cowboycrustation [he/him] @lemmy.blahaj.zone King of all crustations. Lord of all cowboys. Brother to all the transes.
I don't know the current mod of this community well enough to speak on that but I can most certainly tell you that Ada (the instance admin) is not actively trying to be hostile to anarchist and leftist politics.
I'd imagine Link was generally tired and burnt out from being so active on lemmy and this was the straw that broke the camel's back. I hope he's doing okay.
Some changes to this community (and asking for more mods)
Howdy y'all,
Linkopenschest.wav is stepping down as head mod for this community, so I have inherited this position. I need more people to help me co-mod this community since I am not the most active these days. Comment below if you would like to be a mod.
Mod requirements:
- Known member of this community
Well, the corrupt people at the top did, yeah. The everyday person is just trying to survive.
Fun fact: you can't drink the tap water in Jackson. There's a bunch of lead in the water system. The government doesn't give a shit about fixing it because most of the white people moved out to the suburbs a long time ago.
I last visited Jackson in late 2023, BTW. Still couldn't drink the water.
https://www.npr.org/2022/08/31/1120166328/jackson-mississippi-water-crisis
I really do wish that things will get better in Mississippi. Lotta cool art and people there. Lotta voices that need to be heard but have been squashed by the system.
I'm proud of you for making this post Uni. I wish you all the best.
To everybody else, I and many other matrix regulars can vouch for her. She is legit.
I know Uni personally and she is legit. Lotta other people on here can vouch for her as well. Please support her if you can right now.
Reaching Out For Help (crossposting to spread awareness)
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13998559
> Reaching Out For Help > > After much consideration and fighting with my brain, I've decided that it's okay to ask for help in hard situations. So, I'm making this in hope that I receive at least a little bit of help. I'm asking for money, friends, and any advice you can give me. Everything counts and will help me during this rather terrible time. I'm Uni (name TBD) and I'm a 16 y/o transgirl unfortunately situated in the USA. You may know me as a regular on the Blahaj Matrix chats going by "Miss Universe". > > So a little bit (a lot?) of backstory to sort of explain my current situation. My egg cracked October last year and it was both the best and worst thing that has happened in my life so far. Being a minor means that I can't really do anything about the fact that my egg cracked, I'm fully relying on the people around me to help me (which has failed). Put simply, as a minor I have absolutely no control over my body or my life, I have no money, no experience, and nowhere to go. > > I came out to my mother and step-father (my parents are divorced) February this year, and while they seemed to be supportive at first they semi-recently turned on me and have been mostly unsupportive since then. > > As for my father and step-mother, they are both actively transphobic republicans. I have no plans on coming out to them until after I turn 18, and it would be unsafe to do so before then. > > Basically, as of now I have basically no support from anybody in my life and I'm completely trapped as my dysphoria gets worse with each passing day. > > With my situation sort of explained(?), why am I actually here? Pretty much I'm here because I need money. Money for clothes, makeup, just stuff that can hopefully help me alleviate some of my dysphoria until I'm able to afford to do so myself (which as a minor is difficult). And also I suppose gas, in case it comes to it and I need to run away, even for a short period. I'm also looking for advice, I don't really know what to do and it would be really nice to have at least some semblance of what I could be doing right now. > > I don't really know if any of that made sense, I'm bad at organizing my thoughts and even worse at asking for help. If you have any questions post them in the comments and I can probably answer them. > > You can support me here on Buy Me a Coffee if you so wish, and/or with advice in the comments. Every donation counts.
It's pretty crazy if you look on any porn site under the trans category. If there even is porn with a transmasc person (rare), it's almost always with a cis man and the trans man is always on the bottom. Feels gross that that's the only thing available most of the time.
I'm not a Christian but I go to church and have for a while. I recently came out to my church as well. It was a long time coming and I built up to that moment by transitioning in every other way that I could so that it wouldn't be as much of a surprise. My pastor was supportive from the moment that I came out. I sent out a coming out letter to the whole church and got a lot of support. For reference, I live in the rural deep south. My church is a united Methodist church.
I highly recommend that you look around for different churches if this one isn't fitting or you don't feel accepted. Just go to a different one for a Sunday or two and see how the vibe is and how it makes you feel. I have heard that Episcopalians, united Methodists, united church of Christ, and Lutherans are affirming, but a lot of times it will depend on each individual church to what degree.
Another option is to visit a Unitarian Universalist church. Although it is not an explicitly christian church, they are welcoming of Christians and it's kind of a "everyone has their own religious beliefs but we all believe in kindness, helping others, and respect towards each other" deal. They are explicitly affirming and one of the most progressive churches.
Also, if money allows please consider getting couple's therapy with your wife. There are plenty of faith based and non faith based ones out there who can help y'all work through things.
Trans men in the dating world are experiencing fetishization and objectification more than ever before.
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13900215
Trans men in the dating world are experiencing fetishization and objectification more than ever before.
I'm curious what yalls expierence with this is
Hello,
This website has a ton of literature on every subject related to trans people. Take some of the stuff with a grain of salt, since there is some transphobic literature on there for educational purposes. You should be able to find what you're looking for on here, though.
Favorite Binder So Far
The perfectly-fitted Cotton Compression Muscle Shirt stretches as your body moves. Strong inner layers bind your chest and flatten your belly. Shop Underworks.
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13660667
> I got this "binder" recently. I like it better than any one I've had so far (I'd estimate that I've gone through about eight from various brands). > > Pros: > > -Very breathable, can exercise in it without feeling like death > > -Not terrible in hot weather > > -Doesn't show under a lot of shirts, though if you have a shirt with a wide neck it'll show, but does look like an undershirt as opposed to a bra since the neck is high. > > -Helps with hiding hip fat > > -Feels natural. I forget I'm wearing this sometimes. Probably would be fine sleeping in it as well, though it's good practice to take breaks. > > > Cons: > > -If you have a bigger chest this isn't gonna do the best of jobs binding since it's got less compression than a typical binder. It's still not the worst option in that case, but you won't look completely flat. It's worked well for me flatness wise. > > -I wouldn't wear this by itself because it doesn't fit like a regular shirt. Definitely looks an undergarment. > > -It smells like a McDonald's playground right out of the package. I recommend you add baking soda into the wash to get the smell out faster. > > -I suspect this will stretch out the longer I use it. The solution is to dry it on low as opposed to air dry it. It's got cotton in it so it'll shrink. > > > I recommend you only get it in black or white if your concern is passing. A lot of cis men will wear undershirts (typically in white, sometimes black, but never in nude). > > If you're in-between measurements, order a size up. I made the mistake of getting a size down and I wasn't even able to get it over my head. Had to exchange it which took a while. > > If you're interested in a binder with flatter coverage I will post a review of the underworks ultimate binder if requested. Underworks is by far my favorite binder brand for many reasons.
Favorite Binder So Far
The perfectly-fitted Cotton Compression Muscle Shirt stretches as your body moves. Strong inner layers bind your chest and flatten your belly. Shop Underworks.
I got this "binder" recently. I like it better than any one I've had so far (I'd estimate that I've gone through about eight from various brands).
Pros:
-Very breathable, can exercise in it without feeling like death
-Not terrible in hot weather
-Doesn't show under a lot of shirts, though if you have a shirt with a wide neck it'll show, but does look like an undershirt as opposed to a bra since the neck is high.
-Helps with hiding hip fat
-Feels natural. I forget I'm wearing this sometimes. Probably would be fine sleeping in it as well, though it's good practice to take breaks.
Cons:
-If you have a bigger chest this isn't gonna do the best of jobs binding since it's got less compression than a typical binder. It's still not the worst option in that case, but you won't look completely flat. It's worked well for me flatness wise.
-I wouldn't wear this by itself because it doesn't fit like a regular shirt. Definitely looks an undergarment.
-It smells like a McDonald's playground right out of the package. I recommend you add baking soda into the wash to get the smell out faster.
-I suspect this will stretch out the longer I use it. The solution is to dry it on low as opposed to air dry it. It's got cotton in it so it'll shrink.
I recommend you only get it in black or white if your concern is passing. A lot of cis men will wear undershirts (typically in white, sometimes black, but never in nude).
If you're in-between measurements, order a size up. I made the mistake of getting a size down and I wasn't even able to get it over my head. Had to exchange it which took a while.
If you're interested in a binder with flatter coverage I will post a review of the underworks ultimate binder if requested. Underworks is by far my favorite binder brand for many reasons.
What's the name of that comic series with the character on top. I've seen it before.
Edit: Found it.
I feel ya. If you ever need a support group DM me.
Even if you don't have a deep voice pre T, vocal training will still be of great help. There are a lot of vocal habits and innotations that people read as male or female. Just having a deep voice will not make you sound like a man or masculine.
Also this is a good resource for styling:
The Five Stages Of T Voice Changes
I found this to be helpful. I've been having a lot of anxiety around my voice changing so some sort of info on what to expect made me feel better.
This guide aims to help you find the right chest binder and includes guidance on using it for all sizes and genders.
In the remake of the Nintendo game "Paper Mario: The Thousand-Year Door" the character Vivian reveals she is transgender.
Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room
cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/13674539
> Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room > > If you are having issues finding housing as a trans person or would like to help others, consider joining this new matrix chat room. > > Sharing and updoots appreciated.
Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room
cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/13674539
> Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room > > If you are having issues finding housing as a trans person or would like to help others, consider joining this new matrix chat room. > > Sharing and updoots appreciated.
How do I convince my friend to not join the Navy?
Not sure if this is the right community to post this, but I'll give it a shot.
One of my very good friends is planning on going into the Navy in about a year. He's generally a moderate left leaning kinda guy, but is trans. He comes from a navy family which is part of the reason he decided to go in the first place. He's going into mechanics and stuff and not combat which is slightly better I guess, but it's very concerning to me that he's planning on joining especially because he's trans. I also feel that ethically, actively participating in that system is bad.
How can I dissuade him from joining? I don't wanna go full force argument mode because it's ultimately his choice but I would like advice on how to softly nudge him away from it without affecting our friendship negatively. Thanks.
Important Healthcare Information
Hey y'all,
This is specifically for people in the US healthcare system.
If you are getting a test or procedure done, ask them what the cost is without insurance. It may end up being significantly cheaper.
I had to go get a basic metabolic panel blood test today and they were going to charge me $350. When I asked what the cost was without insurance, it was $100. Mind you, I have good insurance. It's around $1500 a month.
This has happened multiple other times with different people that I know. Just asking could save you a significant amount of money.
The Lord's prayer đđŚ
Our Blahaj who art in heaven, hallowed be thy name
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven
Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us for our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us
For thine is the kingdom, the Glory, and the .zone forever
Amen. đ
Looking For More Mods (c/Trans)
Questions for potential candidates:
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What time zone/country are you in
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Do you have mod experience with reddit or Lemmy
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What do you like about c/trans? What would you improve?
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Note: there are no right and wrong answers to these questions. The only hard requirement that we have to be a mod is that you have to be an active member of the community and have a history of that.
Edit: The new mods have been selected. Thank you to everyone who applied.