That really is one of the best parts of being with someone that will let you be vulnerable as a guy.
We talk about toxic masculinity online, but can can you imagine having to keep that front of "manly man" up even when you're in bed with your spouse/SO? How fucking cruel a world that is.
Sometimes, when you're a man, you end up having to shove all that stress down so you can handle things. Having someone that not only recognizes that, but reaches out to help when it's finally safe to let go of the bullshit is just miraculous. Not having to be the big spoon, to have someone comfort and shelter you, to be your strength when you've run out of it. That's beautiful.
Indeed, it seems that many women have a hard time relating to how difficult it is to be a man in the modern world, especially when you're being told you are undesirable, toxic, and expendable literally everywhere you go these days.
That's why I love this meme though, because instead of fighting fire with fire and demonizing or disparaging women, it encourages a more tender and wholesome solution to the problem.
I fully agree. It's a beautiful meme :)
What's ridiculous is that there are plenty of people who will complain about toxic masculinity, but then tell men to man up, or quit being a bitch if they actually let their guard down. Lots of people have very big double standards between what they think they want, and what they actually want.
Yeah I've heard some women I've dated complain about men not being honest with their feelings and then when one is suddenly they "have the ick" like, seriously? Just be consistent. Don't tell me to be open and then when I tell you about my fears and worries act like I'm a pussy for not being able to handle it myself. I could have, but you wanted it this way and now you're not attracted to me anymore.
I'll never understand women who don't want a sensitive or emotionally open man. For me, I can't stand men who aren't. When a man is open about his emotions, it makes me feel like he's going to understand better when I get emotional, which is important to me because it happens a lot (bottled up trauma and such.) It's not just something I look for in partners, but also friends.
But I may also have a bit of a different perspective due to being trans and remembering what it's like to be a guy having to bottle everything up until one day I explode in a vicious cycle. It makes me feel good to be somebody's outlet knowing that I can take a little weight off and help keep them from having to go through what I did.
Computer programming is difficult, because the computer does what you tell it to do, not what you want it to do.
Just reading this brings tears to my eyes, man. Sometimes you just want to be the little spoon.
Amen to that.
I JUST WANT FINANCIAL STABILITY, MEDICAL CARE, and SOMEWHERE TO LIVE is that SO MUCH TO ASK???
I would like to be the small spoon sometimes…
It really can’t compare to anything when you are stressed or upset, to be held makes a huge difference.
It's nice. My girlfriend is about half my size and she's a good big spoon.
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I mean, I agree with the meme completely, but I’d also want to turn around in their arms and cuddle them right back. I’m a fan of both hugging and being hugged, and it might be a sensory thing.
I'm not huge of cuddling and tend to get overheated easily when I do, but I find it really pleasurable (non-sexually) when my wife runs her finger/fingernail on my hand or arm. Just light touch in general feels incredibly stimulating, but it's kind of a weird thing to outright ask for so I just kind of enjoy it when it comes around. I also like when my kid steps on my arms or legs when climbing on me. I should probably look into massage therapy.
You feel how you feel but just wondering why this feels like such a weird thing to ask for? My own partner told me he enjoys that kind of light touch (also sensorially rather than sexually) and I try to do it whenever I think about it, and it makes me happy that he's enjoying it, and it's not like it's a struggle for me.
Hey yeah I'm a massage therapist we will do anything you ask as long as it's not sexual or doesn't go beyond the boundaries of the standard sheet-draping protocols.
I'm not suggesting you seek me out specifically, but just letting you know that any massage therapist is trained to meet the needs of the customer. Within the scope of our licensure.
There is a basic protocol and flow that we all generally follow, which DOESN'T include light tickly touches or scratching or squishing or climbing but you CAN request such things if that's what you like.
Nothing wrong with that.
Medical bills are so evil ...
Man: "alright, fell right into the trap"
Proceeds to cut one
Well of course you have to fuel the jetpack.
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You know this meme wasn’t made by a woman. But, I’m sure it was.
A reach around?
Not everything has to be sexual.
Say again? I can't hear you while getting bent over by rent, bills, grocery costs, etc.
At least it's done gently. They caress my money lovingly out of my bank account each month.
men only want one thing and it's hole 😎 FIFY
Nah, that's boys you're thinking of. Men want a lot more than that.
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