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It's not a problem until someone tells you to not refer to them as a dude or a guy. If you continue, you are just an asshole 🤷🏻
Sure, but we're talking plurals of strangers atm. "Please don't call me a guy going forward" is a different conversation than "what you just said is stupid, mean, and wrong".
It's the same picture?
No it really isn't. One clearly and directly communicates a need. The other response shies away from that and insults without explaining why.
Drag... Supposes, that's how it would look without applying much empathy. But if someone gets called something and says it's bad, it must be clear they don't like it. If they're angry, that's a kind of upset. It means they could be hurting. Drag would understand no matter how someone phrased it.
If the other party is 3, then yes. From adults I expect ability to differentiate between stating a need and throwing a tantrum.
Drag is very forgiving when a trans person is upset they've been misgendered. Growing up as the wrong gender is traumatic. It can literally give you cPTSD and personality disorders. Being triggered because you feel like you're back in that situation is a completely understandable response. Drag uses gender neutral "guys", but acknowledges that it's a dangerous practice, and if you hurt someone then you need to own it. They don't owe anyone politeness in that moment. If drag didn't like that responsibility, drag wouldn't take risks with other people's mental health.
Out of curiosity, have your therapist told you ever about the dangers of using third person pronoun when expressing yourself? Like it strengthens the disassociation between you and your body and mind, etc. etc? If not, please change them.
This is coming from a genuine place, I'm not trying to be sarcastic or mean.
Fortunately, drag doesn't use third person pronouns for dragself. You assumed they were third person because you're only used to seeing that conjugation with third person. But conjugation doesn't have a relationship to grammatical person in English. One form of conjugation can apply in multiple persons.
Your facts are not what OP wrote, though. And in this context the facts are relevant, which is the point.
Bad red herring.
We don't know what happened. What makes you think that what op wrote isn't the facts. I can totally see something like that happening it's not at all unbelievable.
Or, just maybe. The person remarking is an asshole. It gives off the same energy as correcting grammar when talking with someone.
Why does the other persons energy matter? If someone requests not to be called something and you continue to call them that then you are kinda being a jerk. It's not the same as correcting someone's grammar.
Cause it's rude. Like correcting grammar in a conversation. Both would be equally rude.
Nobody wants to be told that what they've learned and have been taught to them their whole life is now an offense. Just like nobody wants to be misgendered on purpose.
It gives off the same energy as correcting grammar when talking with someone.
Is this a personal attack?
There is a time and a place for it. Just not when you want someone to agree with or like you. 🙂
Sir, you're an officer of the law. You can't help but be who you are. It's ok to own it.
It’s just as much not a problem for them to be offended by it as it is for you to choose your words better. Knowing that you made a choice to offend so yeah, you’re the jerk. You’re honestly making a lot more of it if you went all this distance to think you’re the one hard done by just cuz you refuse to memorize some words. That’s snowflake thinking.
Only bad actors looking for the drama go for the path of most resistance.
Changing the language you intuitively use is hard
There are harder things in life that are actually worth complaining about. Growing your brain isn’t one of them.
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