This isn't even disordered behavior. It's a cultural shift in the way we communicate.
Everything is designed to be on your time, why would I waste a precious second of it on a phone call? Better to arrange a meeting via passive communication such as email or text.
I'd say it's a disordered behavior for me, since my life gets fucked up by me not being able to call people. Sometimes emails and texts are just fine, but sometimes you need to call for something. And if I can't actually call someone when a call is a necessity, and things get fucked up because of it, I'd call that disordered :/
For the absolute majority of communication, calling goes waaay faster. The main upside with writing is that "you have it on paper". Most of my phone calls are very short and to the point at least.
I can't overstate how useful "you have it on paper" is.
Nah, it certainly is for some people. I've been avoiding phonecalls for as long as I've been old enough to make them and texting was very uncommon cause while phones existed most people in my life had flip phones.
That’s true but there’s some erasure here; for example I have always been an anxious person and thus I will do everything possible to avoid calling on the phone.
It’s not just about “this is how it is now”, which… it isn’t anyway, many many many people and businesses fully rely on phone calls. Yes it is absolutely easier and faster to text than to call I completely agree, it’s just not entirely about time.
I’d further say that this meme is also not about time and ease but social pressures (hence the title, “nonverbal communication” and the persons clear uncomfortableness with just the thought of committing to a phone conversation
easier and faster to text than to call
This is an interesting perspective to me. I use text/email if it's not time sensitive, or a call if I need to communicate quickly or what I'm trying to communicate is complicated, because I absolutely can speak faster than I can type on my phone.
Sometimes I split the difference and walk to my computer so I can use a keyboard if it's a lot to type, but also not time sensitive.
Emails and texts are the superior way of communication. I can't remember what they just said once the call is over!!
Or prove.
C.Y.A.!
Wait, that's not normal behaviour?
It is for us.
phone calls to people outside of my immediate family literally trigger my fight or flight response
incoming calls do that to me no matter who.
-gasp-
I’ve found my community!
I was busy and responded to an email enquiry where I was getting two word answers like I'm her mate and we texting. I asked, are you available for a phonecall and they responded, can you phone on Wednesday (this was on Monday) and speak to my partner instead.
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That's just flat out rude. Jeez.
I always do this but then they just call me (at the most inopportune moment too) instead of answering with text/email... We can't win in the world of neurotypical extraverts.
Don't let them try to convince you that they're the typical ones.
Sometimes I wish my phone didn't do phone calls at all. The amount of prep that goes into me having to make a phone call is greatly disproportionate to what it would take for me to email or text that same thing.
And to get a phone call, unless I know 100% what you want and/or it's my immediate family is going straight to voicemail, that I will agonize over when to deal with it. ☹️
