The movie 'Waiting' has a character whose entire arc is them trying to get over urinal anxiety while working one crazy shift at an Applebee's clone.
Early Ryan Reynolds. Some of the humor hasn't aged well, but it shines a light on the service industry for those that haven't worked in a kitchen/bar/restaurant.
Why is this post full of people who are seemingly overtly defensive over the idea of urinals? Did I miss something? The comic is a joke. Every other poster here trying to make sure everyone knows they can and will always use a urinal. An ode of fragile masculinity.
I'm here trying to understand what's wrong with urinals lmao
This reply makes me feel defensive and outraged.
"Nice watch!"
This cartoon can't exist. Urinal etiquette requires:
That you should have one empty urinal between you and the next guy if at all possible. And always go to the nearest open urinal when you enter.
And that you look straight ahead and never look to either side of you. You must stare solely at the wall straight ahead of you. Thoughtful establishments hang pictures or current sales flyers at eye level to look at while peeing.
And most of all, you must never speak to anyone in there. So there is absolutely no way this cartoon can happen in the real world.
if at all possible
I hate that I'm arguing the reality of a comic world, but we can't see the rest of the wall. We don't know if there's 2/3 urinals total, making it impossible to leave a buffer urinal between them.
Also, without considering it a "rule" I leave an empty urinal between as well, but I don't go as far as resorting to using a stall if I only have to pee. That's just silly...
A silly comic often leads to a silly discussion. Sometimes you just need to run with it. Or in the words-- Don't hate the playa, hate the game.
You're kidding yourself. The norm in American bars is to have two urinals whose porcelain touches, and everyone pees with their buddy while having a bombastic chat.
You must spend a fair amount of time in bars to be so wise. Bars and even restaurants have limited floor space so they can often have just one urinal and you wait your turn. And I have never had anyone even try to talk to me in a bar or restaurant restroom. Why would they? We are there to drink and eat, not discuss philosophy.
Because everyone everywhere always follows etiquette without fail?
I cover big public board meetings as part of my job, and when I go on breaks, I tend to use the bathroom, because I am a person. Without fail, someone will come in and talk to me while I'm pissing. I don't personally care, I was in the Marines for a bit and they beat all of that out of you (i.e., a room with eight toilets and that's it, no walls, nothing, just eight toilets, four on each wall so you can face each other). Regardless though, I never walk in and talk to someone randomly, so it's strange to me that others do it to me. I guess I just look like a nice guy.
Dem's the rules.....Follow them or become the outcast.
Jes it is an instinct, written into the Male DNA...
Legend has it that alpha males stand in front of each other when they pee, looking straight into each other's eyes and sometimes arm wrestling with their free hand.
That's pretty thoughtful to put drink dispensers next to portapotty's.
Lmao, of course there's a relevant SNL
Just don't shake it more than twice while its in your hand and the police needn't be involved
I lived in a house once that had a urinal and it was the best thing ever, especially for the first pee of the day. Normalize home urinals!
I just pee outside.
Use a urinal while wearing shorts and you'll change your opinion. I avoid them as much as I can preferring to sit, but sometimes that option is worse than the urinal..
Well, it doesn't work so well with morning wood, but at all other times I aim toward the bottom so the pee's hitting the back wall at less than about a 30° angle. I guess compared to sitting there's gonna be more splash back, but even with shorts I don't really notice anything. I'm sure it'd be different if you power blast the wall or base at 90°.
Well. This comic certainly isn't making it easier.
Why are you reading comics at the urinal while you're trying to pee?
My trick for dealing with "blushing bladder" is a Palovian response on myself. I realized I had certain pee triggers. Long story short, there are certain places and situations that cause me to need to urinate. So I figured why not use a word as a trigger? While at home I began saying the trigger word just as I felt the flow begin. Every time I pee, I say the word. My blushing bladder went away. Some of the music venues i frequent have urinals literally elbow to elbow so it's awkward but there's no trouble when I say the trigger word. The only problem now is people look at me weird when I'm looking at my dick saying "shazam".
I just push really hard and force the pee out like a fucking man.
I read on reddit one time—years and years ago—that doing simple multiplication can help occupy the part of your brain keeping you from pissing. A sequence like 2x2=4, 4x4=16, 16x16=256...etc.
I've been doing that ever since, and it really helps. Usually by the time I get to doing 16x16 in my head, I'm already peeing.
I do the same type of thing, but I just swish saliva around in my mouth. For some reason that gets my mind off it and next thing I know, I'm peeing.
Gomer, is that you?
Surprise, surprise, surprise!
I don't understand why they don't just install partitions. One that goes from the very bottom to the very top. A thin plank would do it. Not these 50cm pseudo partitions. That's why I prefer to use a cabin when a lot of people are peeing.
Snowflake. Need more urinal troughs and communal showers.
no, not partitions. Urinal booths. I want to be isolated from other men when I have my dick out.
Come to our uni. Each toilets at our faculty have the first cabin be a urinal for some reason. Real nice if you a re a shy pisser.
Count the number of tiles in front of you, solve some math problems in your head, think about what to do next saturda- shit, some guy just moved next to me. Is he looking? Maybe I should pull out my phone and check lemmy. ...but then people will think I'm recording them piss, and the fact that I'm still not pissing will further justify their suspicions. Maybe I should just pretend to have a small coughing fit and that's why I can't pee. But then people will start looking, and maybe even worry I'll spray them accidentally. Oh the guy finished peeing. I'll just wait until he leaves the room then. Oh another guy just entered. Well, he doesn't know anything so I'll just pretend I finished peeing and hold it in for the rest of the day.
The only solution that realiably has worked for years for me is to ignore the standing pee spots and just go the the pooper cabin and pee there. Done. Works every time. Sometimes it gets weird waiting for one to open when the standing pee spot is available but the alternative is worse.
Look at the tiles and imagine the grout lines are an infinite grid of 1 ohm resistors. I wonder what the resistance is between two points a knight's move apart...dammit I've been standing here for hours again
This guy ohm's
I always look at the smallest distinct shape at the wall in front of me (spots mostly do the trick) and start imagine shapes in it, like looking at the clouds. The world around me then just zoom out and everything turns liquid. Don't even need drugs 😄 Though a couple of beers help immensly
I sometimes think that maybe as a society we'd be better off relaxing nudity taboos or something.
For me its the pressure of someone waiting to use it after me, especially when its a lot of people like a packed pub or break time at a show/live music/event etc.
The amount of times if have pretended to have finished, gone washed my hands a walk out only to wait 10mins to go try again...it's not that it's just that public toilets are an uneasy place and therefore it's hard to relax, especially when standing up at a urinal instead of sitting down
You usually sit down at urinals?
I dunno even pets like dogs have to make eye contact with their owner while shitting to feel comfortable and they know nothing of our puritanical ways.
Most dogs view their humans as pack alphas, and in nature they feel vulnerable to attack while they're shitting. So they look to the alpha to see that they're safe. They don't so much want you to watch them as to look beyond and behind them so they can see your reaction if something starts approaching.
I upvoted, but mine's a sighthound and she don't care...
Only sometimes?
Totally agree. Or maybe there could be a little fig leaf dispenser by the urinals so all the shy guys can hide their junk from god whilst they micturate.
The only evidence of the "grand gay conspiracy" people keep talking about is the existence of bath-tub (multi-user) urinals.
I haven't seen one of those since I was a kid when my redneck racist homophobic dad would drag us to the dirt track to watch other drunk rednecks race each other in their first track cars... Hang on...
Yea nah, that is not a sexy situation.
I would have thought trough over tub... but i guess that depends entirely on the type of multi-user you're going for...
Whoever drew this, had never gone to an urinal in his life
Oh my god, they've died???
You do know it's not a requirement to use the urinal, they also have private pee booths as well.
That's where they get ya
Us normal pissers also listen to the booths when we suspect a weener-holder.
That's why I act like I'm pooping. I'll sit down and make grunt noises while aiming my piss at the side of the bowl so no one hears I'm actually peeing. Because that's less embarrassing than knowing you all think I'm too afraid to piss in front of you. I even pull toilet paper out and wipe it on my thigh so all you actual Weiner holders believe I'm wiping my ass. Who's the fool now? Not only was I too afraid to pee in front of you, I convinced you I was taking a manly shit while you probably nodded in approval at the other Weiner holders next to you. Check mate.
That's why randomly drop change into the bowl to make people think I'm doing a twozy.
Yeah if you want to wait a lot longer
I said. I can't HEAR YOU PISS!
I've never used a urinal. it's weird and also some of them are disgusting, they almost guarantee splashback
edit: are, not ate
If you're eating at a urinal you're doing something wrong
What are you talking about. They even have that cake there for you to eat while you pee.
lol
"Nice watch"
I can’t get the ur-eye-nal pronunciation from disco elysium out of my head
Do people really struggle this much to urinate? It seems crazy to not be able perform a basic bodily function like this. I honestly had no idea. Though, I do question why one of these two isn't following basic urinal etiquette. One stall between, otherwise use a toilet, otherwise wash your hands first and then, if no one has moved, you're allowed to ride side saddle.
Some dude used a urinal right next to me with five urinals available, and I stared at him until I finished. He never looked at me. Come to think of it, I don't know if he started peeing until I was done, but that seems like an edge case. His fault though.
Edit: wow, given the quick downvotes, it looks like it's more common than I thought here on Lemmy, and it appears I touched a nerve! Lol
I'm going to start bringing a stopwatch into the bathroom and very obviously start it when someone sidles up to the urinal. 😆
I don't know what age you are, but if you're too young not to have known, some people have medical conditions that make them struggle to pee.
I don't think this is medical conditions. I think it's just people shy about urinating. I just didn't realize how common it was.
Questioning is also not allowed.
Lemmy is a silly place.
It's proving to be Reddit without the random intellectuals.
It's not a choice. It's like some primal instinct or something.
Edit: urinals don't typically bother me but if you try to talk I'm done. Can't do the troughs. It's not insecurity it's just a little privacy and peace is nice.
Also never had an issue with urinals. I can also talk to others while peeing. But I'm also used to be nude at the sauna. If there's sufficient urinals available I keep at least one free but if someone stands next to me, I don't care.
stopwatch
Try it at home, too. It takes 21 seconds to pee. It's freakishly accurate throughout the animal Kingdom. My theory on shy bladder is that our brains know how long it takes, so when we take a while to start, everything compiles and we get nervouser and nervouser as we approach that 21 second limit.
I just use the stalls, but that's mainly because I'm self conscious about my peeper, and I've seen enough cruising in the men's room porn to be worried about Looky loos /s
While I've said no one is paying attention to you if you're not peeing -- and I think it's largely true, I've never really noticed if someone doesn't start peeing; I guess I would just assume they were stealth peeing against the side of the urinal -- I have to admit I do notice those old guys that stand there for like five minutes leaking it out a spurt at a time. They seem to defy the 21 second rule.
