Never, ever, ever, ever, put Rick and Morty in your bio. I legitimately think you'd have better success putting your preferred porn categories. I like Rick and Morty, I live with my girlfriend, and I still don't watch it around her. There are very few popular things that actively repulse women as much as that show.
In the realm of more useful advice, Tinder bios are worthless, your pictures do all the work. Hinge, OKCupid, and Bumble will be a little better for profiles. Depending on the games you like maybe focus on board games or something a little more expressive than Fortnite and Minecraft. Books are great, put something you're actively/recently read, put your favorite and ask for suggestions. It seems you're metal adjacent in music tastes so maybe put some more general metal to hook other metal heads but not scare off everyone else
Finally, pick something goofy or weird to stick out with. I am great at tetris so I put that I have a standing offer to buy drinks for anyone who can beat me. Nobody will ever actually take you up on it but it gives you a way to stand out while also showcasing your interests
Feel free to post your profile for critique. Making good dating profiles is hard and getting unbiased internet opinions is harsh, but helpful
I dont think you and your partner can speak for all women. My partner and watch it together and we both like it. It may repulse certain women, but definitely not all women.
That said, i kinda agree that it should be left out of the bio, its too specific, and putting it in a bio comes off as someone who harasses mcdonalds workers for szechuan sauce. Its something to share once they know you better.
Are there women who like Rick and Morty? Of course. If you're on a dating app it's all a numbers game and Rick and Morty is one of the easiest ways to get the largest amount of women to immediately dismiss you. I would struggle to find someone who suggests associating yourself with it to increase your chances at going on a date. OP is asking Lemmy for dating profile tips, so I feel you need to make certain things very clear about how to succeed
Sure, but we're all people posting on Fediverse content. We are not the vast majority of the population. My advise is to help make this dude as generally appealing as possible. We should not pretend we're the average people on these apps
It's definitely a turn off for most women imo, especially because of the shit with Justin Roiland (sp?) being a disgusting creep. Anyone who puts it in their profile because they love it that much is just asking to get swiped left on.
my wife, who does actually enjoy the show (tho really didn't like the first season bc they had Rick burping every two seconds and it was gross)
Not the person you asked, but I have the same general sense that most women would not find it a positive thing to list. Without making broad unsupported generalizations about women, I would suggest:
it's a TV show, not a personality. It's a bit much to list as an important detail on a dating profile.
similar to the first point, there is a stereotype about certain men that made the show their personality. Cringe.
the show is largely shock humor, irreverent, pithy comedy dialogue. Not bad in and of itself, except when paired with the above mentioned points of it being used as a surrogate personality, or listed as if it's an important part of a person's interests.
Anecdotally, my wife also dislikes the show.
I would suggest that listing broad categories of things you like is probably better than an individual thing. E.g., saying you like reading and listing a few authors isn't weird, but listing one single book seems a little obsessed.
I have a rule of thumb about certain media. If you like Rick and Morty, Joker, Donnie Darko or Fight Club that's okay. But if any of those are you FAVORITE that's a low key red flag where I am gonna ask you to explain why...
Those aren't bad shows/movies, but they all feature very arrogant, can't-be-bothered-with-dummies, over the top rude men. It's a very edgy teenage immature thing to adore thess characters for the wrong reasons. It would never be a deal breaker, but it certainly isn't appealing.
Hell, I’d even go as far as to say don’t put any specific show, game, movie, or book in your bio - just that you play games, watch a genre of shows/movies, or read a genre of books.
I feel like “plays video games” is better than “plays Call of Duty, Apex Predators, and Rainbow Six”.
I've noticed most answers are from men; I'm a woman, so perhaps if you are a hetero guy my perspective is useful.
Your photo doesn't matter more than your bio, it matters just as much, but it will go first in the order of judgement so make sure you have something presentable.
Now for the bio, you are short on words. Pick a few things that really define your character and that you consider your match must be ok with. So if you like metal and rock just say that, don't waste precious space on all your bands unless you are really, really really into these bands in particular. If you are a harcore fan of rick and Morty, sure include it, otherwise just say you like animation or sci fi.
Same goes for books and movies. If there is an author you are an absolute fan, mention it, otherwise go for a couple genres you are into.
I would start with saying you're a (career here) student. Saying what you study is useful, it states interests and it's an easy conversation starter.
Then if you have a quirk or two mention them. They are good conversation starters too. I don't know, maybe you are one of those people who have the soapy cilantro gene but they still like cilantro or maybe you are particularly skilled at something.
Happy to give further feedback. Good luck out there
My tip: This might sound obvious but I'd have you wear a bright color, like red, in the first photo in your profile. It will catch the eye and stand out a bit. This is not my original thought - I got it from someone who was describing her experience on dating apps and what worked best for her. You want to catch someone's eye while they are swiping quickly through pictures.
talk about your values, what you actually do, your personality traits
"easy going cowboy with a tender heart. sees value in spending time wisely instead of chasing after a rush of blood to the head. you'll likely find me at the bowling alley knocking back some of that good ole sarsaparilla."
When I was single last time, I tried tinder for the first time in a very long time. Wrote a few interesting bios. Got some matches, nothing that sparked anything ultimately though.
Then I just changed my bio to (roughly translating from my language) “hey, I create stuff”. Just a few words, no real substance.
Got too many matches to handle, a few really hit off. and one of them I am sharing my life with still.
All this to say, it’s not necessarily important to have a great bio. Maybe it piques peoples’ interest more, even, if it’s very minimal and casual. Not sure what it was, could’ve been just fool’s luck, but just a perspective I thought could be interesting to know.
To add to this/sum it up: the more you have on your profile, the higher the chance it has a dealbreaker.
Think of it in twitter context. If it takes longer than ~7 seconds to read, you are losing half your audience.
Disclaimer: i'm single but have been making online dating profiles for 20 years. also i've never had a twitter and the stats i made up and have no proof or source behind them.
Listing your favorite media is generic and doesn't actually tell much about your personality, everyone does it and makes you very skipable. Talk about that on the first date, but it won't help you get a date.
Jokes are good, but come up with something unique. Maybe make a silly acrostic out of your name? This type of creative writing is what high school English was actually for.
Make sure your photos varied, not just you at different angles. Ideally show your face, your full body, a community or outside activity you did with friends and a hobby (something you made ideally, art or food is good). Only put a picture of a pet if you are also in it.
Ask a question, since you said you like to read, give people a prompt to reply to like "What is your favorite memory from a book" or something. Make it easy for people to reply, give them something to go on besides just "Hi."
(and for the love of God don't mention Rick and Morty, I love it, but omg does the fan base have a reputation. Women will think you immature and keep on swiping)
Be sincere. It’s cool you like all those things, just take yourself seriously. Present yourself in the best light and stick to the facts. Sounds like you’re looking for companionship and so make it easy for the reader to understand what they are getting into when dating you. Make sure your photos are flattering, honest, and not too goofy. Do include fun facts about yourself if they aren’t too self deprecating and would offer the other person an icebreaker.
I think you have excellent taste in music. But my wife disagrees, so we just don’t listen to music together. Is music taste non-negotiable for you? What ate things you’d like to do with someone? Board games? Video games? Quiz games? Reading May or may not work. Other new hobbies or sports or activities you’d like to try? That at least suggests some social interaction and maybe get noticed by someone with similar interests.
Do you have roommates? Siblings? How do you get along with them? What kind of friend are you?
Do you have any interesting talents or skills?
What kind of person do you want to meet? Would you date a vegan? What about overweight or obese? Do you want to consume drugs/alcohol together? Do you want to play Portal 2 Co-Op? Do you want to move in and get a dog?
What are you studying? What books and movies do you like most and why? Does Linkin Park help you with suicidal thoughts or make it worse?