Divorce rate may be too low.
It's that the marriage rate has been too high for a long time.
That, and people become economicly dependent. They tried UBI when Nixon was president (I know right) and it was considered a failure because the divorce rate went up. What later studies showed was that the divorce rate went up because women in abusive or dead end relationships were finally empowered to leave the spouses they had become depend on.
it might be about to rise
Might be a good idea to divorce now before the conservative supreme court screws up that option too.
Not if Republicans get their way.
How the hell are people married to people they are so afraid to share their beliefs and opinions with?
People change, sometimes drastically. But also people can pretend to be someone they are not. I know a few people who had to experience this kind of thing. Really fucks up your trust in people and your own judgement.
My ex. Jesus Christ man.
She moved in and adopted my whole personality. Naturally, her own personality was fighting to surface and a person can’t bury who they are forever.
After more than a decade, she just lost it. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever experienced, and you’re spot on about it fucking up trust in other people. It doesn’t have to, but it does take work.
In the middle of the chaos that was the collapse of my entire life, I remember one line from a letter she wrote me. “I feel more like myself than I have in a very long time. I know that’s probably hard for you to read.”
She had BPD too, so for three years, one moment I was god, the next she was sitting up in the bed at the end of an overall great day and saying, “I’m sorry. I just don’t love you anymore.”
She wanted nothing to do with me until I found someone else. She lost her damn mind, tried to kill herself, ended up hospitalized for mental health. That got her family involved and we had to fight them for our kid in court. It’s crazy how easy it is for a family member to kidnap your child. They told the magistrate that I held my family hostage with a knife, got a restraining order, and I just had to wait until court knowing that our daughter was scared to death and living through a nightmare on top of a nightmare.
Somehow, the woman I’m with survived all of that chaos with me. I figured she’d get tired of me driving out in the middle of the night over and over again to make sure my ex didn’t actually hurt herself.
Once she got to be herself though, she was alright. She met someone more like her. She went from laying in bed all the time hating herself and her life to taking care of things that she couldn’t before. She never got a drivers license and she was finally able to do that. She never cleaned and when I worked a lot our place was trashed, but her last place was immaculate. Poor girl died of breast cancer 4 years after we split. I wish she had left me years before honestly, so she’d have had a chance to really live.
Life is a mess. Some people do make it hard to trust other people, but we have to carry on and do our best. We’ve gotta work so that problem isn’t everyone else’s problem.
I have done my best to keep from carrying all that baggage into the relationship I’m in. I do my best to encourage her to just be herself. We get one short life, and I don’t want to have a hand in ruining it for anyone. Go see your friends, go be with your family. Don’t sit here alone because I do. Keep building your life outside of me. Maintain something of the world you lived in before you moved to ours.
Sorry for the book. I guess I needed to spit it out of my head again. I could write on this topic for several years straight and I still wouldn’t run out of shit to say about it. :p
People can also marry someone for reasons that they think are positive, but end up being a horrible negative. Sometimes people marry someone because the other person is stable and takes care of things but then it turns out that they are extremely controlling too but it wasn't obvious until later on.
My partner's ex is like this. She claims that he used to be nice but I've only ever known him as an absolute failure. I can't imagine him as anything other than a vibrating ball of undirected rage. He spends most of his time being angry that he can't get a better job, but he's totally unprepared to do anything that might help him get a better job by getting training in something.
"Spinster" is still a thing in a lot of places. A woman who can't find a husband is looked down on. Also, those are the places where men who are 'weak' are looked down on. Community is a powerful thing, which is why so many LGBTQ kids flee their home towns as soon as they can.
Religious oppression in the vast majority of cases.
Archaic societal expectations
Kids
Trapped.
Loneliness is a motherfucker.
Southern abstinence-only education resulting in ludicrous amounts of teen-pregnancy and dependence on the first man available.
my god you're right. it's astounding how subordinate women are down there. the life goal of around 80% OR MORE of those women is get pregnant before 20 and marry. it's sad and compounds a lot of problems. it's a swath of population the world would be better off without.
the rabbit hole is so deep down there. is it the oppressive religion that leads them all to be so problematic for society? maybe it's the shitty education? maybe it's the oppressive patriarchy? maybe the women want that hellish life as much as the men? is it the conservative culture?
in the end, you just kinda have to say to yourself "i don't know and i don't care. burn it all down"
Ecosia being extremely basedyes
in a world
Immediately starts reading in trailer voice
Lmao. Thanks for that memory necro.
That clip is ancient
The top autocomplete for "can my wife" is "can my wife carry my gun" in case you were interested.
"Can my husband" is, in fact, the voting question.
Presumably those auto completes are tailored to each user.
I'm using Firefox Focus on a VPN, so it's not customized to me.
I rarely use google and my results are the same
Google searches are highly customized to your profile. Either you, OP, or both are logged into your accounts.
Not me, I am using a clean session in Firefox Focus on a VPN specifically to avoid results tailored to me. I'm very careful about what I search for on Google while logged in.
That dog is judging the hypothetical husband here
And rightly so
I thought this might have been exaggerated, so I tested it out myself. I got as far as "Can my hu" before Google gave me a list of suggestions. At the top was "can my husband find out who I voted for."
I guess in one sense it's a good thing that this many people are trying to make sure that they can vote the way they want? In another sense...for fuck's sake. How the fuck are so many people so backwards???
I'm a bit confused and concerned about why people would think that their partner would be able to find out who they voted for. Isn't it well known that elections are private?
Same here on Kagi and DDG except it wasn't at the top
Or, much more likely, it became a meme and most of the people searching it are doing so for the same reason you are, like everything else that 'goes viral' on the Internet in 2024.
Don't be so gullible.
P.S. Also in the top recommendations is "can my husband baptize me?" This is truly a situation that also affects millions upon millions of women. Or maybe Google trends don't actually mean shit in the real world.
Here's what I got with duckduckgo
"Can my husband drink my milk"
I'm assuming this is about breast milk, but all I can think of is someone losing their absolute shit because their partner drank from the wrong carton of milk.
"I WROTE MY NAME ON IT, MICHAEL! MY NAME! IT'S MY PROPERTY! YOU'VE STOLEN A GLUG OF MILK! THAT'S ILLEGAL!"
Once you're married it's our milk anyway.
while signed out of any account and with cookies cleared
I got the same result, also not logged in w/cookies cleared.
I ran the test with DuckDuckGo and did get "can my husband find out who I voted for", though it was near the bottom of the auto-completes.
Women who use duckduckgo are probably not the ones who live in the modern Handmaid's tale that we have in large parts of America.
I think this may have something to do with it: Julia Roberts ad telling women they can secretly vote for Harris pisses off Newt Gingritch
Can my husband on lycos.com... wtf:
Hmm maybe Lycos shows personalized results?
As I wrote not my cup of tea and I didn't use lycos before.
Have you ever tried human milk? It's sugary deliciousness.
It's awfully sweet. Maybe it tastes better with compound V.
https://youtu.be/O59GvPvtyXM?t=27
You made my d-a-ayyyy! 🎶
In a world where Elon can make himself trending so can other influential people
…and it should possibly be a question for divorce.
A lot of the images people posting here show a bleak picture in general.
Can my husband sell my car without me? Can my husband force me to sell my house? JFC.
It only matters if people are educated enough to understand why it’s important.
There are widely available options as it is. The majority of people don’t care at best. And get offended at the notion of using them at worst.
Can my wife be a dependant
Can my wife carry my gun
Can my wife deposit my check
And
Can my wife live on base with me
That's the flip side...
And still people seems to not care the slightest about protection (messaging, sharing, ...) 🤷🏼♀️
Hahaha, yeah, right. That's exactly what's going to happen.
End to end encryption have little to do with domestic violence. Come on, y'all know better.
