cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13660667

> I got this "binder" recently. I like it better than any one I've had so far (I'd estimate that I've gone through about eight from various brands). > > Pros: > > -Very breathable, can exercise in it without feeling like death > > -Not terrible in hot weather > > -Doesn't show under a lot of shirts, though if you have a shirt with a wide neck it'll show, but does look like an undershirt as opposed to a bra since the neck is high. > > -Helps with hiding hip fat > > -Feels natural. I forget I'm wearing this sometimes. Probably would be fine sleeping in it as well, though it's good practice to take breaks. > > > Cons: > > -If you have a bigger chest this isn't gonna do the best of jobs binding since it's got less compression than a typical binder. It's still not the worst option in that case, but you won't look completely flat. It's worked well for me flatness wise. > > -I wouldn't wear this by itself because it doesn't fit like a regular shirt. Definitely looks an undergarment. > > -It smells like a McDonald's playground right out of the package. I recommend you add baking soda into the wash to get the smell out faster. > > -I suspect this will stretch out the longer I use it. The solution is to dry it on low as opposed to air dry it. It's got cotton in it so it'll shrink. > > > I recommend you only get it in black or white if your concern is passing. A lot of cis men will wear undershirts (typically in white, sometimes black, but never in nude). > > If you're in-between measurements, order a size up. I made the mistake of getting a size down and I wasn't even able to get it over my head. Had to exchange it which took a while. > > If you're interested in a binder with flatter coverage I will post a review of the underworks ultimate binder if requested. Underworks is by far my favorite binder brand for many reasons.

I got this "binder" recently. I like it better than any one I've had so far (I'd estimate that I've gone through about eight from various brands).

Pros:

-Very breathable, can exercise in it without feeling like death

-Not terrible in hot weather

-Doesn't show under a lot of shirts, though if you have a shirt with a wide neck it'll show, but does look like an undershirt as opposed to a bra since the neck is high.

-Helps with hiding hip fat

-Feels natural. I forget I'm wearing this sometimes. Probably would be fine sleeping in it as well, though it's good practice to take breaks.

Cons:

-If you have a bigger chest this isn't gonna do the best of jobs binding since it's got less compression than a typical binder. It's still not the worst option in that case, but you won't look completely flat. It's worked well for me flatness wise.

-I wouldn't wear this by itself because it doesn't fit like a regular shirt. Definitely looks an undergarment.

-It smells like a McDonald's playground right out of the package. I recommend you add baking soda into the wash to get the smell out faster.

-I suspect this will stretch out the longer I use it. The solution is to dry it on low as opposed to air dry it. It's got cotton in it so it'll shrink.

I recommend you only get it in black or white if your concern is passing. A lot of cis men will wear undershirts (typically in white, sometimes black, but never in nude).

If you're in-between measurements, order a size up. I made the mistake of getting a size down and I wasn't even able to get it over my head. Had to exchange it which took a while.

If you're interested in a binder with flatter coverage I will post a review of the underworks ultimate binder if requested. Underworks is by far my favorite binder brand for many reasons.

I found this to be helpful. I've been having a lot of anxiety around my voice changing so some sort of info on what to expect made me feel better.

cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/13674539

> Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room > > If you are having issues finding housing as a trans person or would like to help others, consider joining this new matrix chat room. > > Sharing and updoots appreciated.

cross-posted from: https://beehaw.org/post/13674539

> Join the Trans Housing Network matrix room > > If you are having issues finding housing as a trans person or would like to help others, consider joining this new matrix chat room. > > Sharing and updoots appreciated.

Not sure if this is the right community to post this, but I'll give it a shot.

One of my very good friends is planning on going into the Navy in about a year. He's generally a moderate left leaning kinda guy, but is trans. He comes from a navy family which is part of the reason he decided to go in the first place. He's going into mechanics and stuff and not combat which is slightly better I guess, but it's very concerning to me that he's planning on joining especially because he's trans. I also feel that ethically, actively participating in that system is bad.

How can I dissuade him from joining? I don't wanna go full force argument mode because it's ultimately his choice but I would like advice on how to softly nudge him away from it without affecting our friendship negatively. Thanks.

Hey y'all,

This is specifically for people in the US healthcare system.

If you are getting a test or procedure done, ask them what the cost is without insurance. It may end up being significantly cheaper.

I had to go get a basic metabolic panel blood test today and they were going to charge me $350. When I asked what the cost was without insurance, it was $100. Mind you, I have good insurance. It's around $1500 a month.

This has happened multiple other times with different people that I know. Just asking could save you a significant amount of money.

Questions for potential candidates:

1. What is your vision for this community

2. What time zone/country are you in

3. Do you have mod experience with reddit or Lemmy

4. What do you like about c/trans? What would you improve?

5. Do you have experience with using bots on Lemmy and with the python language?

Note: there are no right and wrong answers to these questions. The only hard requirement that we have to be a mod is that you have to be an active member of the community and have a history of that.

Edit: The new mods have been selected. Thank you to everyone who applied.

Y'all, we have a problem.

These are some of the results of a survey done on our community concerning gender identity:

1.08% Binary Trans men (4).

1.08% Transmasculine people (4).

1.35% Cis women (5).

That's right, there are more CIS WOMEN on a TRANS community than binary trans men or transmasculine people alone.

We have a problem.

This isn't just a Blahaj problem. Another queer instance did a similar survey and found only 3% of their users were trans and use he/him pronouns.

Not having enough transmasc voices is going to be detrimental to our community. There are plenty of transmasc people on the internet. The problem is with Lemmy.

So what are we gonna do about it?

For context, these are the results of a survey that I gave to the users of c/Trans.

What are your thoughts?

I tell this story to you as it really happened. I still cannot process the events that conspired.

It was a chilly spring morning when Goobert first knocked on my door. Upon hearing a knock at my door, I quickly scrambled to hide my 100,000 terabytes of pirated Disney movies and Nintendo games.

A second knock on the door. A second passed. The door swung open.

"HELLO I AM GOOBERT" the mysterious visitor said.

Before me stood a creature that I had never seen the likes of before. It was half-rat, half-peanut, and completely decked out in pirate attire.

"Hi Goobert, can I get you a glass of sweet tea?" I asked.

"YES I WOULD LIKE A GLASS OF SWEET TEA. I ALSO HATE RONALD REAGAN," Goobert declared.

"Wow, I also hate Ronald Reagan, we must have much in common." I said, putting the kettle on the stove to boil.

Goobert sat down at the kitchen table.

"I must inquire, why are you in my house?" I asked.

"I AM A PIRATE AND AM SEARCHING FOR NEW PIRATED MEDIA, SPECIFICALLY PIRATED DISNEY AND NINTENDO MEDIA. I ALSO AM LOOKING FOR A PLACE TO BUY ILLEGALLY MANUFACTURED MOONSHINE." Goobert replied.

The kettle began to whistle.

TO BE CONTINUED

There's a space for people just like you. It's a good place to ask questions and get support from your fellow dudes and transmascs. We are few and far between on Lemmy, so having a place where we can congregate and have our own place is a rarity. I hope you'll consider joining.

It's [email protected]

I have heard a lot of contradictory things on this subject. "It'll happen in six months" or "You have to lose weight and gain it back for it to happen in a reasonable amount of time"

What's the truth about this? What's your experience with it?

Oh beautiful hair on mine legs,

Your presence gives me joy,

Darker and thicker you spread each day,

In order to help me grow into a boy