Trans
- www.autostraddle.com On Being a Trans Organizer Building Power for the Bigger We
There are many people, cis and trans, who will fight to win a better world.
One of my favourite Autostraddle posts of all time.
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Favorite Binder So Far
www.underworks.com Mens Cotton Concealer Compression Muscle ShirtThe perfectly-fitted Cotton Compression Muscle Shirt stretches as your body moves. Strong inner layers bind your chest and flatten your belly. Shop Underworks.
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13660667
> I got this "binder" recently. I like it better than any one I've had so far (I'd estimate that I've gone through about eight from various brands). > > Pros: > > -Very breathable, can exercise in it without feeling like death > > -Not terrible in hot weather > > -Doesn't show under a lot of shirts, though if you have a shirt with a wide neck it'll show, but does look like an undershirt as opposed to a bra since the neck is high. > > -Helps with hiding hip fat > > -Feels natural. I forget I'm wearing this sometimes. Probably would be fine sleeping in it as well, though it's good practice to take breaks. > > > Cons: > > -If you have a bigger chest this isn't gonna do the best of jobs binding since it's got less compression than a typical binder. It's still not the worst option in that case, but you won't look completely flat. It's worked well for me flatness wise. > > -I wouldn't wear this by itself because it doesn't fit like a regular shirt. Definitely looks an undergarment. > > -It smells like a McDonald's playground right out of the package. I recommend you add baking soda into the wash to get the smell out faster. > > -I suspect this will stretch out the longer I use it. The solution is to dry it on low as opposed to air dry it. It's got cotton in it so it'll shrink. > > > I recommend you only get it in black or white if your concern is passing. A lot of cis men will wear undershirts (typically in white, sometimes black, but never in nude). > > If you're in-between measurements, order a size up. I made the mistake of getting a size down and I wasn't even able to get it over my head. Had to exchange it which took a while. > > If you're interested in a binder with flatter coverage I will post a review of the underworks ultimate binder if requested. Underworks is by far my favorite binder brand for many reasons.
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looking for a book about transgender, how the topic is handled in different countrys and the journey trans people go through
Hello, in the last months I habe taken an interest in the journey trans people go trough to be officially recognized as the gender they are and the surgical operations many go through to adapt their body to their Gender, how it differs in different states, and what can be done to improve this. Unfortunately (as you have probably read in the last sentence) I have no idea about anything regarding this topic. Therefore, I am asking if you know any worthwhile books, websites or any other resources where I can inform myself about these topics, preferably they should be in English or German, but I can just as well use a translator if it is any other language. Thank you for your answers in advance!
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How's your week been?
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TW: Bad politics - election where i'm from gone terrible
I'm so scared...
I'm from a small central European country called Austria. We recently had elections for our EU representative. Sadly, the HEAVILY conservative party (formerly the same party that Hitler was in) won.
Literally all that they want to do is just objectively wrong - from ignoring climate change to leaving the EU, and that's not even mentioning their views on us queer folk.
Seeing as how this election turned out, I'm so incredibly scared of the next one (nationalratswahl) because, if they get elected there too, they can cause some serious damage to Austria/us. I'm actually so scared that I feel the need to kinda rush my transition now (mainly meaning legal name/gender change).
I actually genuinely feel ashamed living here sometimes. And yes, I am thinking of leaving the country if it gets worse but it's really not that easy for me currently...
I'm sorry for the rant but I'm just incredibly scared about my safety here in the future. I also don't have any other place to rant this to ;-;
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How's your week been?
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What's the story of your name?
Just to have some conversation here I'm curious how you chose your name if you've already chosen one and what the story behind it is? And if you haven't chosen your name yet, maybe people are able to help you decide.
As for me it was always pretty clear which name I would choose because a few years before even realising I'm trans much less coming out I asked my mum what name I would have gotten if I was born a girl. She told me that I always successfully hid my genitals on every ultrasound picture (kind of prophetic in hindsight) so my parents had to choose a name for both possibilities. And thus a name was already chosen for me that fit perfectly. 🥰
I'm curious to hear your stories!
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turbulence
the waves crashing down are a terrible thing but the sounds on the shore where the little birds sing can be all that i need to keep going despite all the troubles surviving the ocean at night
i want to keep going; i cannot concede to the violence within causing me to recede
i know that i can't always gain what i seek but i know not how to escape from such a bleak and foreboding dismay of ideas in my mind and the fairy tale ending that's so hard to find
the journey itself is a battle it seems but there's hope in my heart to fulfill all my dreams
and i think that i must not sink further below
this struggle is real and i can still feel the undertow
but i will go on
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How's your week been?
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undertow
i try to escape when it feels like i'm being pulled down and i don't know how to get out of here
being held under the surface fighting for a purpose igniting several verses
as it all goes gray i fear for today and the promise of tomorrow there's bound to be sorrow i wish i could borrow the power to eliminate this dread and despair and somehow to repair myself
it's almost too much to stay where i am to battle my demons to debate why the land that i know is the road to no- where
and if i can somehow overcome this now and keep from being pulled down again i'd still have to try to make a break for the shore and i don't know what to do anymore i'm trapped on the floor watching waves crash above but i'm guided by Love
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Codependency Issues in the LGBTQ+ Community
theaddictedmind.com 198 Dealing with Codependency Issues in the LGBTQ+ Community with Miriam Geiger - The Addicted Mind PodcastThe LGBTQ community has long been underserved by the mental health care system as well as recovery supports, despite being an increasingly visible and sizable part of the general population. In part, this is due to the ongoing discrimination and prejudice that members of the LGBTQ community face on ...
Have you been in a codependent relationship?
My transition has helped me realize just how bad the codependency was in my marriage. Things are really rough for me currently as we try and untangle the destructive habits.
I have never had a sense of identity outside of my relationship with my wife. Now that is changing, it means my marriage must change with it... or not.
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How's your week been?
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- www.cbsnews.com New Nintendo "Paper Mario" remake features transgender character
In the remake of the Nintendo game "Paper Mario: The Thousand-Year Door" the character Vivian reveals she is transgender.
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How's your week been?
If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.
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I want to get into voice training and have no baseline
As the title says, I want to get into being more feminine with my voice, however, I find that I am highly inconsistant where I begin to slip out of it. I also dont know what parts I from my old voice should remain and what should change. It feels fake, like a unholy mix of micky mouse and logdotzip. Some of my best voice recordings make me excited but reminds me how fucked my default voice is. I swear, ive reached that voice almost instinctively whilst in euphoria and now cant find it again.
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Going mute when trying to come out? Any tips?
Hi all! I'm a trans woman who's known since I was a kid. My classmates brought up the topic of being trans once in class, and I remember mentioning my desire to "maybe become a woman when I grow up", as I put it. I can't remember the reaction clearly, but I must've been pretty put off since I didn't attempt to talk about it for quite a while after.
Fast forward to me being about 14. I get a deep episode of dysphoria and instead of hiding away like I usually would, I go to my mother, entirely pale in the face. We talk a bit in private and the only thing I can get out of my mouth is that I don't feel like a boy. She takes it as me not feeling like I live up to the gender norms and tries to solve that. Meanwhile I can't keep talking. My brain stops producing words at all and I just can't say anything.
This happens a lot of times over the years every time my mother asks me to buy new clothes for myself, every time the same complete shutdown. I really just want to continue working this out, and I'm in desperate need of new clothes, since I haven't bought any in years. I hate buying men's clothes, but if I continue boy-moding when I go back home, I'd have to buy new ones.
Thank you for reading this, whoever you are. I'm running on practically no sleep so I apologize if this is wordy, or unclear in any way. I just need to be done with this.
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The Forgotten History of the World's First Trans Clinic [The Institute for Sexual Research, founded by Doctor Magnus Hirschfeld in Berlin, Germany (1919-1933)]
web.archive.org The Forgotten History of the World's First Trans ClinicThe Institute for Sexual Research in Berlin would be a century old if it hadn’t fallen victim to Nazi ideology
"Love is as varied as people are."
~Magnus Hirschfeld (date unknown)
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How's your week been?
If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.
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The past I've never had
I can't help but think at night Of that which never was, but might.
I've faced the demons deep inside And found the answers that they hide. But if I'd known it all back then, Just think how much it could've changed...
It took so long to find the way That most are trailing every day, And now they seem so far ahead. I miss the past I've never had, Where all I took so long to see Were always clear, and I'd be free.
How can I catch up with the rest? How can I make up for the past? Is it too late to change my fate? Have I missed the train of luck? Has life gone by while I was stuck?
-- Lady Scarecrow
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The annual gender census of 2024 is now open
Link to the survey itself: https://www.smartsurvey.co.uk/s/GenderCensus2024
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How's your week been?
If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.
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Who has been your biggest support during your transition?
And how have they shown that support to you?
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Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room
cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/13674539
> Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room > > If you are having issues finding housing as a trans person or would like to help others, consider joining this new matrix chat room. > > Sharing and updoots appreciated.
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trans girl searching for friends in southeast Louisiana
Hi, I'm Emma! If you recognize my avi from Matrix chat rooms, yes I'm that Emma. 😊
Ada and others can verify that I'm legit.
So, long story short:
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I am lonely
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I wanna befriend some local trans people here in southeast Louisiana
About me:
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I started HRT January 2023
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I have ESP! (Estrogen Spironolactone Progesterone)
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I'm a Linux nerd
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I use QubesOS
I'm making this post here, because this is a much bigger audience than the Matrix chat rooms, but I am also nervous.
I know the odds are still against me, but I have to try.
Edit:
DMs between Lemmy and Kbin/Mbin still do not work, so here is my Lemmy account:
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How's your week been?
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I'm the Duluth Critter
Hey all, I'm a cis ally in the upper Midwest of the USA. I offered a room to Keris a while back and she accepted.
She got here Wednesday night and things are going very well. She likes me, my wife, and our cats and one dog, and is learning to tolerate the other.
She has an attic bedroom that is her space alone.
She has time to unwind and figure out what she wants to do without fear of being dumped on the streets.
I just wanted to let you all know that we have taken her in and that she is safe and loved.
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Fashion Friday!
The first friday of every month is Fashion Friday! Give us your favourite fashion tips, tell us what you love wearing, or even post a photo!
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How's your week been?
If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.
https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/
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How's your week been?
If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.
https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/
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Those of you that have children. What does it mean to be a dad or mom to you?
Been a while since I've posted here but missed you all!
I'd love for this to be a discussion question, but also I am legitimately asking.
I have a beautiful son who helped crack my egg when he was born. But I'm still struggling understanding what being a mom means other than "just how I feel"
I never had good blueprints for being a father or mother so all I know is generally "how to be a parent"
But I'm curious to those of you that have children. What does being a mother mean to you? What does being a father mean to you?
Thank you
-Liv
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How's your week been?
If you are thinking about harming yourself — get immediate crisis support. Connect to a crisis counselor 24/7, 365 days a year, from anywhere in the U.S via text, chat, or phone. The Trevor Project is 100% confidential and 100% free.
https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/
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The ghost
When I was born, so was a ghost. When anyone would look at me, It was the ghost they'd really see.
I was a child, and couldn't tell. I thought I was that ghost as well. But, slowly, truth would start to show. And when at last I let them know...
...They turned their heads and sought the ghost. The ghost was all they wished to see. The ghost was who they loved the most. The ghost of who they thought me to be.
It's been so long, and still they yearn What's only lived inside their minds. I wonder if they'll ever learn That while they seek what none can find, And fail to let me into their hearts, We both end hurt, and drift apart.
-- Lady Scarecrow
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Important Healthcare Information
Hey y'all,
This is specifically for people in the US healthcare system.
If you are getting a test or procedure done, ask them what the cost is without insurance. It may end up being significantly cheaper.
I had to go get a basic metabolic panel blood test today and they were going to charge me $350. When I asked what the cost was without insurance, it was $100. Mind you, I have good insurance. It's around $1500 a month.
This has happened multiple other times with different people that I know. Just asking could save you a significant amount of money.