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New York’s Fat Beach Day gives plus-size people a space to be themselves
  • Sure, you don't need to stress eat while you're bored. But eating is already a thing you do, it makes you feel good, and it's there.

    Imagine if you actually had to smoke a cigarette 3 times a day. The smoke is a requirement for your body. It makes you feel good, but you can go to excess and it's bad for you. This is MUCH closer to food.

    You HAVE to eat. You eat daily. Not doing so is a disorder. So you can't just not eat, you have to develop a healthy relationship with food. With this thing that tastes good, makes you feel good, and you have to do anyway. Well, that's okay. We can have a healthy relationship with it!

    Oh no. You're sad. Something bad happened. You need something to help you out. Well, how about some food? It's usually pretty enjoyable. You eat every day anyway, so like... It's not a HUGE deal, surely, and you're fuckin SAD man. Fuck it, whole pizza it is! Let's get happy!

    Rinse and repeat, because life is inevitably a big series of bad things (and good, but we're not focusing on those) happening. Now your emotional coping is tied to food. It's not as addictive as nicotine, but it is a requirement for life. It's a lot harder to change THAT than it is to just say "don't smoke." It's like going to a smoker and saying "smoke, but only 3 times a day."

  • New York’s Fat Beach Day gives plus-size people a space to be themselves
  • I don't see any normalizing of obesity. I see a lot of empathy for people whose circumstances have led them to this point. I see a lot of explaining why someone may actively choose foregoing physical health for another reason.

    You can support people who are in a position, even by "their own hand" without saying it's cool, or normal, or anything. You can give just a little back to these people, to hopefully help move them back towards an actual normal living without saying where they are now is good or healthy. That's what I'm seeing.

  • New York’s Fat Beach Day gives plus-size people a space to be themselves
  • Time is a cost too. When people say processed foods are cheaper, time is part of that. If you spend an hour grocery shopping, you can buy a processed meal for each day of the week, and take whatever time it is to microwave it. That's a lot less than the 30 minutes minimum to make a meal from ingredients. That time becomes important when you have obligations past the 'regular' 40 hours a week job.

  • New York’s Fat Beach Day gives plus-size people a space to be themselves
  • We also extend some sympathy to the cigarette smoker, to the self harmer. Quitting smoking is HARD. It takes a ton of effort, nicotine is literally addictive. Self harm is indicative of any of a number of mental and emotional issues. Those are a nightmare to address

    But at the end of the day, they should just grow up and do it, right? Just don't smoke. Just don't cut yourself. Just don't eat to excess. Simple.

    Never mind the literal good deserts some people find themselves in. The decades of misinformation from lobbying groups. The fact that everyone has their own one weird trick,so you don't know who to believe. The fact that the cheapest food is often the least nutritious. The fact that, increasingly, people have to work more hours to get by, leaving less time for things like cooking a proper meal.

    There are real societal factors that play into the obesity epidemic. We didn't get where we are because everyone was collectively like "let's just get fat, yeah?" - we were all brought to this point by the influences of the world around us. Personal responsibility is all well and good, but it's also not the whole game.

  • New York’s Fat Beach Day gives plus-size people a space to be themselves
  • Why does it necessarily have to be a celebration? Are quiet hours at shopping centers celebrating sensory disorders?

    It's not about celebrating, even if some people will use it as such. It's about allowing different people the comfort to experience a thing that most of our society takes for granted.

    I've never met a fat person who doesn't want to change their lifestyle. Sure, there are a few who claim that, but in my experience, that's a defense mechanism from all of the people who look down on them daily. Something like this is only a good thing, offering encouragement at no significant cost.

  • As the Elden Ring DLC beats the snot out of players, Hidetaka Miyazaki says toning difficulty down would "break the game itself"
  • Counterpoint, no matter the accessibility options included, there's always going to be a disability that isn't compatible. The only game that everyone can play is "sitting alone in your room" and some people even struggle with that. There's always going to be some level of ability required. As much as that sucks, that some people just won't be able to experience a thing, it sucks more to have no one experience it for fear of excluding those who can't.

  • Mommy, why is the Apple Pie so spicy?
  • Maaaaaaaaaan, I was high af making some rice. Wanted to add some butter, sugar, and cinnamon. I got the first two, but unfortunately got cumin instead of cinnamon. Even high I couldn't finish it.

  • ACAB.
  • I'm not an expert on any of this. Just a caveat, I'm sure anything I propose will have it's share of flaws.

    State law enforcement (men armed with guns apprehending private citizens) should be the LAST step. For in-the-moment intervention, cops are already useless - unless they happen to be on site already, whatever violence happen, will happen before they get there. There's no good answer to stopping a determined violent individual, short of empowering people to defend themselves and others around them.

    I think there's always going to be some level of violent crime. Some people simply don't function the same way. For these people, we clearly need some kind of active response force. It's use should be limited, based on hard fact and actual threat to civilian life. We also clearly need some kind of (humane) separation for people who cannot or will not rehabilitate, people who cannot be reintegrated into our society. These are two of the only acceptable uses of state violence, in my opinion.

    I don't know the exact way it would look, but I'd like to see a move towards communities looking after themselves and those around them, in all aspects, and this includes safety and security.

    Unfortunately, for property crimes, the only way to actually enforce property ownership is through violence, either direct threat of violence (break my shit and I'll end you), or state violence (break my shit and the state will send armed men to apprehend you unless you reimburse me). We have to determine what level of property security versus violence we seem acceptable. I tend to fall a bit more extreme towards violence not being okay to protect property - I don't think there's a single piece of property worth killing or maiming an individual over. Thus, if the only way to protect property is this level of violence, I believe it is wrong to intervene. I don't believe it is right for the individual to intervene, and I don't believe it is right for the state to intervene. The sad truth is that most of what the police force does now is enforce these types of crimes.

  • ACAB.
  • I didn't say that the policing model goes away, or that we should have secret police a LA the USSR.

    The words I said were: your country's economic model informs what laws you hold valuable.

    This is easily true. We currently have the system in place of "get more, more good." An abundance of our laws, some of the ones we hold most dear, adhere to that. Protecting property is one thing that our legal system and police force does well.

    Contrast to a more equality based economic model. If our society values raising people who are down up, sometimes at a mild cost to someone who's already doing well, then our laws change. Suddenly we see a value shift in our legal system from get more/protect what we have, to let's help the downtrodden a bit.

    Second, I said that this all informs what policing you have.

    Again, this pretty naturally follows from the previous point. Police exist to uphold the laws, at least ostensibly. Their interfacing with society depends on what society has said we hold valuable enough to codify into law. This is where you might get such laws as rent control, where we have determined it's valuable to set limits to the year over year increase someone has to pay for their dwelling, at the slight cost of some profit to the owner.

    All of these things are connected. Correct, socialism isn't a method of policing, but our method of policing is born of what our society holds valuable. It's all connected.

  • ACAB.
  • I'm not going to keep going on this rhetoric treadmill with you. Once again, I agree in bulk with what you're saying, I'm merely trying to point out why you're not really having an impact with the words you're saying. Im reasonably sure you know exactly what kinds of examples people want to see. Both refusing to supply them or acting ignorant to the request degrade your argument and make it feel like you aren't arguing in good faith, you're just shouting talking points.

  • ACAB.
  • Disarming: I don't think there should be no weapons in the hands of law enforcement. Without significantly changing the mindset of how law enforcement must work in our society, yes, having the option to meet a significant resistance with firepower is required. To me, disarming is removing firearms from the average cop. None of the standard patrol officers you're going to run into in your day-to-day should be carrying a pistol on their hip. Keep it locked in your trunk if you HAVE to have it reasonably accessible. Keep less-lethal options the on-your-hip ready options. Too often we see cops go for the pistol before even engaging with their suspect. I've had it happen to me, and we've all seen videos I'm sure. Let's remove that from the equation entirely, keep the guns for after it's escalated.

    Realistically, should the police even BE stopping something like someone stealing a catalytic converter? In an ideal world, sure, but right now the scenario likely ends in either a cat being stolen, or a shootout. I'd rather just let the cat go and focus on the long-term solutions, like fixing the socioeconomic conditions that breed these crimes in the first place. This is also EXACTLY the kind of thing people are outraged over regarding police existing to protect property, not people.

    Defunding: similar to disarming, you are correct in that simply removing funds won't work. Again, I don't think that's the realistic end goal. Defujd in the sense that they do not need military level equipment. More, it's reallocating the funds to things like training, oversight, maybe trading some armed officers for some mental health response personnel. Things like this.

  • ACAB.
  • At least they're held accountable to someone or something. Even if we have to have 40 layers of vigilantism, it's better than what we have with police today - essentially zero accountability. Qualified immunity exists, and police oversight boards are routinely voted against, etc.

    I'm not an expert in this field, I don't have all of the answers. I don't think we can really get all of the answers on a topic as large as "how do we keep society safe" without trying things. I do think the thing we've tried for the last little bit has run its course, it's shown us it doesn't have much merit, and I'm ready for another system.

  • ACAB.
  • Cases where this has happened. Articles detailing actual, specific, times that these things have happened.

    To be clear - I agree with you. I'm merely trying to point out why people seem to be talking past you, and you past them.

  • Filter all automayed archive posts?

    Hey folks.

    I've tried to get a filter working for all of the "this is an automated archive" posts from reddit. They're pretty useless to me, as there's very rarely any engagement, and they tend to show up en masse when a community decides to just mass archive from reddit.

    I've attempted to set up a keyword filter with "automated" "automated archive" and "this is an automated archive" but with no success. I assume the keyword filters are only looking at the title text, not the description. Is setting a filter like this possible at present time?


    Being flashbanged by my fingerprint sensor

    Hey folks. Got a pixel 7 pro, and it's been alright, except suddenly, if I press the fingerprint sensor on the lock screen for just a split second, it makes the WHOLE SCREEN go full-brightness, with a green tinge. I know it's always lit up the scanner area, which is all it lights up if I hold the sensor, but if I release it early it's actually very uncomfortable. Any suggestions besides the obvious "don't let go 5head"? Is this an android version bug, a hardware issue? Anyone else had this happen?

    Edit: autocorrect

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    why is there a weird carpeted step in my closet?

    I just moved into a new house, and it has a weird step in the bottom of the closet, that is covered in carpet. I've seen this before, and it could just be coincidence, but is there possibly a weird architecture or design reason for this, or is it just a quirk?