I don't know about all autistic people, but over 75% of the people I've had a considerable relationship with have called me too sensitive at some point. It's one of the hallmarks of being me: waiting for the moment someone calls me too sensitive. The other is being called an asshole because I apparently made some implication I was completely unaware of.
Same. This is exactly what happens to me. Along with letting someone know at the beginning of a friendship that "hey sometimes people perceive me as an asshole or overly sensitive" and getting "oh I don't think you seem like that at all" only for them to tell me I'm an asshole or sensitive months later... and I don't feel like I've changed how I act at all in that time
you're entirely right. allistic is silly. i think it's slightly worse than silly though. i have two takes on this.
my first take is that you shouldn't slur people.
my second is that if you're gonna slur someone anyway, don't be a chicken; just slur them. hiding behind "allistic" is a little bit like hiding behind "youths", or "fruity", or "welfare scroungers", or "special", or when people do that thing where they go "...she... oh sorry i mean he" (and vice-versa). it's either a dogwhistle, or dogwhislte-adjacent. we all know what the speaker is implying when they uses these terms. you're just slurring someone without the confidence necessary to do so.
this is why i unironically use normie (on the internet). sometimes i want to be rude about it, y'know? am in the wrong to slur like this? yes, absolutely. whilst i might use normie in the context of venting, it still doesn't make it right. but at least i'm not being a coward about my position by hiding behind "allistic"
sometimes, especially when i'm chatting amongst autistics, it's easier to casually write "when normies do x it upsets me, how about you?" instead of writing formal prose like "Oh I must say! These dastardly Neurotypicals have a particular behaviour pattern that troubles my mind... Do tell me how you bear the burden of such travesties.".
doing the formal thing is tiring, and sometimes i don't want to be the better person. 😎👍
Also how are any of these things autistic traits? I'm sitting here chewing my tongue raw for the last 5 years and haven't gone outside since, have no interest in socialization and have misphonia yet watch asmr. I'm not autistic.