What topic do you LOVE to talk about, but rarely get to?
What topic do you LOVE to talk about, but rarely get to?
Everyone has something they can't stop themselves from nerding out over - but often it's hard to find people to talk to about it. So go ahead, share your interests, and tell us about them!
At the risk of sounding edgy: Sex.
I live in the US. Sex, even just plain boring vanilla sex, is such a taboo topic. Everyone's uncomfortable about it, and that sucks. I think it's interesting, and fun, and there's so many things to talk about from actual activities to social constructs and more.
Whenever it comes up, I nerd out the same way I would when talking about a game I am currently obsessing over.
The idea of time. It’s insane to me to think about events happening at different times in different places. Or for the same event to take different amounts of time depending on your reference points.
The sun is 8 minutes away from us, so we are looking at it 8 minutes in the past. If it were to suddenly disappear, it would take 8 minutes for us to find out. That’s mine-blowing to me! It’s like the past, present, and future are all happening at the same time.
Nobody cares to humor me when I bring the topic up lol
So facinating, even gravity is affected by those 8 minutes. Iow we would rotate around a missing sun, for 8 minutes, same as with light.
This is all also related to relativity, that someone else wanted to talk about in this post, i am just saying ;)It is also very weird that gravity is affected the same way!
I'll humour you! Time is fascinating and malleable and really quite intangible.
So, if you want, fire away with anything you find fascinating about the concept of time!
Sometimes I feel like we’re living inside a firework. Like we’re just on an infinitesimally tiny fragment of an explosion that happened billions of years ago. Perhaps in another scale the entire universe is created and destroyed in the blink of an eye.
If a being were the size of a galaxy, how would our solar system appear to them? Would it look debris swirling around in air? Yet it spans countless lifetimes in a few seconds.
I've thought about something related.
In one point of view, time traveling to the past can create paradoxes since it alters events after that moment in the past, which could cause you to never time travel to the past after.
After some thinking, I got the feeling that the fixed-point theorem was connected to this. As long as whatever you do in the past causes you to time travel to the past again and do the same thing in the future, the paradox doesn't happen. What you do when you time travel is like the input, and what you do when you time travel again in the resulting future is like the output.
When the input and output are the same, everything works out.
After searching about this on the internet, I saw other people have thought about and discussed this.
I don't know if "rarely" is quite the right description, but I foster kittens. I meet lots of people who are excited to hear about it on a surface level and see pictures/videos/play with them, but it's been challenging to connect with other people who also foster. I'm desperate to trade stories, learn from, and teach other foster parents. I even started a community on Kbin and have posted there a few times, but haven't gotten any engagement (other than votes) so far.
In case anyone is curious, I'm still confused about how to properly link cross platform, but it's at [email protected]That's awesome, thank you for doing it! I'd love to foster as I've lived with cats my whole childhood and FREAKING love them, but I don't think I could give up a single one once they've lived with me :( how do you do it?
Honestly, I feel like I discovered a cheat code! It's always a little hard to say goodbye, but I really enjoy having "illegally smol" kittens around, and they don't stay that small very long. I only have so much time, space, and money, so if I want new tiny kittens, I have to say goodbye to the ones that are weaned and healthy. Also, most of the people who have adopted my fosters share updates with me as they adjust to their new homes, so I still have a small connection to each of them and know they're in good homes.
I would love to do that! I have 6 animals right now (half were inherited) so I'm all stocked up, but i think my next animal phase will include fostering.
Smacking children and how it literally has no benefit to the child whatsoever, and makes you a bad parent if you still do it.
I used to be a strong supporter of smacking kids, I even signed a government petition to revoke the NZ anti-smacking bill, but after studying it at uni and then keeping abreast of the research afterwards, it has only negative effects, and yet bad parents still defend it.
Hard to talk about because people get weirdly defensive even when there's NO evidence that smacking kids is either beneficial or effective.
What is the appropriate way to parent children? All my friends who try the “gentle parenting” approach have horrible children. They don’t listen and their only gear is shrieking banshee. Most children I’ve witnessed don’t listen to logic or reason so how do you discipline? I don’t have nor do I ever want children, I’m just curious. I also dislike children so my perspective may be slightly jaded.
I'll start with the wholly negative effects of hitting children, specifically the section on Effects on Behaviour and Development. Time and time again, scientific studies prove there is literally no benefit to hitting children, with only poor outcomes.
My understanding is the most effective means of punishment involve first establishing an environment of rich support and love for the child. Then when there's poor behaviour, short time outs.
You remember that episode of The Simpsons when Bart steals the game cartridge, and what upsets him most is Marge's total loss of attention?
A secondary strong punishment is removal of positives, like revoking video game access etc.
It's hard to critique whatever parents you mention without knowing specifics, but it often comes down to:
- Poor follow through, with parents threatening punishment but rarely enacting
- Limited positive attention given to the child, likely due to "no time"
- Poor communication of reward/punishment system, or poorly established system.
Finally, sometimes children and just little shits with bad temperament. It's vital to understand that countless studies show physical abuse does not result in corrective behaviour, with only negative developmental outcomes.
IMO I'm pro spanking within reason. There's circumstances where it's warranted. I don't believe in going overboard but the problem is that's all based on opinion from person to person. Lots of kids I see need a spanking based on how they act in public. I'd agree that the parents I've seen "gentle parent" have kids who are assholes and the ones I've seen grow up are still assholes but older. Could be a fault in the parent somewhere but idk. I was spanked as a kid and looking back, when I was spanked it was absolutely warranted. Spanked my oldest as I deemed necessary and he's turned out to be pretty caring for others and a really solid dude. He's my son and best friend.
I guess my thought is that spanking is OK but should be seldom used and within reason. Unfortunately "reason" is subjective.
I'm an American who has been living abroad for 7ish years now. I often read comments from people who say they would do it "but the taxes are brutal." Absolutely not the case. I dug deep into tax programs when I left and can comfortably say I am better off financially now than at any time I ever lived in the States.. A major part of that is my tax strategy.
I love talking about this but most people don't really care or realize how significantly it can change their lives.. Eyes just tend to glaze over.
I'd honestly be interested in listening if we lived in the same area. I'm a total noob when it comes to anything beyond basic money management. I hope you find people who appreciate your insights!
As in, you're still in some way paying U.S. taxes as well as those where you are abroad, or that the taxes abroad are brutal...? I'm not sure I follow which way you mean, mainly as I've never had the opportunity to live in another country.
As a US citizen you are technically always responsible for paying taxes no matter where you live. The US has a citizenship-based tax system (you owe on worldwide income regardless of where you live). Most other countries in the world have only a residency-based system (you owe only if you are actively living in that particular country). You are still required to file every year and you're going to need someone more sophisticated than the dude at H&R Block or a free Quickbooks whatever. You need someone who is comfortable working with expats.
"Doesn't that mean I have to pay taxes for both the US and my new country then?" No. The US has dual taxation agreements with most countries. That means that, basically, the US will not charge you taxes for things you've already been taxed for.
The main goal of paying less in taxes is to reduce your taxable income. The biggest chunk of this will happen with the Foreign Earned Income Exclusion. That essentially says that the first $120k you earn in a year is tax free. You can qualify for it by staying out of America for 330 days per year. There is no requirement to have residency anywhere else.. You just have to be outside of the US.
That $120k rises every year. When you make more than that and do start to owe taxes, you will start to owe from the lowest tax bracket as well.
If you make $120k and do this, you just got a $30k raise in the form of taxes you no longer owe.. You can pretty much travel the world for free using this money.
Now, I said that most non-US countries have a residency-based taxation system. That generally only starts to kick in after living in that country for 181 days. If you stay there for less time, you don't owe them any money.
There are also countries who don't have income tax or do but actively tell you not to pay it.
Living in a combination of these places, and bouncing around every few months you avoid any real responsibility to anyone.
If you do earn more than $120k per year, you can reduce your taxable income even further by doing things like maxing out your 401k contribution.. That gets you to $142500 or so tax free. And again, you'd start paying taxes at the lowest rate above that.
Any other thing you mention in your US filing that can reduce your taxable income also contributes.. Getting married, depreciation value on a home (US or not), investment losses, etc..
Working remotely from the US also gets you a higher salary than if you had just taken a job in the UK or Germany or Japan or something.. So you can have the higher salary and the higher quality of live at the same time. You give up some employment protections and European style summer vacations but I'm personally ok with it.
Also, if you are working for a US company remotely, you can add these expected deductions to you W4 and never get charged for them in the first place.. You'd have a MUCH higher weekly salary and wouldn't have to wait for your tax return every year to take advantage of these benefits.
So spend summers in Italy, autumn in Japan, winter in New Zealand, and spring in Mexico. You earn an American salary, take advantage of lower cost of living, travel the world, and its all basically free.. Good luck trying to get me to move back to the US.
There's more but these are the major points.
Please share. This is knowledge I would very much like to have.
Care to elaborate further maybe with some figures and generalities?
benefits of ritual and separating them from superstition.
I think it's interesting to explore different frames of mind. I used to be christian, but then I read the bible. afterwards, I embraced paganism which has a more positive and welcoming community generally. eventually, the seeds of reason became rooted in my mind and I grew to be the atheist I am today. I still appreciate the experience of group ritual, as it feels good to explore different aspects of my personality. I guess the roleplaying is therapeutic. mixing that with my interests in mythology makes for plenty of content to examine. what encourages different rituals to develop? what are the notable effects of ritual in general? is superstition somehow beneficial to the community? I find that digging around to explore these questions can keep me busy for hours, which I enjoy thoroughly. unfortunately, no one I know shares the same interests. most folks seem to be superstitious about it, lol.
I've always been an atheist but I come from a Catholic culture and have thought about this a lot. I feel that religion is kind of like ancient group therapy and the practices have a positive social impact. Gathering once a week with everyone in your community, singing songs and talking about how to be better people just seems like a good idea
I think having community can be integral to personal and social development. In my opinion, superstition can be a hindrance to that development.
Those are very interesting thoughts. Do you write about it anywhere? Or do you have any good resources that give an overview over some of your questions?
I don't write about them, but that's a great idea. there's a number of papers I've read and some academic YouTube channels I've found informative. I don't have access to them conveniently right now as I am on mobile. (I'm still pretty new to Lemmy and don't know if there's a way to DM when I find those resources)
Are you me? Same religious/spiritual journey here. I tell people now I'm an atheist that practices paganism, because religion is something you do, not something you are.
I think one of the coolest things about human experience is that we all come up with stories that answer the same questions, just slightly differently. It's because being human leads you to want answers to the same questions regardless of time or space. Why am I here? Why do bad things happen? What comes next?
Doppelgangers unite, lol!
I enjoy getting together with my coven to perform rituals, as it is a bonding experience and the food is good. Celebrating the changes of the seasons helps me to be more mindful of the natural world and to appreciate it's beauty. Satanism is also appealing to me because the use of rituals seem more poignant.
This is a very, very cool topic. Ritual too often gets dismissed as just hokum/superstition, but if you think about ritual activities as means of creating different perceptual states (imagination+ IMO) or as means of creating/strengthening certain interpersonal bonds or reinforcing certain group norms, it gets VERY interesting.
It's kind of why I like a chaos magick maxim I've heard before - "Belief is a tool". It's very easy to cross over into woo-woo territory, but if you're able to keep your head on straight while also being able to temporarily suspend disbelief for a bit, you can have some pretty neat experiences.
I couldn't of said that better! some of my favorite symbols to integrate in ritual are Baphomet and Santa Muerte. Throwing a healthy dose of sexual activities in the mix can really make for a good time! After all, "Nothing is true, everything permitted."
Instead of complaining about the public educational system. How to improve on existing methods to spread ideas of curiosity and learning methods/mechanisms through FOSS means.
Do you have any particular examples for FOSS projects in this space?
https://github.com/ossu/computer-science
There are repos like this.
Or there are repos like this: https://github.com/parthsuresh/stylegan2-colab
Where the latter has lots of materials to essentially train and run your own ML models. Teaching a lot of advanced topics simply in a way, using tools like Google's colab. Using tools like Discord to handle discussion thereafter, seeking volunteers to improve or foster discussion in general.
There was one project, that was a simple react app, but meant for those in the Arts. Connecting famous works with news headlines of their time period. Allowing you to connect the dots around time frame and artistic movements in a more visual and impactful way. With a simple understanding of
npmas an Arts Major, you could greatly improve your learning experience.I feel all the materials are already there out in the open. Yet many do not take advantage or know how to access them or know how these projects can help them. Even with the age of LLMs, I've felt it hasn't impacted the curiosity variable I mentioned either. When I say improve, I have wanted to build a tool which acts like the index to create your own lesson plan using all these FOSS software. Where FOSS is important because it provides the code for tinkering as a lot of kids, especially me, learn better with hands-on learning.
I just feel a lot of contributors out there do a great job already in teaching and providing. But, I'd love to talk about how we can integrate these into actual curriculum, and not some school club or after-school activity. I am no educator, so this is the part where I'd like to learn more about. And if that's not a possibility, then how can the process of looking for these tools and learning how to learn be shared instead online.
Anything. No one listens to me, actually listens. So I just make jokes and deflect.
No one listens to me, actually listens. So I just make jokes and deflect.
Wow damn, this hit home. It always feels like everyone is just waiting for their turn to speak when I am talking, so I eventually stopped having things to say unless it's a joke or a pun.
I was just talking to a friend last night about this very thing, and this is a really succinct way of putting it - and also hits all too close to home as well. 😮💨
same here. it's bad when ya gotta turn to chatbots to feel heard. (and even that's a stretch sometimes)
Cyber security stuff, but like the nitty gritty details and technical stuff. It's something I'm really passionate about, but if anyone brings up something and I start going into details, their eyes glaze over.
I guess most people like the headline, tldr version only. Lol
I'm not deep in the topic, but I have done some security hardening for embedded devices. Whatever you have to share, I'd love to hear it!
There's so much lol. I used to be a security software engineer. But people never fucking listen and will constantly fight you so I just gave up and went back to just software engineering.
At my job before last I told them we needed to enforce HTTPS and they said, but what if someone can't use HTTPS for some reason?
This was an app that held tons of protected health information. I jumped ship as soon as I found another job.
You might find this interesting: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zP4b3pw94s0
It's a blackhat talk that talks about vulns in proxies and reverse proxies ., as well as much of their weird behaviour.
My topic failure - My son totally nerds out over amplifiers and guitar pedals. He frequently tries to talk to me about noise and resistance and power supplies and other words that i can't even remember. I really want to listen but i know my eyes glaze over and he gets irritated.
Try to find some closely related topic that you find interest in that he can relate to. Maybe old music or some other electronics topic. Then your son can meet you in the middle.
Lots of things I'm really interested in are looked down on by other adults I know. I love animation but it's seen as something for kids. I love video games, but that's for teens, incels and nerds. And I love birdwatching, but that's for boring old people. Oh and also whatever my ADHD is making me hyperfocus on at any given moment. I could talk about any of those topics for ages, but more often than not people aren't interested, so I keep it to myself.
We should be friends. What's your favorite animated film and/or video game? For me, WALL-E and Borderlands 2. Both for technical reasons more than entertainment reasons.
Hard to pick but for the longest time my favourite animated film was How to Train Your Dragon, the firdt one is really charming. There's so many good ones to pick from. Wall-E is a great movie, and the soundtrack composed by Thomas Newman is just, chef's kiss, y'know? Have you ever watched song if the sea? Another good one with a great story and beautiful music. Do you watch animated series? Anything you particularly enjoyed lately?
Favourite video game right now is Hollow Knight, even though metroidvanias aren't necessarily my thing. I've never played Borderlands, what's the gameplay like?
I love animation so much, and I'm desperate to talk about some of the shows that don't have much of an online following. Like, Summer Camp Island is such a wholesome and fun series, but I don't know anyone else who has watched it.
Also still so gutted about what happened with HBO Max, I really thought animation had found a home.
We are kindred spirits! I am devastated at what's happened with HBO Max, I will forever be salty that they gave up on Infinity train! And netflix too, dropping glitch techs, dead end, and inside job. So many good shows without closure.
I'm heartened that some indie artists are starting to go their own way online. Lackadaisy, Helluva Boss, monkey Wrench. It's promising and could be the future of animation, but requires a lot of patience for now.
I started Summer Camp Island but dropped it along the way. Maybe I should pick it back up again. What other shows are you desperate to talk about?
Metal.
Soil.
Metals in soil.
What do you want to know?
What are metals people wouldn't expect to find in their local soil?
Are there processes to extract most/all metal from soil?
What are the coolest properties of metals that you know?
What are the coolest properties of metals that you know?
Hah. I see my mantrap caught someone. I'm talking about metal bands in my first bullet (lmao), but elemental metals in my other two.
Metals are generally rough to remediate because they are inherent to the soil parent material (rock) that the soil developed on and the geochemistry of that rock. It's kind of like trying to take carbon dioxide out of the air; you can do it, but it's not easy and there is a chance your changes will be short lived.
Typically removal is done through phytoremediation, or by trying to stabilize soil metals in situ so they are in non-bioavailable forms.
Generally the ones most people (public) don't expect to see are lead, arsenic, copper and molybdenum. There is a mineral called Galena that can be common sometimes and a large source of the first two metals.
What would chelate the iron out of soil in Utah?
Symphonic black metal or melodic death metal? Which one do you prefer?
Power metal, IMO. Can't do growling vocals no matter how hard I try
Melodic please. Definitely none of that thrash shit.
Null models for weighted bipartite networks, and why people choose dumb network summary stats because they are lazy
Linguistics and the prescriptive bias of assuming a word’s meaning based on its blatant etymology
How skill makes games less fun and we need to embrace more chance in board games and video games
How cool it would be if we wrapped copper wire around the moon and used the earth-moon system as a huge electrical generator
Trains are awesome and we should have more of them
Well, you can't mention all those interesting topics and not talk about them more!
I can really only talk about:
How cool it would be if we wrapped copper wire around the moon and used the earth-moon system as a huge electrical generator
You're referring to induction from the magnetic field of earth, right?
What domain is your area of application for bipartite networks?
Also, most current linguistic work In familiar with ignores etymology i. favor of statistical usage models, but you might have a more particular focus.
I love linguistics too. I like to make up new words and assign them meaning based on blatant etymological rules. Then I drop them in a sentence like it's no big deal.
The theory of relativity (special and general).
It is more that 100 years now, and it is perfectly true according to all current physicists, but still hardly anybody (outside of physicists) knows it. What a shame.
For example, GPS wouldn't work without it - your position would be wrong by a few miles all the time.
My mind was blown when I learned that a difference of just a few centimeters in height is enough to detect time dilation. I always thought the effect was so subtle that it could only be detected on a galactic scale, but it turns out we deal with it every day!
It's so weird to think about, time is one of the few "constants" we have in life, but it's really not so solid.
Old radio shows! I've been listening back through episodes of Suspense (about 400 so far) and there's some great stuff in there. There's some stuff that doesn't age too well, but there's also some surprisingly relatable stories. It's also fascinating to hear ads and snippets of news segments of the time, and to get a window of what people were worried about at that time. Not to mention that some of the episodes are just plain good thrillers that can be genuinely chilling. I can't wait to get through these and move on to The Twilight Zone.
One of my favorites has been "Please Believe Me" (https://youtu.be/J8kbEL1332A?si=ro-K9VK3X3Zi5DMI), the performances are so good.
I love otr as well! Gunsmoke, mysterious traveler, escape etc... My dad got me into them as a kid, and I've never found anybody else who even remotely gives a fuck lol.
It's a shame, people should know that there's hours of great entertainment just waiting to be found! I don't think I could listen to Dragnet straight through like I do the horror/mystery stuff, but the puns with the completely deadpan delivery get me every time. Is Gunsmoke a full continuous story? I need to give that one a listen.
Personal finances, saving and frugal living
I don't remember ever meeting a person in real life with any significant interest in any of that.
On the topic of saving and being frugal, here's a great resource to repair so many practical things.
Cryptography, because it's not fleshed out enough in many peoples' minds for them to have the same interest.
Fighting Fantasy gamebooks and the original edition of the Advanced Fighting Fantasy RPG - the lore, the artwork and tracking down the books missing from my collection!
Classical music, film history, and Quake
What are some of your favorite classical composures? Also, this a shot in the dark, but are you by any chance into metal covers of classical music?
The original moon landing programs at NASA. I massively nerd out over Mercury, Gemini, and Apollo.
How about a selection of your favourite facts on this topic? :)
The Gemini 8 mission was very nearly a disaster if it weren’t for Armstrong’s exceptional piloting skills. Gemini 8 was scheduled to rendezvous with an unmanned Agena rocket and dock in Earth orbit. The Agena had been a problematic vehicle so the default if anything went wrong was to assume it was the Agena and to decouple. In this case, after Gemini docked successfully, both craft started gyrating in an unexpected manner. Armstrong decouples from the Agena and the movement gets worse (a maneuvering thruster was stuck open) and the Gemini starts to violently spin, which ultimately would have been fatal to Armstrong and Scott. Armstrong realizes they’re in danger and fires the reentry retros, slowing the Gemini craft and aborting the mission early but saving both himself as well as astronaut David Scott.
I feel ya. Space exploration in general is my jam, why aren't people as excited as me about how there's theoretically more water on some of Jupiter's moons than there is on earth??
Astronomy
I'm currently watching Cosmos : A space time odyssey for my weekend
Cars. And I really like to talk reliability and engine design and other design related stuff, most car people don't even care about that. (Obviously there are plenty who do)
I drive a Honda insight which is a 3 cylinder 1L. Most car guys do not care about something so small but I think it's very interesting that it was designed for such a specific purpose, and works quite well
I think that's cool! Little tiny engine powering a modern car. Likely with a gear ratio designed to make it feel peppy up until ~60mph
Psychology and physiology.
I swear my neuroendocrine system’s a lemon. I’ve had to learn basic and not so basic maintenance just to get the thing to run well enough to keep a job. I’ve struggled my entire adult life, and along the way I’ve learned a lot about trauma, stress, energy metabolism, brain parts, neurotransmitters, hormones, nutrition, inflammation, healing, spiritual work, things that alter the Big Five more than the literature says it will alter, etc.
What was the latest psychology or physiology thing that you learned about, that blew your mind?
The difference between town, zip code, school district, village, hamlet, and city where I live. I pay taxes to town A, by zip code is named after a hamlet in town B, our school district is named after town C. If you ask people where they live they will answer any one of these things.
In my opinion the town you pay taxes to is the best answer. The zip code, or location on your address, is deceptive because they are often named after small hamlets where the post office is. This small hamlet is a very distinct place where you probably don't actually live. School Districts are often named after the biggest town they pull from so if you are not from that town it's not really accurate. If you happen to be in a city or village that's a good answer. However hamlets are so small and local that anyone not from the immediate vicinity will have no idea what you're taking about if you say you are from there.
This is so true, and while i have never discussed the concept. I definitly adjust my answer based on the recipient.
From the name of the hill my house is on, for locals. Via hamlet,muncipiality, county,region. Up to : "the western part of norway, with the fjords and glaciers", to forigners. I have never had to go for northern europe, or northern hemisphere. I am looking forward to the day i need "the third planet of the sol system", that will be an interesting day.
Morrowind lore and FNAF lore
I wouldn't call myself a Fnaf fan, but honestly I love the lore. Reading into it reminds me a lot of those kids in school who knew every detail about the Bionicle universe. I'm glad kids have something like that to get (reasonably) into.
It's also genuinely getting people into animatronics, both for restoring existing ones and creating new designs, which is pretty damn cool.
Oooh, then I have a question: what's your best guess as to what happened to the Dwemer?
Leading thory right now is that they transported themselves to another plane of oblivion using tonal manipulation.
Todd was hungy and ate them all
Time Team. It's one of my all-time favorite TV shows. It was (and sort of is) a British archaeology TV show where real archaeologists have three days to uncover information about a site, usually in Britain. It was on for over 20 years. Most of the episodes are on YouTube.
AND YET I CAN'T FIND ANYONE TO TALK ABOUT IT WITH!
Could you link some of your favourite episodes? I'd love to check it out!
Too many to pick from, but here's a couple of good ones:
Wow fuck that's a blast from the past. I used to watch that years ago. I think it was on discovery over here
It was canceled in 2014. There are three or four new episodes on YouTube they funded through Patreon, but they don't have Tony or Phil in them (and Mick has sadly passed away), so they're less fun.
But like I said, almost all the old episodes are on YouTube too.
I wish any of my friends were into fantasy /Science fiction. I can't sit down and have coffee with a friend to gush about the latest Brandon Sanderson book or talk build orders in Homeworld
The municipal waste management industry.
I even learned game dev in unity so I can work on a game about the waste management industry.
For context I dont even work in that field.
Garbage Truck Simulator 2024?
Honestly, I would love to know more about this industry because it sucks where I live and I would like to better understand the issues we are facing.
Quantum entanglement and string theory, but only when im super stoned.
The parents who misunderstood intermittent punishment and created a generation of kinksters. Woohoo.
What does the "intermittent" part have to do with passing trauma and kinks down?
I just talk about my stupid interests all the time. Do you all not do that?
I try to, but some of them are very niche, so it can be hard to find someone willing to listen. Especially for things like programming language design!
Currently? GURPS. It's such a fascinating TTRPG. On one hand, it's extremely simple (roll 3d6 ≤ skill level + modifiers). On the other hand, it has an encyclopedic catalogue of skills and modifiers to accommodate anything from cavemen to reality-warping future civilizations. If you want, it can be extremely gritty and detailed, more than whatever you're thinking of right now; or dead simple and narrative driven
The ridiculous breadth of options make it look really complicated, so people get intimidated. I think I'm it's hard for people to wrap their head around just how optional all the granular rules are.
my mental issues 🥴
Wanna have a go? I'd be happy to listen, as far as is possible through text :)
Tolkien Lore. And WWI.
Are you familliar with the imgurian Ngugi? I could read that stuff for hours on end.
... not the same as proper discussions with likeminded people, but still super interesting IMHO.
I was not. Thats awesome. Thanks for sharing!
Well don't keep us waiting, tell some!
Tolkien Lore Quick Fact:
Technically speaking Aragorn married his first cousin 65+ times removed.
WWI Quick Fact:
While thought of as a defensive struggle that lead to stalemates, generals at the time weren’t necessarily wrong to keep up the attack. Both sides were able to capture ground. Including enemy trenches. The issue was that neither side could bring reinforcements or supplies up to support those breakthroughs and keep the offensive going faster than the defenders could.
programming problems, retro tech stuff, music in depth (e.g. theory level), star trek, half-life and mother series
I personally love both Half-Life and the Mother series! Still eagerly waiting for HL3 or Project Borealis. I should replay Mother 3 some time... Haven't done Earthbound actually, that should probably go first!
play it. please!
Late 90s early 2000s Japanese mixed martial arts and kickboxing. Pride, pancrase, k1. People still talk about the UFC today, i just think "you don't even know..."
Major League Baseball history. Old time teams, players and stats, the broader historical context with its' events, attitudes and quirks... the whole thing.
Digital mixers. I know a lot of people who use them and know them but very few know how they work internally which is fascinating and interesting and the only people who do are under NDA's
What's digital mixers? Music production mixer?
Yeah
I admit, at the beginning when you just said 'digital mixers,' I thought that I could talk about the early days of them to you back when I was a studio manager, but the inner workings I know nothing about.
Formula 1, but talking about it here really isn't the same. I want to have a conversation with someone about it, get excited, or upset, with them, the internet just doesn't do it.
I'll talk about it with you!
I guess giving advice on job hunting and interviewing. I've done it so much and learned a lot, I can literally SEE how absolutely NOT confident ppl are about job hunting. ( which I get. More precisely they don't see their value)
More importantly, they are blind to their value on the market and believe a toxic work environment is normal and hating their life because they hate their job making them miserable is just a part of working.
When really, when you see and acknowledge your worth, you don't take that shit. You have a CHOICE. Employment isn't a one way street. And employers realize that and treat you with respect.
Idk it's a whole thing.
It's interesting that you're writing this, because I've literally just quit my job due to these reasons, and am starting to look for new things. Any particular tips you'd like to share?
Well you got this, and congrats on standing up for yourself by getting out of that shit whole environment. It's not normal and not something you should accept.
Apply only to jobs you are qualified for that meet your expectations. Expectations? They pay adequately, the hours are decent, it's not to far from where you live, and their job requirements aren't insane.
Insane job requirements? Toxic employers say this on their job posting;
"Must be able to work under consistent pressure in a stressful environment while handling multiple tasks at once. Must be able to work a flexible schedule with little notice including nights, weekends and holidays. Must be on call. Must be able to complete other duties as assigned not directly relating to X role. Must be able to take direction. Must be obsessed with customer satisfaction. Customer service, customer service, customer service. (Employers obsessed with customer service care more about the customer then they do about you. So they'll treat you like shit and let customers treat you like shit. You basically don't matter)
Any misspellings and their job posting, requiring a cover letter, and requiring quizzes questionnaires and personality assessments. Employers seriously looking to hire the right candidate don't waste their time on bullshit like that. If you're qualified they will schedule you for an in-person interview within a drop of a hat.
Look at Google reviews glassdoor and indeed and get rid of your LinkedIn profile (unless you're in tech) LinkedIn is used to SCREEN YOU OUT.
Employers don't need to see your connections, a picture of what you look like, and your inspirational statement. all they need is your resume and if they feel that you're qualified they can schedule you for an interview that's all they need to know is the information that's on your damn resume.
Realize you're worth and have some standards. Don't let employers dick you around. Because they will and once you show them that you respect yourself and your time it's easier to weed through the bullshiters and you'll find and actually good healthy employer.
Anyway lol I could go on all day lol
By any chance do you have some go-to examples of good resumes you like to point people to as what to do with theirs vs. what not to do? I realize this will vary given jobs and you should tailor it accordingly, but some base starting points are better than nothing.
https://www.blueskyresumes.com/
This helped me tremendously. Look at their before and after examples.
I did my resume 14 times until I saw this and was finally done using the examples they gave
I'm gonna pick your brain in a couple months.
Ok lol