And that's how I met your mother

The annoying thing is that the annoying guys are more likely to get a date, while they just go about their day. Not because they are better, or because their methods are good, but purely because they approach more people.

I hate making people feel uncomfortable (no matter their gender), so I always struggled finding "spontaneous" dates, or even dancing with strangers at a club/party.

The only thing that really worked for me was using dating apps, where both parties have implicitly indicated that they are looking for dates in general (because they're on the app) and explicitly indicated that they are interested in each other (by liking their profile, or whatever).

Although I've heard the apps have all gotten worse lately, I wouldn't really know, as I found someone on Tinder years ago, and now we're happily married.

There's no need to even ask them out right away. Just having a casual conversation and making them speak of their interests can warm them to you.

Are they your coworker? Sigh at how needy clients are, tell how you want to have a break, ask what they want to do when they have them. Discuss details.

A cinema worker is harder, but you can play a dummy and ask them if they see the movies screened there and can vouch for some of them or if they can suggest some snack from a bar, to break the ice.

People like talking about themselves. All have hilarious stories to tell. One needs to make them open up and react in a supportive way. Looking up interviewers on youtube can get one a better idea of how it's done than these greesy pick-up artists. Genuinely enjoying a conversation rather than being hungry for a pussy\dick and making it all about yourself is a great start.

What you describe is absolutely the way to do it without looking weird. Don't be aggressive about it, accept a no or an awkward silence or similar as being a no, respond in a pleasant tone and not an aggressive one, and you should be pretty good to go without being seen as a creep, as long as you don't repeat it later. Of course, don't make a point of going around hitting on women in gyms or who are at work, but it can be done tactfully.

See some cute girl naked in your bed "nope, she's just tired"

See some cute girl waiting in your bed "nope, she probably just wants a nap"

Who comes up with this stuff. Date whoever you want, YOLO

I've seen work relationships go very badly but I've also seen them go very well. I met my wife at work so it worked out great for me.

Best advice I can give is, if you want to date people you work with, make sure you're ok with quitting your job. If things go south it might come to that. Use good judgement. Don't date your boss or one of your subbordinates. That's a great way to get fired out of a canon.

Okay so what if you're from one of the many countries where asking people out on dates isn't really a thing?

You’re not wrong. There’s nothing wrong with asking once. Take the answer for what it is, yes, great, no, then it’s no and you’re done. It’s all easier said than done though for me.

Now put yourself in the girl's place and multiply that interaction for all the guys that tried to pick her up. Does that change your tune?

I had never seen that, it was amazing thank you. Sums up my feelings pretty well!

I've dated a coworker. For various reasons, I wouldn't recommend it.

That seems pretty accurate.

"Which was the original slogan for Tinder".

That was also the name of my sex-tape.

I've known women who intentionally made themselves look less attractive so as not to get hit on. Sad really.

Always sunny in Philadelphia

"He can drive you. Babe come help this..." looks you up and down "...man."

"well, so do i. what coincidence."

Either he couldn’t afford a ring or isn’t fully committed. How’s tonight sound?

Nothing worse than a ‘what if’ haunting you forever.

Sorry, there is something much worst: a continuous avalanche of incredulous and horrified rejections.

I don’t think this fits the worst she can say is ‘no’ since he broke his foot to try and force a yes. Seems much harsher if she didn’t even show basic human compassion because she would have to spend time with him.

I am the watcher. Follow me as we ponder the question "what. if."

In the original timeline the girl drove me to the hospital. But in this different timeline Steve Rogers walked in the door of the gym asked the girl on a date and carried me to the hospital....

I could see that, and I had that trouble myself when I was young and probably still would now, but the whole 'swipe left' 'swipe right' thing and having to go through a bunch of random online chats with random people until you find one willing to go get a beer with you and then hope that you contact them back after their unstated but required minimum number of days and that they will agree to get a beer with you again... it just sounds so exhausting. Even just making a profile which would have to be tailored to get people to want to date me sounds exhausting. And I barely even have any pictures of myself, let alone ones I think would work on a dating profile. I don't have the energy anymore. I think I'd just end up being single for the rest of my life unless something happened by chance. I have a few terminally single friends my age. They appear to have stopped looking.

And then all the helpful weightlifting gym dudes help you out while the girl you like looks on and then goes back to her workout because they've got this.

It's partially true though. Pretty privilege is a thing, even for men.

I'm actually an antinatalist. 🤣

No incel here. No girl problems.