Only men are stretchy enough to fit melons up their ass, and women have to stick with more mundane phallic vegetables?
The U.S. has a lot of fuckin things wrong with it but goddamn it's nice you can't be jailed for talking about how terrible it is
Which is kind of funny because that corresponds inversely with the quality of the game lol. The game director changed and they have been killing it every since
Been there, though I just took a couple hours in the shower with the enema wand set to "pressure wash"
You specifically called out PoEs passive tree, but honestly the tree isn't the crazy complicated part of making builds--its finding combinations of mechanics that synergize above average. On the tree sure, but the gear and actual skills are really what makes it crazy. Planning around what items can have what mods and what you can reasonably expect to get on what budget is the real brain disabler for me. I love build crafting, but fuck I hate planning rare tier gear.
Yeah, I said it was a different subculture... Then the dude was like no it's not... Then I was like yeah, not bdsm in general, a subculture... Hope you're caught up now buddy
Sorry not usually this much of a dick but I lose patience with those with people who won't read
Oh BDSM in general isn't like that, sure, but I'm in a submissive focused discord and there are many people there who have lifestyle dynamics similar to the one in the post. Like yeah the poster doesn't know what they're talking about but those kinds of dynamics certainly do exist. They're not something I'm comfortable with, self discipline has to come from the self and to me having discipline for life things like that come from your partner enforcing that on you feels like a crutch that I'm not ok with personally, but ykinmk and all that.
It's honestly kind of interesting to me, I think dynamics fall onto a spectrum of being controlled to being taken care of. I mean that in a general sense, not specific things like aftercare. Like yes caring for and about your partner is an important part of any relationship but that end of the spectrum falls more under parental care in my mind. I'm certainly no expert, lifestyle dynamics aren't for me, but I like lurking and observing because I think it's neat.
Things will continue on as normal, gradually worsening, until life is no longer worth living. Sure, what people are hysterical about won't change your daily routine tomorrow, or the next day, or the next month, but many negative things are glaciers, slowly and inexorably moving forward and you are utterly powerless to stop it. Climate change, worsening inequality and wealth gap, and the rise of fascism are things we should be hysterical about. But instead, we'll just sit around, complaining about people freaking out, until it's too late.
Yeah, I'm not a huge pain person either. I don't enjoy the pain, I enjoy the submission, if that makes sense. The dom I occasionally see will alternate between spanking me and gently stroking my body, building the anticipation and juxtaposing the pain, and will fake on spanks--it's truly something I never thought I'd love so much.
Scat, eh, not my thing but I don't find it repulsive. Not being grossed out by shit makes enemas more convenient. Watersports, sure, I've had a dom use me as a urinal, pretty hot. Rape? Sure, on the receiving end. Mostly in the vein of CNC with bdsm.
Not the person you're replying to but it kinda feels like the "oh I don't see color" comment when somebody brings up racism. To me, it feels... dismissive? I dunno. I don't think what you said is a problem or anything, it just... feels like it has bad connotations to me. Take this with a grain of salt, what I understand and interpret can be very different from what you say, which can also differ from what you mean.
10 tbh. No pedophile shit but some things that would probably make some friends break ties with me. My close friends would understand but the ones who I've drifted away from over time who are more towards the conservative side of things (NOT conservatives though) would probably just peace out. More public facing, probably a 7 or 8? Let's go with 8. Into BDSM and a big sub, watersports, impact play, bondage, etc. Petplay, kind of, I'd love to be someone's pet but animal roleplay isn't something I'm comfortable with. I'm a huge anal enjoyer and a size queen but I've only toyed, never been fucked. Some friends are comfortable with it and I can talk about it casually with them, others aren't so I don't bring it up around them. So yeah, in terms of the bell curve, I'm waaaaaay off to the right in sexual weirdness. Took me a long time to get comfortable with it to the extent I can talk about it like this, and now I'm a chronic oversharer. If you want to know about the 10, you can dm me, it's just not something I want available to anyone scrolling through my post history.
He. Didn't. Make. The. Image.
Life would be so much better if I wasn't experiencing it
I'm so tired. Why bother struggling to find insurance that lets me continue with my therapist. Why bother finding insurance at all. Why bother look for a job. Why put so much effort into a life I'm so tired of living? I know things won't improve. That they can't improve, really. Sometimes it might feel like things are better, but circumstances haven't changed, it's just the drugs making it not feel like it matters. I've given up on all these things that other people take for granted, and yet it still hurts to think about how I'll never get there. I'm so tired of it, and I don't see any way it ever changes. I just don't want to continue on. Why do people have to care about me? If they didn't, then I could just leave and not hurt them. Why isn't acceptable for me to just say "actually, nah, life isn't for me, see you never" and fucking die?
I'm pretty sure suicide's inevitable. At some point, I'm just not going to care enough about the guilt and go through with it, it's more just a matter of when that'll be. Makes me sad my online friends won't know for sure, but they'll probably guess after a few weeks of being offline. At least I don't have to worry about leaving work on short notice.
Timeline Questions
Hey all, as I've been thinking about who I want to be and how I want to transition, I've gotten to wondering about people's transition timelines in general. If it's something you're comfortable talking about, how long did it take you from realizing your trans to taking steps to transition? When did you start using different pronouns, when did you come out to people, how long did it take you to know you wanted HRT and then to start it?
I realized I wasn't cis a few months ago, and have been growing my hair out and experimenting with clothing. I know I want to get permanent facial hair removal, and am interested in HRT but have reservations, and would value hearing others experiences about how long it took them to know what they wanted. I'm a very hesitant and self-doubtful person in general, and I guess just feel a bit lost in how to go about self discovery here.
Editing to say thank you very much all for sharing, seeing how different everyone's experiences can be is honestly really comforting.
It's either kill myself or quit my job, so I'm quittingnmy job
When I can't find another and run out of savings in a few months, that's when Ill kill myself.
Honestly did a bit of a trial run last night, fastened a bag over my head and snuggled my stuffed animals on the couch to see what it would be like. It's definitely something I can go through with if/when it comes to it. Taking other steps to make life less unbearable first, hence the title. I don't really see my life ending any other way though tbh, just more of a question of when. If I'm lucky, it'll be when the climate change induced famine prices me out of being able to eat and I chose not to starve. Anyways, sorry for making you read this. Fuck.
Any chance direct messages will be supported any time soon?
It's the major thing holding me back from buying ad free. Trying to view dms instantly crashes the app and it's very frustrating.
Stopped being able to be in denial on friday...
and this popped into my head. As a friend said, it's confusing and scary but ignoring just makes you feel more confused and scared, and that's so accurate.