A reasonable position and uncritical acceptance of a narrative are indistinguishable without the reasoning behind it. And I sincerely wish I could give others the benefit of the doubt that they reasoned their way to their beliefs, and I used to. But that assumption has been repeatedly violated that I'd be stupid to maintain it.
If your perspective differs, then to the extent that it's not extremely outrageous, all the better!
Argumentation doesn't require a shared perspective and shared axioms (except concerning the conduct of arguing). Fundamentally, it requires that we be willing to be taken on the perspective of others and lead them to where we are, or allow ourselves to be led to where they are. This isn't common on online discussions because of the incentives of online "debates", which isn't to be persuaded or to spend time typing out thoughtful responses with which someone can bite and chew on to serve up something equally worthwhile.
In other words, it's not that people disagree that's the problem. It's how we disagree that leads to the cesspool that internet discussions often devolve into. If you want to argue and try to understand another person, then there's no reason that can't happen.
If it's a subjective matter then no. Like if you thought Blade Runner sucked I might disagree with your opinion but respect that it's a matter of taste and so I won't recommend you see the sequel.
If you're just using "opinion" as a shield for something objective then yes I will. And I will laugh at you for thinking the sky is falling is a matter of opinion.
Depending on what you mean by respect and opinion, yes. If you're discussing an opinion then someone is probably going to expect you to explain why, that's a logical point to cover in any such discussion. Even if it's subjective. If it's an opinion on something objective, then there's an actual burden of "proof" and possible consequences, and the stakes rise accordingly.
There aren't many reasons to "properly" respect an opinion that is irrational (not just subjective), factually wrong ("interpretation" only goes so far), dishonest, or anything like that. I'm skeptical of endorsing any opinion until I know why it is what it is.
People that spend energy on arguing their right to have opinions rather than defending the opinion are deeply uninteresting and often stupid people that I don't not respect in any capacity.
I described a behaviour and two qualities. I said that people with the behaviour often have these two qualities. I then said I dont respect people with that behaviour.
There are a lot if people that are stupid but still fun and interesting people. They have skills that I don't have and perspectives that I don't have. They have found ways to interact with the world that works with their shortcomings. I respect them.
Some stupid people decide to hide their stupidity by spending a lot of time arguing that they shouldn't have to elaborate on their opinion and we should treat all opinions the same without scrutiny. They dont grow, they dont learn, they make their own shortcomings other peoples problem. I dont respect them.
Yes, you do need a good argument. And no, Forced sterilization and eugenics isn't a good argument or even a conversation worth dignifying.
Edit: OP has deleted their post after an avalanche of downvotes and dissenting comments. I have some screenshots, although I expect OP to delete this post too.
It depends on how harmful that opinion is. You prefer vanilla ice cream because you like the mild flavor - cool, difference of opinion. You prefer there were no same-sex marriages because your religion is against it - no, that affects other people’s lives so if you want me to respect that opinion you would have to have a good argument.
If it seems like an unexamined opinion or an opinion based on faulty logic, yes.
However I will often respect opinions if the person owns up to the non logic of it, even if the opinion affects me. Ie: "we should paint the living room this color because it's better than the other choice" I need to know your reasoning and your plan for decorating. "I don't know why, but I just feel in my gut this is the right color for me" I'm in, no further discussion needed. Same goes for vacation spots, daily activities, even bigger decisions like what car to get or what neighborhood to live in. I respect that you understand this opinion is based on nothing tangible and I will respect that.
I can't support or respect when my partner or friend feels strongly about something but their opinion is based on crap logic or no information whatsoever but they won't own up to that for some reason.
What do you mean by respect? And is it an actual opinion, like “chocolate is delicious”, or is it just something bigoted you believe? That’s usually what people mean when they want “respect” for their “opinion”. If that’s the case, no, I don’t respect it and I don’t respect you.
Also by respect do you mean let you think your opinion without trying to convince you otherwise or do you mean allow your opinion to affect me without complaint
I would say yes. The only time you don’t is when I already agree with you, but that’s because I (hopefully) already know the good argument.
I don’t believe in “common sense”, that’s just the biases someone already has. Some of them correct, some of them not, all unchecked therefore all invalid as a basis for anything.
Science doesn’t have values, and policy needs values. Science can tell you the best way to achieve your values, but if your values don’t align with the values of the majority of people, then you’re going to use science to make people unhappy.
It sounds like you just want to impose your values onto other people, which is precisely what democracy was invented to protect people against.
Can you give an example of what you mean by someone respecting your opinion and someone not respecting it?
As many others have said in this thread, it comes down to how you define "respect" and "opinion". Based on some of your responses, I think you are using a broad definition of "opinion", though some more clarification might be useful there. If you're worried about partisanship adding bias, try offering equivalent opinions from different directions as examples, eg "I think Trump should be president" and "I think Biden should be president".
When I read through the thread earlier, I stopped at 3. Looking more thoroughly now, I see it was just those 3. But it is telling that that's the only part you responded to, like you're not here for a discussion but to prove some point.
If it's a totally subjective opinion, no. You can like food I don't, or even have kinks I don't.
If it's even slightly fact-based, kind of yes, unless you keep it entirely to yourself. I don't have to agree with it to respect it, though, if you have any reasonable kind of argument.
Like someone else said, in practice nobody actually cares what I respect.
good. no. valid. yes. as long as the premise is reasonable and its logical. If its about how you feel or everyone does it type of thing I just won't care as long as it just effects you.
I have friends who i disagree with but respect because i know they've considered different angles and made a decision that feels right to them. I have friends who i disagree with and do not respect because they believe (or pretend to believe?) what their family, husband, tv tell them and can't express any real thoughts or opinions of their own.
If your opinion is that kittens are cute, I'm on board. If your opinion is that everyone over 30 should be sterilized unless they are in a top 10 percent earning category, you're going to have to work for respect for that, and better have a damn convincing argument.
If you're a vetted expert in the field in question. Yes, I'll give your opinion weight. I e. The millions of scientists and doctors talking about vaccines.
If you're a chad who watched a YouTube video, no I'll dismiss you as the idiot you are.
This is a spread from yes to no where "yee" applies to hypothetical things that are fully objective and "no" to hypothetical things that are fully subjective
Depends on how consequential it is. If it's about Taylor Swift it doesn't matter, feel however you want, but if it's about how society should be run than yeah you kinda do
It depends on what your opinion is and what you mean by respect.
If your opinion is not well explained or backed up by evidence/logic and isn't something completely subjective, what is there to respect?
If your opinion is reprehensible, downright stupid, or ignorant? You have access to the entire base of human knowledge and are still ignorant, so what is there to respect?
Your opinion is completely logical/uncontroversial or is well backed by evidence? Where does respect come into it?
I wanted to type something really snarky, but I'm trying to be better than that.
So I refer you to the fact that you should still have respect for someone's opinion even if they don't have complete knowledge on it, or to put it your way "You have access to the entire base of human knowledge and are still ignorant, so what is there to respect?".
People are allowed to have opinions that should be respected even though they don't have complete knowledge of a subject
“Chocolate is better than vanilla” is surprisingly ambiguous. If you said “I prefer chocolate over vanilla” there’s no argument because that’s a subjective statement. If you said “the human pallet prefers chocolate to vanilla, thus those that prefer vanilla are defective” well now you have made far more than a subjective statement that also labels those that don’t share it, you have to be prepared to defend that. If you said “chocolate is healthier than vanilla” then you might need to at least be able to provide some facts and figures like lower sugar content or something.
The point is: when it’s a matter of subjective preference, presented in a way that makes no judgments of dissenters, no arguments should be expected. Making a claim of fact may require evidence. And making a critique of others is asking for a fight.
But “respect” for a belief can have many meanings. I’m not going to try to change your beliefs unless you’re into that. So I’ll respect them in that sense. But I’m not going to adopt your beliefs or act them out just because you have them.
Depends on what it is about. We meet and you say :
You're vegan. Good.
You use Linux. Good.
You're on the Fediverse. Good.
You love bicycles. Good.
Now we meet again and you talk about privacy and then ask for my WhatsApp number (which is non existing) to continue that conversation later -> The heat is on! 🔥
I can respect the opinion of someone who is not making any arguments. I can respect the opinion of someone who mostly makes bad arguments but sometimes makes good arguments. I probably won't respect the opinion of someone who only makes terrible arguments, especially if they are also an asshole about it.
I don't think in terms of respect about something like this as this leans towards some kind of snobbery or predudice. Either I agree or don't. Regardless of any perceived level of knowledge or intelligence behind an argument, I'll respond as a point of advancing shared knowledge rather than trying to 'win'.
Not necessarily. If you have a lot of experience or a different perspective and you seem trustworthy to me, you don't need to have a good argument. On the other hand, if someone else comes along with a good argument why your opinion is wrong, I will start doubting you.
For example, if you've been growing potatoes for 30 years, you don't have to explain the biochemistry of potatoes for me to respect your advice. And if you're a black person telling me that our town is terribly racist, I will believe you without needing a list of every single racist incident that happened to you.
No, you could have great arguments while being an ass. When you don't argue from any morals or ethics, or a ground floor of ascertaining the truth, I have zero respect for your opinions. I don't really care about what a 'good' argument looks like, it doesn't even need to be good, as long as your grounded in reality and ethics, you're fine.
depends on the opinion and what you mean by "respect", i suppose. i will say though that if someone goes around spouting baseless nonsense and expects to be taken seriously, i will probably respect them less as a person.
It helps, but ultimately my perception will overrule your opinion if the two conflict. I tend to not listen to or express opinion much—he says, about to express his opinion... It's like belief, where gaps of knowledge are filled by faith/assumption in order to reach a certain point of belief. An opinion is reached the same and implies there.could be (a lot) more time spent on assumption than checking other avenues. Afterall, if your opinion were true, it wouldn't be an opinion, it would just be what is. You'd be able to share the existing knowledge, not argue it. The more knowledge you can share, the more valid it is...unless I have a perception of value like first-hand experience or as a subject matter expert.
Although, keep in mind that I'll show you the same respect as you show me. We don't need.to respect each other's opinions.