People really dont understand how languages work. Even brother and man can be gender neutral. If you say "man, whyd you do that" thats gender neutral. Same with dude and guy.
This. I've got a fair few trans friends, and we're all in agreement - unless it's obvious we're talking in gendered terms based on context, "dude", "man", "bro", etc are just interjections, not reference to someone's gender. And, when we are talking in gendered contexts, we tend to be pretty clear about that.
Idk about the rest of it but dude and guys can totally be gender neutral and i hate people that dont get that. Its such a bitchy thing to get mad about
Also queen, "James, you're such an Excel queen". I've seen this sort of use many times at my workplace. It doesn't have anything to do with gender or sexual orientation.
It's obviously more niche than "dude" but I've seen it before.
But like.......I think it goes beyond just gender specificity & is also an attempt to address the embedded patriarchy of our culture & language. Those interjection words being male of center as a default is something I wanna unpack, too.🤷🏽
As another comment said "queen" being gender neutral and coming from a word used for females originally. Also patriarchy is embedded in language but you cant really change it. Its always better to agree on a gender neutral phrase than have an infight(classic left wing moment...) and then revert to the previous gendered language because of it. We should all just speak hungarian, barely any gendered stuff in there(def not biased because its my mother tounge)
Thats a joke right? Because youre getting downvoted, but you yourself called me bro without knowing my gender so it must be a joke or youre the most oblivious person ive ever seen.
Missing? It is that part of speech! 😁 "You all," the thing it conjoins, is proper English and the accurate thing to say. We do have it. We just refuse to try harder to be less patriarchal bc "guy" has less syllables. And most of the time it's preceded by "you" anyway, so not even shorter. (If I'm wrong, someone please correct me)
I take the time to correct myself in meetings, "when can you guys- ahem you all" - no apology, bc I'm doing my best, and demonstrating in my actions.
As a super non-Southern USA guy, anytime I drop a “y’all” into convo, my Southerner friends say I’m not doing it right because I simply substitute all “you” instances with “y’all”.
I guess these friends don’t come from the singular-y’all part of the South.
i’m from australia and i’ve adopted yall for exactly that reason
it also makes me real happy that some very transphobic shit heads would be furious if they knew that “their word” was part of the solution to gender neutral terminology
Sure, but we're talking plurals of strangers atm. "Please don't call me a guy going forward" is a different conversation than "what you just said is stupid, mean, and wrong".
Why does the other persons energy matter? If someone requests not to be called something and you continue to call them that then you are kinda being a jerk. It's not the same as correcting someone's grammar.
It’s just as much not a problem for them to be offended by it as it is for you to choose your words better. Knowing that you made a choice to offend so yeah, you’re the jerk. You’re honestly making a lot more of it if you went all this distance to think you’re the one hard done by just cuz you refuse to memorize some words. That’s snowflake thinking.
Only bad actors looking for the drama go for the path of most resistance.
At some point you need to take responsibility for your insecurities and work on moving past them rather then expecting society to placate you. Languages evolve, so if your end goal is gender equality (or even if its not), the best thing you can do is accept that words are context sensative and "dude" and "guys" can be neutral terms.
I'm so fucking sick of the neg culture that pretends to be politically correct. There's malicious sexism and loads of assholes out there for sure but some feel emboldened to attack anyone they construe to be saying what they think is wrong regardless of context.
Someone will always be offended by absolutely fucking everything. They can go fuck themselves.
Hell, in the Irish TV series “Bad Sisters”, the women have called each other collectively “lads”. If that’s the kind of thing that grinds your gears, you’re better off surgically excising the part of your brain that deals with language comprehension, so you can never again understand anything being said to you.
At first you need to take responsibility for what comes out your face and not assume everyone will accommodate to your inability to read the room. If you're an asshole to someone don't be a little bitch if you're getting called out.
It's because the joke story was supposed to be " hey dudes" That way the woman asks "how many dudes have you fucked" he can then go into the Grindr gotcha