i don't wanna be married, they better not assign me shit
Me till someone calls me a good boy uwu
OK, serious talk for anyone under thirty who is really relating to this; you don't even know who you are before you hit your thirties.
I'm dead fucking serious here. Under twenty, you're basically still in the oven, and your twenties are basically spent figuring out who and what the fuck you are. Thirty is when the good shit starts. Thirty is when you start to finally have a grasp on who you are as a human being. Dating in your thirties is so much fucking better. You're past the idiocy and the drama and you're into the part where actual human adults learn to understand each other.
Please, please get out of this mindset that anyone over thirty is an ancient crone. You're not even out of the fucking tutorial yet.
But my 20s are my most handsome years and now they're over! In a paltry ten years I'll have some gray hairs and creases! 😭
Yup, I didn’t find my wife until we were both in our 30’s, but we’re both happier than ever. Finding the right person takes time and probably a lot of rejection.
Out of all the high school sweethearts who got married young, I only know one couple who is still together and doesn’t hate each other.
Almost 30 here, can relate. Still have no clue what the hell I am, what I really want to be myself and what and who I'd like to see around. Though as time goes, the less I really want or care to figure those out, so... Ughh.
Hell yes. Dating in my thirties has been 10x better than my dating attempts in my twenties. Not to mention with how the trend is moving with gen z’s dating/sex lives? For them dating in their thirties is going to be…like, their main dating life.
As somebody in my mid twenties, I primarily date people in their 30s for this exact reason. I need somebody mature with their shit a little more figured out. Dating people my own age can be fun, but they don't really have the maturity required to deal with somebody who's gone through as much trauma and mental illness as I have.
Case in point, my longest lasting relationship with somebody within 5 years of my age was 1 month long. My shortest lasting relationship with somebody older than me by more than that was 2 years.
This feels like something an incel would seriously suggest.
For a movie with this premise, may I recommend The Lobster
Such a good film!
Lol this aint even true. The average marriage age for men is 30
Well yeah, that's when they get assigned their person, duh 🙄
40yo single dude checking in. I think the government lost my assignment form!
Ew, no thanks
No thank you. Being assigned a random romantic partner could be a burden. I'd rather stay alone.
Big mood. Just had the third person tell me, "I'm just not feeling any romantic chemistry" in as many weeks.
Wondering if it's time to give up.
I've dated over and under 30 and IMO, after 30 dating gets better. Don't lose hope!
Not cause of your age. I got told that all the time in high school! And college. And after college.
Anyway, I eventually got a partner, but having a consecutive string of meeting romantically incompatible potential partners is not age dependent.
Just to commiserate my neighbor once asked me if I was going to die alone. In her defense she was high and hasn't asked since. That's how it's going for me.
So either she's saying she's single abd looking, or that everyone else who is single is pathetic.
So either she's normal but lonely, or a complete piece of trash. I have no idea and so therefore I don't know which.
"If you love me why do you want me to sign this paper entitling you to half of my stuff?"
Get a prenup if that's your only issue. Married taxes are better, and being auto beneficiary is also useful (e.g. social security survivors benefits). With the right person insurances and credit score/limit are better. Sometimes just hospital visits require being a relation. Immigration for coming to or going to another country is easier.
Marriage is showing your commitment legally/bureaucratically so that your bond isn't questioned easily both individuals also gain financial benefits from it.
Can confirm, am 30 😣
I’ve been married three times after thirty so there’s lots of women out there.
Using up all the marriage licenses, smh
Gonna corner the marriage market!
As it stands now, you could give me an amazing person to be with who would check all my boxes and would be a perfect match
And I would break up with them anyway in about 6 months.
I have a VERY avoidant attachment style that I need to shake before I can get into anything.
If it helps anyone in a similar situation, after a shroom trip two weeks ago, I realized my issue is a deeeeeep seated shame- my "Mr. Ethics" vibe is a facade and if you cross examined me long enough you would find out I'm rotten to the core.
I know this is false, but it's so engrained it's hard to shake.
In relationships, I'll feel very anxious because I feel like "the jig is gonna be up soon, they'll see you for who you are, you will hurt them" so I'll usually drop and run.
4 hours later
Also I started this comment a few hours ago, but since have chatted with my friend over beers and he told me about "parts therapy". Basically acknowledge there are many parts to you, there is no single you. There is the "superhero" you, the "deviant" you, the "artist", the "lover", etc. So in trying to identify this core I believe is rotten, I came up with "the sleezy politician". I feel like I can manipulate people like hell- I can put on the charm to get what I want or to avoid risk. I can think of times when this version of me was necessary as a survival mechanism. Highschool was clique-city, and the theater department was a social minefield. My family had a heavy political side. Growing up I felt like I had a superpower to lie and get away with anything, it took me a while to realize it wasn't a superpower but would hurt me so much more later. All that I learned through that is something I now need to undo, and that is to be comfortable with myself and not care about how others see me.
Ooof sorry I kinda word vomited but thanks for being my prep for tomorrow's therapy sesh.
I'm past thirty and I learned to ve comfortable alone a long time ago. For me to get married or even just start a relationship with someone they'd have to drastically improve my life. It's very unlikely some random assigned by the government is going to do that.
At this point I'll wait for AI dating service.
I'll date my left hand before I date a soulless AI.
Did you get another 30 year old? Or just anyone available?
I have 2 months to find someone
Ay another checkmark that can fuck right off
