If there is no heaven or after life, what is the point of living?
(If you have anxiety about death then maybe you shouldn't read this post, just letting you know!)
Edit: Thank you guys for being so quick to post your comments and give your thoughts, it makes me wish I said something sooner rather than dealing with it on my own. You guys are seriously awesome, and have made me want to fight way harder to be a better person for my friends and family, and everyone else around me. I think tonight I'll finally be able to sleep, and I'm looking forward for tomorrow and to be able to talk to my Dad about how I'm feeling and what I'm thinking about all this, and to spend as much time with him as I can. Take care of yourself guys! And again, thank you so, so much. I seriously feel way better and my anxiety is a lot less now.
Before joining Lemmy I used to be a devoted Christian since my family raised me as one and have been Christians for generations. And to add important context, I'm not talking about judge mental homophobic trump supporting Christians that judge gays and everyone else they see who don't live the way they live. I'm talking about being a real follower of Christ who loves thy neighbor and knows we have no right to judge, not what most church's are today who just exist to make a profit. My family are bible based Christians and raised me as one too, not by propaganda machines. (Or at least the propaganda that politicians or "Church's" who exploit vulnerable people for their money like to spread around. The "buy my book to change your life" or "plant your $1000 seed" type of shenanigans makes me sick.)
Anywhoo, while being on Lemmy and learning a lot about U.S. politics I just have never seen on other social media sites like X and Reddit, and talking about science, capitalism, global warming, and so on and so fourth with the incredible people on here, it has really broaden my view on certain subjects and be a lot more open to a lot more ideas, one of which is Atheism.
I haven't thought about it too much, but recently my Grandfather died and so my emotions and thoughts have wandered about him and about loosing someone I care a lot about, and then a question popped into my head; is he truly in a "better place"? Do they actually go somewhere? What will happen to my Dad?
After that random thought, my brain has kind of spiraled out of control about this topic and I haven't been able to sleep well since I've been having anxiety thinking about death. What is the point if all of life (our life) is truly just our brains, and our brain stops working? Is it really just, nothingness? What is the point of making all these amazing memories with family and friends that I cherish more than anything in the world, if all these memories are going to be forgotten? Whether its today, or 80 years from now? With this ideology, when I stop breathing, I will quite literally become nothing. There will be nothing. I am dead. It's made me into this "why should I care" mood about almost everything.
I think I've kind of made my anxiety worse during the last few nights since I also decided to look up what its like to die and what scientists have said about the topic, whoops! Turns out our brain can still think 2-15 minutes after our hearts stop beating! I know I'm joking here which I tend to do when I'm in these situations but I have been extremely anxious when it comes to the fear of death. Not in a "I'm scared to use this knife to cut a slice of tomato" kind of way, but a "when we're gone there will be nothing and I will remember nothing and become nothing" sort of way.
Not trying to get political here, but with this thought in my mind for the last couple of days and hearing about situations like Palestine has made me completely rethink everything like life itself, and now every time I hear about Palestine or Ukraine or whatever else going on in the world, I can't help but burst into tears.
Sorry for the rant or whatever this is, just asking what you guys think or how you live your life if thats alright. Take care of yourself!
For you it is. But the impact you leave will be remembered for generations to come.
I live by; be good for the goodness, and good stuff breads more goodness.
Enjoy the sweet time you have here, and so what if the lights turn off one day, you preolly won't even know
I would flip the question. If there is a heaven or afterlife, then what is the point of living? Really, what's the point if you just get another awesome life later on? Is this all meaningless aside from proving to God that you will praise him?
Without an afterlife, then the life right now takes on so much more weight and importance, because it's all you get.
To me, it was about carrying all of those amazing moments in life you cherish so deeply and bringing them with you to the afterlife. If it does exist who knows what will happen over there, but my fear is not that I'll just lose touch, sense, sight or smell. But that I'll lose all of my memories and experiences with my close friends and family that I hold so close and cherish more than anything. When I die, I want to remember my Dad and everything we've done together for eternity. It sounds weird, but that was just my way of thinking
Maybe you'll enjoy my point of view about this. I'm atheist, I do believe there's nothing for us after death.
What I like to imagine though is that through our lives, we're weaving this tapestry with everything that we're doing, and every hug and good moment is permanently on there. Time is a dimension we're moving forward in but that doesn't make the past stop to exist. Does that make sense?
Like after all is finished, all your memories and good events are still on there, in a tapestry we're not able to perceive but still real and permanent.
I use tapestry because I imagine if we're moving through time as a dimension, in a way we're kinda a long tube of human person extending from our birth to our death and mixing with other beings in time.
As Ricky Gervais once said (paraphrasing), "If you went to see a movie and in the middle of it realized it was eventually going to end would you just say, 'Oh, I guess I'll leave because there's no point.'"
No afterlife just means that your current existence has even more meaning, because it's all you will ever experience. I want to be a nice and caring person, not for the promise of some afterlife where i get rewarded (which might happen or not), but for the sake of everyone around me, who also just have this one life - enhancing their lives has more meaning as well. If everyone would live in this spirit, our existence would be a much nicer experience.
Even if you disappear into nothingness, what you did and what you said will echo through the times; every kind action will live on through the people that experienced it, and will encourage them to do the same, having a multiplying effect.
If there is no after life what is the point of living
I think you've got this backwards, it's because there's no after life that life is even more meaningful. Its the only experience you've ever known and likely will ever know so make the best of it. Do what you want. Leave the world a better place than you found it. Adopt an orphaned child. Build a house for a homeless person. Climb a mountain. Go skydiving. There is so much you can do and so little time to do it relative to our lifetimes.
The afterlife lasting an eternity may not be all that it's cracked up to be. I enjoy this quote because it provides a different perspective of looking at our daily lives.
"Let's suppose that you were able every night to dream any dream that you wanted to dream. And that you could, for example, have the power within one night to dream 75 years of time. Or any length of time you wanted to have. And you would, naturally as you began on this adventure of dreams, you would fulfill all your wishes. You would have every kind of pleasure you could conceive. And after several nights of 75 years of total pleasure each, you would say "Well, that was pretty great." But now let's have a surprise. Let's have a dream which isn't under control. Where something is gonna happen to me that I don't know what it's going to be. And you would dig that and come out of that and say "Wow, that was a close shave, wasn't it?" And then you would get more and more adventurous, and you would make further and further out gambles as to what you would dream. And finally, you would dream ... where you are now. You would dream the dream of living the life that you are actually living today."
Life is self-emerging. There is no higher or predefined purpose. You can live without one, or define your own, which may or may not change over time.
Regarding death as the ultimate conclusion; you can make of it what you want. You can consider what you leave behind. You can see life itself as worthwhile, without a need for an end-goal that follows after.
With this ideology, when I stop breathing, I will quite literally become nothing. There will be nothing. I am dead.
I know. I'm sorry. If it helps, I'll be the same way too. We're all in this boat together. It's fucking terrifying. It's really pitch black after. Same way as it was before you were born. But we don't remember that, so it doesn't help.
It's made me lose sleep a lot too and I often wondered what I'm meant to achieve in lieu of devotion to God to make it all mean something or make it all worthwhile.
Each their own master, no universal judgement, and we all "go" to the same "place".
Beyond that, there's no ties that bind us in common goals or purpose, some guy on the street - he could do literally anything and you'll both be dead same way one day. CCTV isn't religion, and police isn't god, he has nothing to fear and I've everything to lose. It's scary.
Kinda wish I could be Christian honestly but unfortunately as far as I can tell, I am very literally incapable of faith.
I've not solved my anxiety about death, I don't think I can, but I've made a lot of progress.
Even without God, there are things I believe in, that matter to me. Why? I don't really know. I suppose I'm just genetically destined, wired to be that way by chance, but it feels 'right' to believe in these things.
I believe in the maximisation of happiness as a good thing, I want people to be happier and suffer less, and I want to do well unto others and myself in those terms.
From pushing egalitarian politics where I can to looking after myself and my loved ones and being kind and showing solidarity to others, and obviously not harming them. That's not meaning maybe, but it's purpose. Still basically Christian ethics, too.
Perhaps I won't be rewarded, but such is the reality of the mortal coil, I have to believe that at least I've lived such that the first sunrise I'll never see won't be any dimmer by my hand than the ones that greeted me on this earth. Maybe even brighter.
If that makes their day better, even as just one brick on the road towards oblivion, that's gotta count for something, right?
Maybe that's a reward in and of itself. Even if I won't remember anything, others will remember something.
Even while I lose sleep over the thought of pitch black too, talking about it to these amazing people including you have really helped me, so thank you for your comment! People like you and what you have said make me want to do more for "brighter tomorrows" for other people. I've learned by reading what people here on this post had to say that yes, it is worth it. Even if it's just one brick on the road towards oblivion! Take care of yourself LainTrain, and again, thank you
I frankly find the idea of an afterlife horrifying. You're a disembodied conciousness existing eternally - not a million years, not a billion, endless existence.
And what are you supposed to in the afterlife? Have a family reunion? Replay your fondest memories like you're watching an old VHS tape? Explore your wildest fantasies (but not the ones your deity frowns upon)? In the long term it just sounds as agonizing as hell.
I always thought that heaven sounds like hell. It'll be great for about a week but eventually nonstop perfection would become so monotonous. Like playing a video game that you completed for all eternity. It'd be the worst kind of torture, to make everything you love into something you get bored of.
Real talk, as a kid Final Fantasy Legend on the Game Boy is how I got exposed to this kind of thinking, and the implications have lived rent free in my head to this day.
It's a bit on the nose, but that kinda lends itself to a kid picking up on it.
I've seen a lot of people here comment the same thing, I find that really interesting! Maybe I haven't thought deep enough into it, but I would much prefer an afterlife if I had the choice. But even when I still prefer an afterlife, you make a really good point as to why an afterlife sounds scarier than just dying, so thank you!
I really like Camus' approach to these questions. Life is meaningless, the world is absurd, nothing matters in the end.
So, basically, try to find your meaning in life and enjoy it while it lasts. Because as far as we know, it's our one shot at life and it's pretty much one and done.
The purpose of life is to experience it. Experience as much of it as you can, before you can't anymore. The good, the bad, the mundane, or insane.
Try to live a good life. What the definition of "good" is will be different for each person, but a few general categories include being good to others (help when you can), being good to yourself (don't be your own worst enemy, mentally or physically), and being good to the world (leave it better than you found it).
Cherish the things that you have, and the things that you don't.
I read a philosopher's take once that we're here to experience things like physical things or emotional things. We choose to come here to have these experiences and then go back as a more matured person (soul?). I like to think of it like we're on vacation and then we go back and do stuff and plan another vacation.
Many people have speculated on the point of life but the way I see it the only universal point of life is to reproduce..
You can make your own human existence about whatever you want though.
To me it sounds like you could benefit from helping people locally. Seeing the news of things happening on the other side of the globe can make you feel helpless but if you help out locally by volunteering or some other way that makes sense to you, you can combat that feeling of helplessness.
You didn't exist before you were conceived, and you're not anxious about it. You will just return to that state.
For me it's really the opposite, why would anyone want to live if there would be such a better place like heaven where everything is awesome for ever?
If there is nothing after life, only then it's worth living, because this is it, everything you can experience, god and bad you can only experience here and now, so you better make it count. Give your own life meaning, don't wait until someone else does.
In the end the universe will die a heat death and in the long run everything in meaningless. But in the short run, everything is full of meaning, it's exciting, dangerous, beautiful, horrible and so on.
Carl Sagan famously said, "We are a way for the universe to know itself."
This reflects his view that human beings, as conscious and curious creatures, are a product of the universe's evolution and serve as a means for the cosmos to become self-aware. Through our capacity for science, art, and philosophy, we explore and understand the universe, essentially allowing it to observe and contemplate its own existence.
The point is that before you were born you existed in your mothers womb, but before that - specifically before you were conceived by your parents - you did not exist. Somehow this does not make you distressed that you did not exist, why? Once you die it will for you be the same as before you were conceived.
Another topic related to this is something you did not mention with afterlife: "eternity"
I myself have been afraid of this since I was 9 years old and heard about the concept of heaven and eternity in church. I wrote it down as a blog post a couple of years ago: https://jeena.net/apeirophobia
Whether or not you believe in the afterlife, the answer is the same. Bring joy to others, help people who need it, have people that depend on you. If there is confirmed no afterlife, I would keep living my life the same because I want my kids to have a great life, and grow up to be great people. That is a mission that makes me want to live as long as I can.
Just because gods and heaven and hell aren't real, it doesn't mean that nothing is real. Kindness is real. Compassion is real. Understanding is real. That tingly feeling you get when you do something good for someone else is real. It may have been the product of countless years of evolution rather than divine whim, but it's still real.
If you're lucky, you'll have another 60 or 70 years of awareness ahead of you. Find meaning by seeking out that tingly feeling as much as you can :)
Here's my take - if there's any merit to the heaven and hell stuff, it's purely in the last minutes of you actually dying (assuming a not-sudden death). Something your brain might conjure up before you go, premised on your remaining memories and attitudes towards life. If you mostly feel guilt about what you've done in your life, it will probably be an experience akin to hell. Joy, and a bittersweet sadness about leaving this world? Probably closer to heaven. And perhaps many various experiences in between that don't neatly map to this. All mostly a play of the last final, firing synapses before the curtain falls.
If we take this approach, what does it say about living? Well, I'd say that it's important to live as fully and well as you can. Do good things. Make good connections with other humans and love people worth loving. Help people out. Have a laugh, read a good book once and a while. Live a life that, when it's all said and done, has honestly good material to draw from in those final moments before oblivion.
Hi I'm also a religious person. Some religions have a big emphasis on what happens when we die, but it doesn't have to be that way. Judaism basically says, "I dunno, maybe we get reincarnated or resurrected or just go be with God. Anyway, do you want any mustard or mayo on that?"
God didn't put us here just as a test to see if we pass or fail. God didn't put us here to ignore the brokenness in the world either. God put us here to make things better. Our job is to be the light in the darkness and to leave things better than we found them.
At least that's what I believe. And I don't think you have to even believe in God to live that way.
Science as we know it is not equipped to answer the Hard Problem of Consciousness. There is no explanation or path to an explanation for what we are as self aware beings, how we are conscious, how we came to be so, or why this universe exists in the first place.
Religion may not be the best answer to these questions either, but it does offer a way to live with purpose.
But I haven't seen an answer to the "pitch dark forever" idea. I've had a perspective shared with me, which I think actually is more accurate:
The collection of atoms that currently think they're me will someday join other collections of atoms that think they're a rabbit, or don't realize they're a tree, and eventually, some will join a new collection that think they're someone else entirely.
If I leave the world a tiny bit cleaner or kinder then I found it, I'm doing a favor to those future collections of atoms that once briefly thought they were me.
It's not black and empty. There's no you to feel those things.
The mind is what the brain does. It's a process, not a thing. It doesn't 'go' anywhere, and it doesn't sit there chewing on a lack of input either.
The brain stops doing, the mind stops being.
As for the point of it all: smoke 'em while you got 'em. Live your life, and try to make the world a bit better for others.
After all, there's nobody running the universe. Nobody to take care lest a sparrow fall. No justice, no redemption, nobody balancing the books. The only thing in the entire universe that gives a damn if we live or die is each other.
You want a purpose, there's your purpose. To do what only people can do: care about people and try to make their time on this rock better than it otherwise might be.
care about people and try to make their time on this rock better than it otherwise might be.
so many people have said exactly this in the comments, so thank you for being another one of them! I actually sat down and thought a lot about how I've treated other people and have been working on completely changing that. I've recently messaged someone who I blocked many years ago and said I was sorry for being an idiot and being rude where I really shouldn't have been, cause people like you have made me realize how stupid I really have been back then and how much more important other peoples feelings are. he actually forgave me and seemed happy about it, and gave me some good advice. that was awesome! I've been trying a lot harder today to make strangers days better and a little happier when we meet and move on from each other (which can be pretty challenging to do with some people on the internet, but possible!) and it's definitely made my anxiety a lot less, not completely gone away though and I hope to get back to a somewhat normal state soon where I can sleep better at night. I hope its not selfish for trying to become this person only after having someone close to me die and having these thoughts roam around my head, I just never have put a lot of thought into other peoples feelings or the situations they're in. I have made a promise to myself though to keep trying for others even if and when I start to feel better again myself.
wow sorry for the rant, thanks again and I really appreciate your comment!
As a Buddhist if nothing happens after death most problems are solved lol. This is why I always find “secular” Buddhists funny. Either way being compassionate and a source of wisdom to others is important.
I used to think there wasn't a point to life because we all just die. But then people told me that I couldn't be successful and that made me mad so now I'm fueled by spite. I've achieved almost everything I have set out to do so far in life, so now I'm just here to have a good time.
You are having what's called a crisis of faith and an existential crisis. Don't worry, millions of people have been through this ahead of you and come out the other side.
First off, it's ok to be in this mental state - it's nothing to be ashamed of or angry at, as uncomfortable as it is. Because ultimately, thinking about each and everyone's "purpose" is is not a bad thing per se. It's what helped me branch out and starting an apprenticeship in something I wasn't sure I'd be fit for after stumbling around in university and not knowing what to do with my life.
That said, I think life is about creating heaven on earth as far and much as possible. All your good deeds don't go unnoticed and don't go away if you die. It's about making something meaningful and special, be it to you or to others.
Who cares if there even is an afterlife. You can just exist in the here and now and make the best of it. Granted, a lot of things are going south right now, but it's the thought that counts.
Re-unite with family with whom you've not been in touch for a while, meet new friends, experience new things, be a good friend. All of these things generate value either for you or for others and these are the things that count in the long term.
But also don't feel bad if you don't live up to your expectations every single day. It's ok to take time off, to focus on yourself and not sacrifice your well-being for others all the time.
Not sure if any of this helps, but it's what's helping/helped me and these were my thoughts in regards to this subject. Lots of love - get better soon 💜
I mean help people in your life, as it reduces their suffering, and it feels good for yourself in doing so. Show Compassion and the knowledge that reducing suffering either for yourself or others is more important than increasing pleasure for yourself. There is an in-balance in life. People generally have far more suffering than happiness.. so it's important to focus on not increasing other people's suffering even more.
It's ultimately up to oneself to decide these things for oneself, but there is literature on the topic. Part of it you can just frame like the stories themselves: Is it worthwhile to read or watch a story unfold, rather than just read a summary? Is there any point to anything that ends? You know a good meal with your loved ones is going to end before you sit down—but you still choose the meal over going hungry and alone. Because the experience has value even if it ends. Some experiences are even valuable because they only existed a brief moment in time.
There are, ultimately, some stories that are so mired in despair and suffering that anyone would close the book early, but most of the stories are kind of trudging along, with their own motivations, hopes, fears and joys.
To quote another work on the topic: One must imagine Sisyphus happy.
Well, you've alrady been "nothing". And that was before you were born or better, conceived. You'll return to that state of not existing, after you died.
And I think the point of living is what you make of it. There are nice things out there. You can do things, learn things. Experience everything, Love someone... Leave something memorable behind...
The common argument to this is why does it matter as you did not exist before your birth (unless you believe in reincarnation). It helps to learn a lot about time space. Particularly how forward and backwards does not matter much to it time wise and how long after you are dead your life could be observed if looking from other areas of the universe. So to some degree regions of time/space like our lives are eternal we just don't realize it.
If there is"no point" then the point is to do the most good and have the most fun whilst you can.
I work in healthcare and often talk to people and families about the dying process.
We tell people that dying is a lot like falling asleep and that hearing is the last sense to go. So even if they aren't awake and interacting anymore they are still aware of the people around them.
To me, dying is part of life, it's the big unknown. Everyone dies, you can't change that. What we can do is accept it and make the best life we can with the time we have. The point is enjoying the now. For me I focus on spending time with my wife and doing what good in the world I can do. I work with dying people a lot and if I can make even a few minutes of their time better I've made a difference that was worthwhile.
Thanks a lot for this comment and for what you do! I really needed that. I've read a lot about people such as yourself say it's a lot like falling asleep, and thats almost made me afraid to fall asleep. I hope its not selfish to think this way, I just don't want to lose all of my memories and experiences I've had with my family and all of these other amazing people in my life
Mortality is a hard thing to get your head around. Try to not let it take over and keep doing the things you enjoy. Talk to some friends about it all. That should help get some perspectives.
Don't be afraid of going to sleep. Sleep is cozy and good for you.
What's the point of heaven? Does heaven even have a point? Say I believe in heaven, what happens if I die and go there? Will I just... Wake up and it'd just be Life 2.0?
As far as reality goes, there are only two points to living: the standard biological point of all life as we know it, and the one you create for yourself using your human intelligence.
I’m a big believer in creating meaning in life. Every time I look at my wife or bake something or make someone else’s life happier or just easier, a feeling of warmth arises that is meaningful enough for me. In this sense, i think life is full of meaning and purpose, we just need to open our eyes to it
I more so said what I said because I was scared of the idea of nothing, and not being able to think or remember any of the moments I have cherished with my friends and family. These comments have definitely eased my anxiety and I'm thankful for your comment and everyone else's!
To explore and understand the significance of your existence because from my understanding ( ignorant ) we don’t really have an answer to our origin but rather an idea.
History which is knowledge passed down, is always written from the perspective of the “winner” and rarely the losers.
Why would there have to be a point? It's possible there is no architect and thus no point. It could all be random chaos colliding into this weird situation, and we're just particles floating along in the maelstrom.
To come the question of why should you care, well you can choose pleasures or pain in your time on this planet. Pain is the default if you make no choice.
I don't believe in heaven or hell, but nature is even more beautiful than that, in my opinion. The Earth is pretty much a closed system, which means that all energy just passes from one form to another. When you die you eventually become part of earth, which nourishes other beings, and carries you on forever. You're likely breathing some of the same air that your ancestors breathed, or a transformation thereof.
As a living thinking being it's your own responsibility to think about what's important to you and what you want from life. Being in your circumstance is outside your control. You could have been born into a kind/cruel family or a fortune/unfortunate one and have an easy/comfortable life but I see it all as luck. If you were born in a different body with certain brain chemistry you'll think about life in a more carefree or dutiful way. Imagine that for any person you can possibly conceive and potentially any creature or even bacteria that don't or can't think in such a considered way.
With all that in mind you're probably pretty lucky in the circumstances you're born in and you have been raised to be empathetic or you were naturally inclined to be but if that's how you are you can choose to continue those values that try to help others to live in a positive way while you still can. Maybe there's a reward or not. For the conceivable time you're able to be empathetic and cognizant of your place and privilege maybe you'll find happiness in knowing helping others can bring comfort and joy to others and in turn yourself. There's no knowing what is after but choosing to spread decency and altruism within your means can give you comfort that when the time comes (however soon or sudden) you can end knowing you were gifted and gifted a blessing to the other lives you contacted who may also continue in your footsteps.
Just because something ends doesn't mean it's pointless, try to be your best self and get along with other people.
The world will be better place for having you being in it.
There isn't one, we're animals with higher brain function.
Try to ease suffering by being less savage and overcoming the animal instincts of hoarding and violence which are antithetical tou our capacity to form cohesive societies.
I’ve recently discovered that a lot of my feelings and beliefs about life are summed up quite well by the Humanist movement. I’ve never been religious, and while I’m perfectly fine with people having faith, I very strongly believe that a life without should be the default view and stance on everything, especially state and education.
Religions can control nearly every aspect of life, be it gender, behaviour, what you’re allowed to study etc. Now you are in a position to capitalise on your new found freedom.
Seek out art, philosophy, science, music. Things that show beauty and creativity of the human mind. See what others think.
Use that knowledge to grow, and to help others in any way that you can. Life might be fleeting but you can use that time to try and improve the lives of this and subsequent generations. Make a difference.
I turned existential a few years ago contemplating existence.
Then I started asking questions like what is that reincarnates? Nothing. When I die the atoms will be used by the universe for something else. My memories will be gone.
And I realized it's all just a game. It's the part of the illusion. I know I know. It sounds made up.
But hey now that we are here do what you want to do. If you don't feel like doing anything then that's fine too. Have a simple and a minimal life.
I think a lot of our stress to be something comes from social conditioning.
The society keeps saying you have to be something. They give you a list of things and tell you to follow it in a particular order and say viola you are a respectable human being now. As if you weren't a human being before haha.
So maybe stop focusing on being or becoming someone and focus on actions maybe? That's fun.
But yes everything goes to nothing in the end. The reason we feel it shouldn't end or why is it the way it is or it's unfair is because of the thinking mind.
The mind likes to create ideas and concepts. We sir are living in one hell of a conceptual world. You and me are tied down by the concepts. We can't accept the absurdity of the nature of this futile and impermanent life.
That's how nature works. Then our mind comes up and creates psychological dramas on how sad it is. Hahaha.
It's all part of the game. Play it. No one gets alive. There is no one to get out alive. Hahahaha.