Bdsm rule

Uh... No. No this is just wrong. I'm glad they've found enough outlets for their praise kink that they think the whole subculture is this, but man. No. Not even close.

You're really good at critiquing social media posts. I got another here. You're good at finding shortcuts around this part of town.
- I feel like there is a reference in that second one I don't get :(
It's a different subculture than the ones you know.
- I will bet you one shiny silver nickle it's not.
  
  It's nice that praise kinks are starting to get accepted (because man, they sure werent taken seriously for a long damn time), but to characterize this as "a lot" of the bdsm community is just comically wrong. It'd be like saying "a lot" of the community is into heavy rubber or petplay or ABDL - all very popular, but still minute fractions of the broad community.
once the leather, chains, and toys get packed up, wouldn't you use the Dom voice to tell your loved one to eat their danged vegetables?
- I don't have to, I'm an incredible cook. She's practically begging for my zucchini.

Remember to always practice CBT

Caring

Bout

The others

I'm just over here in the corner focusing on 5 things I can see 4 things I can hear...

and yet fetlife STILL doesn't have a Praisegiver role

Ok but also I want my Domme to hit me and make me get her her water. Yes she demands I take care of myself but that’s because she married me and loves me, her dominant side is mean, just the way I like it

Yeah, I want my Domme to beat the heck out of me, but I also need her to hold me afterwards, to tell me how good I am, that I'm worthy, and to give me water and a snack. ☺️

This person has no idea what bdsm is

Being put down is a tiny subsect of domination, more related to humiliation than domination. Sadism doesn't have to come with mean words, either.

So... if anyone doesn't understand bdsm... it's you.
There is a big difference between porn and 24/7 bdsm relationships. In real world 24/7 relationships a lot of it is care and enforcement of good for everyone rules.

Not saying porn style scenes don’t happen. It’s just a lot more than that. At least in healthy 24/7 bdsm relationships.

If you want to learn more about bdsm I recommend lifestyle blogs or even books.
- Yeah but this feels like the other extreme. I’m in a 24/7 dynamic and have been for several years. I’ve also been heavily involved in power exchange communities (including irl) for that time. Praise is part of it, and an important part, but so is harshness, punishment is one of the critical elements of many lifestyle dynamics and one I vocally advocate for the use of as a submissive.
  
  For how I’d describe the long term power exchange is as a relationship with a power exchange. Caregiving is a kink but it’s one I see as much more common for subs than for doms
as a very kinky person - it is in fact you who has no idea

How?