To retire. I'm not even 40 yet but I dread going to work every morning. I don't even hate my work - I just don't feel like even the relatively good salary I get is enough to compensate for the lost time.
I think I know what you mean. I've hit a phase where time spent at work feels like wasted time, since it's not time I got to spend doing something I wanted to be doing. Which is really contrary to the usual philosophy that time not spent money is wasted.
I've switched jobs gone back to school etc, but no matter what once something becomes a mandatory routine that time feels like a waste. I'm starting to really value and cherish the seconds I actually have control over.
This feeling gets worse when you realize that the time we have is a limited, non-renovating and exhaustible resource. We give this away for money over and over until we run out. Depressing as fuck.
I took 9 months off work (well kinda I did some freelance shit but I mostly got to not work). I did eventually get bored but it took 6 of those 9 months to actually get bored lol. It may have been different if I had enough money to do whatever I wanted but, I had enough to survive.
Yeah. I don't necessarily even want to retire right now, it's more that hanging axe feeling that I'm never going to be able to, between decreasing purchasing power and increasing age requirements for retirement benefits. Makes it hard to get motivated to work knowing I'm going to have to keep doing it until I'm in my grave.
To be happy. Depression is hell.
I'm sorry to hear that my guy
Honestly same.
I just want to be happy (◞‸◟)
The first step to happiness is to have hope. Think about a lifelong dream of your's, and then form a plan on how to achieve it.
Walking again would be nice.
Socialism and stability. I want to persue my passions without needing to devote half of my waking hours to a job (which all are incredibly mentally draining for me), and without fear of not having my basic needs met, and I want everyone else to have the same opportunity. A job should be supplimental if people choose to work, which many will, as they feel it gives them purpose.
A post-scarcity society and the death of corruption would be cool too.
Yeah it's always strange to me that most people are working class yet most people are so allergic to the idea of socialism, thanks Russia
P r o p a g a n d a
Also the history of centralized control over industry hasn't worked out too well. I'm more of the Richard Wolff philosophy of democracy over the workplace, along with a very strong social safety net, including, but not limited to a UBI that is enough for people to comfortably live on.
I just wanna like chill with no responsibilities or overhead for a bit
I keep thinking about how retirement is only.... 30 years away. Yup. Only 30 more years then I get a few where I don't have to do the mundane drudgery.
Live in a country where I can legally marry my boyfriend, have a little nice place and not be bothered by people.
I want to go to sleep
For how long?
Until I wake up naturally instead of by an alarm clock or a cat attacking my toes
To not have to work another day in my life. Sure I could say to be excessively wealthy but I'm happy with satisfying basic needs and living in my simple home. All I want is to be able to wake up every day without the crushing burden of having to keep a job that keeps the spectre of starvation and homelessness away for another few days.
Hug from someone who cares ༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ
I don't know why but this one make me cry... I think i also meed a hug ༼ つ ◕‿◕ ༽つ
A cure for my arthritis, I'm tired of it and it's fucking uncurable.
I haven't been able to work most of the last two months due to h medication change. Wheees drug roulette. Incidentally, I woke up because prednisone makes sleeping fun.
You're not alone, though I'd take deletion over a cure at this point.
I want to be happy.
Came here to say something similar. Currently hating life and fantasizing how I'd quit my job and burn this bridge
To stop doom scrolling, get off this toilet and to bed
Hello, are you in bed yet?
Boyfriend
Same. Feels hopeless sometimes.
Some freakin lotion dude my hands have alligator skin rn fr
To go back to sleep for another few hours
Stability. Life has been so tumultuous this past year and I just want things to level out.
For my husband and I to experience even just one day without back pain. It’s debilitating.
Sleep on the floor, assuming your mattress is trash.
You probably won't sleep well, and your back is going to scream when you get up in the morning because you're trying to sleep on a firm surface the way you sleep on a plush bed, but the pain will dissipate shortly thereafter.
We don't know what causes their sore back though.
I used to have years of chronic back pain, sleeping on hard floor did not help. Chiropractor didn't either.
I had a few sessions of japanese muscle and bone allignment treatment and that healed me. That was nearly 10 years ago now.
To escape this person who I was born as, and who they've become. To find some peace, some tranquility, and devote my life to that. To feel something good without the depression radiating from the background.
I would like to know how it feels to be competent at a job - any job. In my four decades on this earth I still haven't managed to find out what I want to be when I grow up. I've had many jobs over the years but never ever felt like I was decent at any of them. They're usually the kinds of jobs people don't want to do so I'm decently job-secure despite my ineptitude.
I just want to say that paid employment doesn't need to be what defines you. A lot of people never 'find their passion' or 'follow their dream'. It's very ok to just work for money. You don't need to be a superstar at work. You can just enjoy the paycheck part of the job. Just do something to make money, that's fine. You probably underestimate the value of just showing up regularly, even if you think the quality of your work is below what you want, literally just showing up on time and doing the job is putting you ahead of at least half the people who do those jobs.
Thanks for your kind words! Very much appreciated. I do struggle with self esteem and valuing myself but this is more about feeling competent than confident. I don't need to be the best in my field or anything, but it'd be nice to have contributed at least something worthwhile other than just the everyday grind.
Ever heard about the Dunning-Kruger effect?
Sure, and impostor syndrome. But both of those are supposed to be transient, and people eventually ease into their roles and lose their doubts about their abilities. That never happened to me. I've also never stuck around anywhere long enough to get promoted above rank and file so I don't have a single worthwhile achievement to put on my CV for prospective future employers.
On top of that, I'm fairly sure my current job will not even exist in a year or 5 due to AI, so I'm already looking for a completely different alternative/field unrelated to my current one.
To be loved.
Social cues are a bitch.
Yes, yes they are
A job and a decent earning.
I want to live my life as I want it
Sadly, capitalism doesn't agree
"Hey everyone, let's build a system where we spend the vast majority of our time working for others so we can make enough money to just get by and occasionally have a vacation!"
In retrospect, this was not a great plan.
Achievable desire? To finally be in a stable place in my life so I can be together with the people I love, and finally have friends again. Might be bisexual, and my wife is totally open to a polyamorous relationship for me to figure that out, so tbh finding that out and maybe gaining a long term boyfriend is also high on my list of desires.
Unachievable though? I want to miraculously recover from all my disabilities and health conditions so I can finally be normal. I want to stop relying on meds to keep me from turning into a batshit crazy nutcase every time I miss even a single dose. Or at least be able to take those meds every night without issue because of my damaged throat refusing to swallow nearly anything I put in my mouth except the most miniscule pills without choking and vomiting them back up. And I want to be able to operate my muscles like a normal person again, something which my meds have thoroughly fucked with, with nothing helping in the slightest. I straight up can't even move my legs if my cat's on top of them. He weighs barely 10 lbs. Plus I get sick constantly even when nobody around me is and nobody knows why. Last month alone I got sick about 6 times. I was only feeling relatively ok for about 3 days total.
The good news, I guess, is every single one of my more achievable goals are well in sight. Just a few months ago they'd all be buried deep in with the unachievable ones, so things are improving little by little.
Things have certainly vastly improved since about 3 years ago, when I couldn't even will myself out of bed. So as whiney as I sound, I'm actually quite happy with where I am and where I'm going.
Here's to getting all those achievable goals!
On the pill front, is it possible to crush them and mix with something more easily swallowable?
Some of them I can, and do. Others aren't crushable. With my doctors help I was able to get all the most important pills to be either crushable or dissolvable, and the rest are really small. Usually I've been able to get through them fine lately, but there have been nights I had to skip anything I had to swallow because I couldn't get them down.
Actually, it does occur to me that I was offered one of my meds in liquid form and rejected it once because it tastes awful and the pills were already small. I should probably ask for that so I have a little less to swallow every night.
A work-life balance honestly. I've been working 12s every day this year and I'm missing out on my hobbies and my family. Financially I'm fine, but I'm gearing up for an early retirement so I don't know if I can slow down now. So hard to make time for things I actually enjoy now. Basically just want to hit that balance so I have a fulfilling life.
Without knowing the background: that sounds very dangerous. What's the point of early retirement if you're completely worn out?
Well a lot of the time those 12 hr shifts are involuntary. I work in a manufacturing plant and they basically dictate your life. Shiftwork is killer too
To retire early and then take a nap.
To be home, with my wife.
The problem with finding a perfect person, is having to spend time away from them.
Someone said to me the other day when I shared about a similar feeling with them
Having to spend time apart gives you both time how much you miss each other and cherish the time you spend with another
Just lay on my bed all day browsing the internet. I hope I could have such a life
Moving on with my life.
I'm near the end of my PhD. I've been at this lab for 5 years, as I joined before beginning my PhD, and I've been at the same university for 11ish years since I started my bachelor's. I deliver my thesis in April if all goes well, and can't wait to see what life has in store for me elsewhere.
I love most of my coworkers, but a few drive me nuts (and everyone else, too, and I tend to be a good mediator so I always end up in a position where I'm the only one who tries to help the troublesome guys). My main supervisor moved to another country a few years ago, and the one that took me in (the only other person with PhD students in the whole lab) hates my project (she has explicitly said so) and can't wait to get me to work on what everyone else is working on. Meanwhile my other supervisor (the one that moved) has recommended that I let go of the few responsibilities I had in this lab (apart from my project), which is a good decision, but has made me feel like I no longer belong here. Since I'm also retracting a bit to work on some papers, I feel increasingly isolated even though I love my coworkers.
Can't wait to finally get this over with and have an actual career in a lab where people don't hate my project, or even an industry job where I can feel like I actually make a difference. I'm also a bit fed up with the conditions in my country and would like to try moving somewhere where nanotech is actually in demand, like the Netherlands or something. Maybe I'll even risk a dramatic move to Asia!
Are you also read as female? Because then your boss might just feel that you steal her show. Academia is highly competitive for women and maybe you can try to mitigate that by finding out what you can do to get on her sunny side.
In my experience if people hate (very strong word!) projects at work, it's usually rather the case that they're unhappy with their own work and project this jealousy onto others.
Usually happens within the same gender, or between people who identify as binary against enbies.
I'm sorry, I am fully male-presenting (and was assigned male at birth - which is relevant as my boss is super conservative and would not tolerate a trans person in her office. The LGBTQ lay low here).
My supervisor, however, IS read as female, and I fully suspect that she is who my boss has a problem with. Especially after she left, as my boss saw this as a personal betrayal of sorts. And since my own project is inexorably linked to my supervisor, I get these reactions by association.
Get a Japanese wife 😏
Not the answer I was expecting, but I did come out of a break up recently so whatever life has in store for me I guess
Eat something healthy.
Love. But, it takes time.
Sleep, uninterrupted sleep.
I'd like to know what to do next. I'm at a juncture in my career - my current gig is dragging me down, and I think I kinda maneuvered myself into a disadvantageous position.
Since forever, I've been a developer, sometimes leading small teams, sometimes working in committees on data interchange formats for the industry sector. Two years ago, I had the opportunity for a position as enterprise architect in a large corporation. Truth is, I still just have theoretical knowledge of what I'm supposed to be doing and feel like I'm floundering pretty bad. And corporate life is sucking out the joy in my life - so much time spent asking around what to do to adhere to process. But on the other hand, I am doing quite well financially.
Building things gives me joy - even if it's just doing a little optimization to shave off a few milliseconds off a database request. Sitting in meetings and going over spreadsheets is not joyful. It's been so long since I've been in the zone editing code. Generally, it's been about 3 years since I've been coding. I've been considering going back, but I have no idea how to spin it in interviews - and my coding skills are dead.
Your coding skills are not dead. I have been in dev since the late 90s and find myself managing a few dev teams (some have a manager that "reports" to me, some are herds of cats and I just try to explain their behaviour to others). I regularly find myself in meetings where "why isn't this done yet" is the topic and the developer is stuck on a technical issue. Despite not even being that fluent in a particular language I can often point out things they should do or two that lead to determining the root cause. I'm also often in conversations about optimizing systems.
That sort of thinking is programming. Typing instructions into an editor is probably the least interesting part of the job.
At your level, you can make deep and broad impacts by designing systems that work, are easy to integrate with, run smoothly, etc. You can empower and inspire tons of people.
Yes, meetings can suck and the report I'm currently working on feels like an exercise in futility, but there's so much more to the job.
The level I'm at right now is so abstract that I hardly ever even see the applications themselves or have contact with the developing teams. When I am dealing with an application, it's just an acronym supporting a list of business capabilities. Any effect I could have is extremely intangible.
I'm aware of the fact that this is just like developing software but on a very, very high level. And I thought I would like it, and I hoped it would get better after I acclimatized to the company. But I'm realizing I am uncomfortable with the level of abstraction, and that I hate corporate politics.
Something else - if you've ever had imposter syndrome as a developer, imagine what it's like as an enterprise architect!
To find somebody to love and that would reciprocate that love.
I had it at one point in time with 2 people, but they passed away 2 days apart from each other.
I hope to be able to find love like that again.
I'm sorry brother (or sister)
Resign and start to do some wild freelancer work where almost every day is different
If only there was a freelance job as drugtester, that would be pretty wild lol
Who are you, Lucifer? Whatever it is I want I'm not trading my soul for it, sorry.
Bruv I think I might. My soul doesn’t have a shitty back, I’d understand.
To have a programming job. I just got a bachelors degree for it and the job hunt is depressing.
Runner up: to know what I want. I have no idea what I want or how to proceed, except get a job.
To finally propose to my girlfriend. Bad family circumstances have stopped that as of late, but I'd like to not worry anymore about it and just move on with my damn life...
Gummi bears.
To tell my friend that I love her
To be calm. I'm in a constant state of panic. I don't know what to do because the pills aren't really working... I have awfully bad anxiety.
To make something of myself. I had a decent paying job that I recently quit because I felt it was a waste of my time and skills. I'm passionate and I want to learn to grow.
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To have a good manager and better support at work. It would make my job much more engaging and I'd be more productive too.
getting taller and taller, i mean im already tall but I want more height
How high are you?
5'10'' (that's super tall in my country)
For the girl I was really into to come back so I could talk to her one last time.
To retire or change my job. If you want to get into IT, never become a sysadmin if you don't absolutely love your job. I'm overqualified and with every day I do sneaker admin stuff, I stray further from the actual prestigious software engineering job I wanted in the first place.
I moved from IT to software engineering. My deepest desire is also to retire or change my job. lol
Honestly, I just want to work on whatever I want to work on. I'm so tired of building other peoples' bullshit. I miss enjoying this work.
I moved from IT to software engineering. My deepest desire is also to retire or change my job. lol
Grass is always greener on the retirement side.
Same, same.
Sleep
For my worldbuilding and writing to take off. I want to animate the history of my world, and it's something I want to do full time, but it's a lot of money + time investment. Also live somewhere that I'm not constantly looking over my shoulder. Shit neighbors suck.
What cool and creative desire, that's inspiring I hope you find a way to do it! And share it!
To get a job I want.
But, right right right now, my desire is that my computer doesn't get herpes after I finish downloading this thing
What are you downloading?
To be better with my money. I have no idea why it's so hard for me to save.
What have you tried so far?
To have enough money where i can live comfortably on the interest
