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There's also being uncomfortable/unsafe with legal documents. If your legal docs haven't been changed (or are impossible to change) then your employer can see all of that and can discriminate accordingly (especially in states that do not provide protection from discrimination based on gender identity). And legal documents are used for more than just that as well. I find myself avoiding things like voting, using my bank card, and looking for higher paying employment opportunities because they're all tied to legal docs and open up an opportunity (real or perceived) for discrimination. And don't get me started on the cost of treatment...
How can we change oppressive policies?
I've come across bad news that my home state has passed a really shitty law regarding trans people. Are there things I can do to help change this and all of the other shitty policies and attitudes at home?
On god the day that trans youth don't have to go through what I went through in the US will be the day that I am happy
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Trying to get both my ADHD and T medication for an affordable price has been an absolute pain in the ass for these past few weeks and i dont know if ill resolve it or not.
On the bright side, I am about to start the process of changing my legal name and getting top surgery, so i'm happy about that.
College has been stressful with the workload and I'm still trying to keep my head above the water with that. I think I'm slowly starting to manage but it's a process. I've had some instances of transphobia which were very unexpected because the college I go to is a generally accepting place with a lot of queer people. Most people are okay, just a few bad apples. It doesn't affect me as much as it did before but still hurts. I've made friends that I trust and enjoy being around and who would give me the shirt off their back and that's what matters most to me. Still struggling with dysphoria sometimes but I think it will lessen as time goes by.
I did see it and i think it's a really insightful reply. I hope to have some free time soon to digest all of these replies and respond thoughtfully. Been extremely busy with schoolwork. Thank you for your thoughtful response!
Question
I want to preface this by saying that we have a zero tolerance policy for transphobia. Your comment will be removed and you will be banned if you spout transphobia here. Our existence is not up for debate.
That said, how do you differentiate being transgender and being trans racial?
I'm curious how to answer this question in a good faith debate with someone. Emotionally I know that they're not the same and that one is wrong and the other is not wrong, but I'm unsure as to why that is and am curious if anyone else has given any thought about it.
Which is cheaper: T gel packets or pumps?
My insurance denied covering my testosterone for the second time (UGH) and I can't afford the packets I usually take here ($120 even with goodrx) so I'm wondering if the gel pump would be cheaper. Anybody know?
i did voice training long before i started T. My voice usually passed. Had a naturally low voice to begin with. The thing I was most afraid of was my voice i was okay with going to shit but luckily that didnt happen.
I've never heard of losing it entirely where you can't talk, but I have heard about times it has been greatly reduced in quality, tone, and range permanently. Usually this happens if you start on a very high dose of T without building up to it.
Slowly hatching into my new self
I wanted to give an update on my progress:
My voice has gotten much better. There was a period of time where it was almost hard to speak and I could barely sing and thought my voice would sound like shit forever but I am happy to report that it has leveled out. It even sounds good and has a rich tone.
Losing my voice peremantly was my biggest fear with starting T. Took the risk and I am so glad that it didn't happen.
There's the nod down which is for men you dont know and the nod up for men you do know from my expierence
Something funny (and not funny) that happened to me is that someone who did not know I was trans thought I'd be transphobic because (presumably) I'm from the south and shared with me all of their shitty opinions on trans people in private thinking I'd agree with them
i don't think it's objective fact but it does make me feel that way sometimes, yeah. Maybe it's a cultural or age difference.
I shave my face for the peach fuzz every couple of days but I cleanse it beforehand. Ive been eating a bunch of sugar which probably isnt helping
Insecurities
After moving states to a much more progressive one i feel like i get clocked all of the time here, whereas back home that rarely ever happened. When i pass by male strangers they dont do the nod thing to me. its very disconcerting. I get they'd by people who don't know me. I wish I could know what it was that makes people clock me like that. It feels like I'm not man enough here. Not being stealth feels like being naked. I don't like it.
Part of me wants to talk about my experiences as a trans man because it is a unique expierence that needs to be known, but at the same time I feel like as soon as I tell people I'm trans I automatically become Man Lite™ and a bunch of assumptions are made about me. And then I'm not man enough and am not treated as any other man would be treated. I wish T would do its magic already. I'm constantly feeling dysphoric these days.
How do i control acne
i have a decent amount of acne after starting T. I wash my face every night with a cleanser scrub thing but still get lots of blackheads and pimples. Any tips at how to minimize this?
Ten months on T, not a single facial hair
ive been ten months on T, got plenty of new hair everywhere except my face. havent even gotten one new hair there. all the men in my family have no trouble growing facial hair. why tf am i not getting a single one
New freckles on T
I've been having new permanent freckles appearing on my body since starting T. Is this a thing anybody else has expierenced
Pictures post transition
I've noticed that when I used to see myself in pictures I'd hyper assess every little detail of it to check for passing. Now when I see myself in pictures I don't do that anymore. Anybody else notice the same thing?
Know any transmascs?
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/15223477
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Know any transmascs?
We need more transmasculine people (and people in general) on here. If you know a transmasculine person please get them to check this place out. Spread the word!
Using An STP Can Be A Bit Of A Challenge, To Say The Least. If You're Having Trouble With Your STP Packer, Here Are Our Essential Tips To Help You Out.
Annoyed with tgsupply for very long order wait times and being out of stock of almost everything I was gonna get but this article is helpful nonetheless.
My progress with T
It's been about six and a half months that I've been on T and I have seen great progress.
I have been on 25mg of 1% gel this entire time, but my T levels (last time they were checked, which has been a while) have shown up in normal cis male levels, so it seems that my body is processing it as it would a normal dose (50mg of 1%).
My voice has changed some and singing got a lot harder. It's gotten better since but is still not where I would like it to be. I hear it'll get better with time. I think I will likely end up a baritone (pre-t was a tenor on the high end)
Been getting hairier, but not much substantial growth on my face. Mainly on my stomach. Arm and leg hair has gotten thicker but since it's blond it's not very noticeable.
Shoulders look somewhat broader. My chest has gotten substantially smaller and looks more like moobs than boobs now. Other than that body fat redistribution has been slow and is not happening as quickly as I would like.
Self image has improved a lot. I can stand to look at myself in the mirror without immediately recoiling now. I can actually bear to look at photographs of myself now, even when I'm not binding and am in PJs. I see me in those photos, a guy, not some external otherworldly being who I don't immediately recognize. That has made me have to face some of my flaws that I previously ignored and discounted because I was so separated from my sense of self. It's painful, but the good kind that helps you to grow.
Bottom growth has definitely happened, and my junk is definitely bigger. Acts more like a penis now with erections and the likes. Gets a prickly feeling from time to time which is uncomfortable. I'm assuming that means growth.
Face looks more masc, acne is different. I get neck acne now and it tends to be flatter than it was before.
Definitely have boy stank now. I smell pretty bad after less time sweating. More "sour" body odor.
My hairline is slowly receding. It looks good for now but it will likely progress till I'm bald. Oh well.
All and all, I feel like it takes a lot less effort to pass now. That frees up a lot of physical and emotional effort that I previously devoted to passing and I can now live more freely. I've still got a long ways to go but progress is slow and steady.
STP tips?
I recently got this STP from rodeoh and I'm having trouble with leakage. Granted, I've only used it a handful of times in the shower, but I find my stream is too strong and it overflows the basin of the STP before it can exit the shaft and then it leaks out everywhere.
What are some tips to mitigate that? (Additional general STP tips are also highly welcome)
New resource discovery?
If you've found some new resources regarding being trans (any aspect of it), link to 'em down below. Sharing is caring, woo hoo.
Personal tips/anecdotes of things you've found useful are also welcome.