thats hot Free and open source is hot
It hurts because Telegram and Discord are the only chat apps I use lol.. SMS are not included.
Ah, another excuse I can add to my pile of excuses I tell myself about why I don't try to date.
No social media.
anon should’ve pulled out his Lemma and asked for her username (not that you can follow anyone here afaik) he would’ve smashed that instant
erm, a username alone is not very helpful, so unless he asked for her home instance as well, i-
"Yeah it's [email protected]... where are you going?"
This happened. 100%.
This has happened to me. Though with the opposite vibe. I was the one who was disturbed by the insistence on using social media instead of just giving me his number. So I left.
I have run into this on tinder. I was hesitant to give out my number at first, and Snapchat made it very convenient to date around. I think people kind of knew what's up, but who is expecting exclusivity out of the gate on tinder?
actually tho, this is the one real greentext. i have had similar things happen to me personally.
Bro livre under the botnet
I got unmatched on Tinder and called a psycho for not having socials. Checks out.
Just get What's app for this purpose bro
Or get Signal/Telegram.
Anything that's not owned and being excessively monitored tracked and targeted by Meta. Yes it's end-to-end encrypted, but there's no rules about what happens once things are decrypted at each end.
She proably saved his life. If she said she's 14, she's probably 12. Girls always lie about their age at that age. My ex-wife was still pining for a dude she dated when she was 15; he was 24 at the time. When we met in HS she was 16 and I was 18. She said she was 17 (her birthday was 3 months away), but a lie is a lie.
While like others have said this is probably fake.
That said, there is a middle ground. Any one refusing to use ANY social media probably has issues...
Those acting like this is normal, would give someone who refuses to have a cell phone weird looks or what about any phone at all?
For people refusing to use LinkedIn (or similar), that's the same as refusing to have a resume pre Internet
Don't expect society to bend to you, you're NOT special.
This is beyond a shitty take, especially that bit about LinkedIn. LinkedIn might actually be the most worst social media for how pretentious it is and quite frankly I've had a very successful career without ever using it. Maybe because I'm not a wannabe CEO/ life guru tech bro?
Real tech bros use Second Life anyway
