Y'all I've been too embarrassed to tell my therapist but the way I pulled myself out of a deep depression a few months ago was because I started masturbating regularly, which I had never done before. It's not working very well anymore but now when I talk to them it's like "oh well what were you doing differently last time you felt better?" Idk man, it's a mystery.
no psychologist here, but wouldn't the "doing nothing different" be the cause?
maybe try a few toys, there's so many types these days, putting stuff up in the ass is also a good choice, lots of pleasure points there for both sexes
maybe you could find some relieve exploring your own body? that worked somewhat for me, maybe I've become a pervert or a degenerate, but I feel very good about myself and with myself
Also just talking about your kinks and other things you're ashamed of with people you trust is really helpful in clearing that. Shame will hold you back from being true to yourself, and it's not worth it.
Exploring my body unfortunately causes quite a bit of dysphoria for me which is why I rarely used to do it in the first place, but maybe I'll work with them on that issue first and then I can try exploring haha.
You're not a pervert, it's great you can feel comfortable and enjoy yourself (as long as you're not doing it in front of non-consenting parties...)
It served as a source of novel pleasure, now it's just pleasure. Something else that's new and exciting could be what you're looking for, just make sure it doesn't turn to excessive drug use or something else thats irresponsible
When I got a hernia a couple years ago I couldn't for 3 months due to pain before the surgery‡ and then 2 months after the surgery (doc said 2 weeks but there was still too much pain in the area)
That was hard
‡ Had to wait 3 months because my insurance was insisting it was an "optional" surgery because it didn't have my guts pinched so they were not wanting to cover it. My doc was insistent that it wasn't optional due to the level of pain I was in. In the end the doc won and it was covered.
Progress update, been going out with friends a bunch, every weekend, concert, movies n shiz. Invited friends to my house for a party n shiz and was fun, got laid with one of the friends I've been hanging out the most. It's chill tho it's kinda a bit of friends with benefits, but ahahaha they're like sooo much nicer and sweeter with hella more interests in common compared to my last ex. I wont end up dating them cuz I just wanna have friends but it makes me happy knowing that my standards could be way higher for next time.
I've been feeling hella more self motivated and awake, more than ever. Going from an online relationship to actually going out n shiz is like the best thing I've done. It's tragic how my last relationship ended but now I'm a bit more glad it happened. Still friends with them msg them ocassionally but I had taken a long break from them to reset my mindset.
I'm enjoying my friends, the one friend with benefits might end up to come back to bite me in the ass due to getting feelings but we're still being good friends and they already asked if I wanna hang out this weekend again ahahah. Life good atm, but will def get a therapist at some point.