Didn't wanna go grocery shopping after work but bah gahd I did it. Now I have ingredients for enough Japanese curry to last me until Wednesday. Good job force
It is also my birthday and I successfully hid it well enough that a big deal was not made. Good job force
What an awesome cat to cuddle up to! I don't envy you the hair removal from furniture though, tbh. Last time we had a long haired cat we had a Scotch Collie as well and my insanely house proud mother lost her mind daily over the hair lol.
I once had all the bits of Sweet Child of Mine split apart so I could hear them by themselves simultaneously. Went Fuckin cool this is what composers can do! Never happened again.
So I might've fucked up last night. There's a reoccurring theme of me just making the dumbest freaking mistakes these last couple of weeks, i dunno whats wrong with me. I'll throw in a NSFW and spoiler for the mistake part. Heads up dont read this one at work.
So the mrs and I had a bit of a heart to heart last night, kiddo went down early enough that we weren't both too stuffed to talk.
i had a bit of a breakdown, said some tough stuff that was hard to say she gave me a big hug, after a few minute I told her we had to stop cause I knew what was gonna happen (not that I didn't want to, just didn't wanna cheapen the moment with the pants off dance, ya know).
Anyway, this next part is super graphic. I'll tidy up the language as much as possible but feel free to skip.
NSFW spoiler here
She says she doesn't mind. So we go to bed. I.... uhhh, "suit up for the occasion" as is required at the moment.
We get going, and I express my dissatisfaction with the "armour" I was "wearing" . She says I dont have to if I dont want to.
I say "are you sure? isnt there a risk?" She says "I'm not worried". so knowing full well it was a mistake, but not having the blood to operate my brain properly... I take it off.
And this is where I cant help but feel a bit... baited? I dunno. Let me clear it takes 2 to tango, I'm the one that took "it" off. Its 100% on me.
But she did EVERY trick in the book to make sure I "arrived". It felt like it was a competition to make sure the finale happened.
Ultimately, I... uhhh, "deployed the troops elsewhere", at least 99% sure I did in time. Given we needed IVF the first time I'm not SUPER worried. It was great to reconnect, been a while since that happened, but its left me with more questions that answers.
Was she actually trying to make sure i "deployed the expeditionary forces in the target country"?
Why now? Why do we suddenly not care now?
Was I getting used? Or was she trying to reconnect like i was?
Why the F did I take the risk? Am I really not that smart? or just super into potentially self sabotaging?
Is this all actually a big deal? or is my anxiety just taking me for a fucking ride?
EDIT: Maybe this would have been more appropriate on a Relationship advice sub, apologies.
Should the troops be successful in their mission, there are techniques available to remove the occupying force and any potential puppet they installed in power.
LOL, thank you I needed a laugh!
After 2.5 years of IVF and $30k spent on the first, I'd say if I accidentally invaded a country then its gonna be flying my flag for the next 9 months like it or not.
I think you're over thinking this. She probably just wanted you to be aroused therefore she's aroused because skin on skin contact with the one you love is arousing.
When you start to think your partner has ulterior motives then that's something you really need to work on together or let go of those thoughts.
Also when your partner says "I don't really like putting the rain coat on" it's kind of a turn off. Tough. We don't really want to feel it either but it is what it is.
Yeah, I think maybe my anxiety is taking me for a ride.
Also when your partner says “I don’t really like putting the rain coat on” it’s kind of a turn off. Tough. We don’t really want to feel it either but it is what it is.
I feel like I should clarify so I don't sound like a total asshole here: the rain coat was my idea. the REQUIREMENT was my idea. I was happy to take responsibility cause it left us in a position to start trying when we decided to. Originally the plan to start trying soon.
I'm happy to take responsibility for cleaning up my mess so to speak, and I'll be more than happy to go get the snip the second we decide we're done.
It was certainly not a "I hate this and wish you didn't force me into it". More a tongue in cheek "Why did I think this was a good idea?". hence the surprise when she said "well, dont then!"
She may not have intended anything sus by it, it may have been a conciliatory gesture. But I understand the concern during a rough patch. It might put your mind at ease to actively prevent any surprises until you know what the plan is.
I guess continue using a barrier method from here on in and note that you are still within the 72 hour window for her to take Plan B. If taken within 24 hours it's even more effective. Hit up the chemist asap.
If you want to be doubly sure in future there are long acting reversible contraceptives for women such as Depo Provera injections or Implanon. But if you don't want to ask her to do this or want to be completely sure that a procedure has actually been carried out - then the patent for Vasalgel (reversible alternative to vasectomy) has been bought and is projected to be available in 2026 under the name Plan A.
She may not have intended anything sus by it, it may have been a conciliatory gesture. But I understand the concern during a rough patch. It might put your mind at ease to actively prevent any surprises until you know what the plan is.
Yeah I hope so. I cant believe she is the type to be that manipulative. I honestly have a hard time believe ANYONE could do that to another person. Sure, you hear stories, but Ive never heard of it happening to someone I know.
I might talk to her tonight and just get a clearer picture of her expectations re having another kid. I'm pretty sure she'll say "lets weather the current storm and see where things land" and that'll put my mind at ease.
I did see that injectable contraception for dudes. I didnt know it was so close!
Oh hon. That was totally not ok. I can’t see any way it wasn’t intentionally manipulative. Why you took the bait is a question, but why she posed the trap is bigger.
I was gifted an entire bottle of sake last night (to have with dinner and then take the rest with me) by my amazing host and after the magic of last night and tonight I've ended up in a cheap dump that's making me a bit sad so I'll be downing some of that sake right about now
Covid finally got to me. Grocery order got half delivered so my housemate went to sims footscray a week ago and got the Schroeder Special (coining it as Schrovid). Now I have it so I'm just resting at home with a fever. Quite an anticlimactic end to my covid free streak. Hopefully my chronic fatigue doesn't play up after this. Am I meant to be doing anything other than resting and staying hydrated? I'm just planning on exclusively resting and playing Baldur's Gate 3 for the foreseeable future lol
Food helped me heaps. Even when I didnt feel like eating a big healthy meal would give me an hour or so worth of energy back.
Lemonade icypoles were clutch too for the sore throat.
My mistakes are coffee stains on the carpet of life,
Each marking the times I fumbled or tripped,
They fade over time despite all of the strife,
Or I'll scrub them out, while my coffee I sip.
Scrubbing a carpet, coffee in hand, a risky chore,
Seems the lesson of mistakes you may not explore.
But brown carpets, they're a clever choice,
Blending life's spills, leaving no noise.
(I don't have imagination so this is gtp)
spoiler
I don't think it worked but I was just going to say that sipping a carpet while scrubbing a floor seems like a bad choice, but brown carpets are nice so it doesn't matter
I'm still chest virus sick and I'm having banking and centrelink problems. They can be next weeks problems. I just don't have the energy for a few hours of collating banking records and proving why I have a house deposit but no job. It needs to be done, but it doesn't need to be done today. Plus a third of that house deposit has disappeared trying finally to gather my savings into one account. I can put it on Monday's todo list and forget about it for the weekend. If you haven't moved large money around, I'm pretty sure the banks get sus making sure you're not being scammed.
I put a few drops of aromatherapy oils on cotton balls and chuck them in all the bins. Put one in the vacuum cleaner bag. I make my own room deodoriser, carpet sprinkles, floor cleaner and surface spray.
During the warmer weather I take the dog bed out and beat the living shit out of it. Give it a good spray of glen 20 or frebreze cos he's a stinky little boy.
And I have one of those things that heats up wax melts.
Air the place out frequently and clean with nice smelling products, like that McLintock vanilla spray or something with lemon myrtle. I use essential oils, usually lavender in the evening sprayed on soft furnishings, and I clean the floor with eucalyptus and lemon myrtle oil cleaner.
Fellow northerners, has ShotKickers closed down? Supposed to be open tonight, and black curtains on windows, and signage seems to have gone.... website has gigs listed as per normal?
Edit - it's okay.everyone, they must have just opened late
Damn, I think I've had enough mountain driving for the whole year. I've had an amazing time but I'm exhausted!!!! Hours of single lane winding roads in the rain and fog with local drivers paying no attention to the speed limits, I've definitely tested my driving skills to the max. This little Yaris I've rented has been perfect for the drive though. The steering is definitely much more light and responsive than what I'm used to in Australia.
e: after some thought I think I'll regretfully can the Shimanami Kaido cycling part of my trip. It's just too complicated and expensive, what with mailing my luggage ahead and hopping between accommodation, not to mention bike rentals and having the wrong kind of bag and paying $55 just for the train back that way.
As much as I want to have more of an active experience and don't want to be that kind of traveller... I think I could get more from a nice accom in a quiet part of Tokyo for 4 days and do more walking and journalling and visiting some cool museums and the like.
Had to go out to Pakey at lunch to grab some more PJ pants and got to see a train running on the new sky rail, thats pretty cool. Supposed to open next week apparently, wonder if it'll make much difference. The boomgates going has gotta make a ton of difference if you live in the area, even just visiting they shit me up the wall!
Some rain. It wasn’t a big scary “rain event with damaging winds” like they made it out to be. It was a band of rain that came and left pretty quickly.
Boost for Reddit has officially died today. It still worked for almost a year after the death of the rest of them if you moderated a subreddit, but now it's actually completely dead.
I think ReVanced patcher has a way to change the API key to one you generate yourself which keeps it working for free as long as you use less than a certain amount of API calls per month, but I think that's going to mark the end of my occasional Reddit use outside of adding "Reddit" to some Google searches.