I had the best day yesterday in a long long time. Met with a friend for some dranks and she's a very close friend. I did have a crush on her about two years back (maybe I still do) but I'm not about to go tell her that now am I?
Anyway, she was pouring out about her life and how she wants to get married by 28 and have 2 kids blah blah and was talking about her ex and their issues (which I won't go into). Then she was talking about this mutual friend of theirs, how he ticks a lot of boxes for her but she felt weird after their interactions (all platonic). She gave me a few examples of certain situations that put her off but she wasn't able to reconcile why. I put my analytical hat on and laid out stuff the way I saw it and she was genuinely surprised by what she had missed.
Anyway, she then said it must be nice being me cuz I'm so happy and have a good job etc etc. Which is obviously not true and I told her as much, I just don't talk about it as much because I'm a very private person. We then spoke about me and I told her a few things about me. A lot of it was self doubt. Starting with my biggest issue - not having a wide enough friend circle. I felt that I didn't have the conversational skills, maybe I was boring, something about me that puts people off idk?? And she reassured me that I just haven't found my people yet. That she loved hanging out with me and that's a testament to this. She generally doesn't hang out with guys 1:1 but she felt comfortable and safe with me. Anyway, I felt great after the chat as I really needed to get it out of me. She got a bit touchy touchy towards the end but I think she was quite tipsy.
I think I like her but we have very different priorities in life. She wants to get married soon, and while I'm not completely opposed to that, it might be a bit early for me. She wants two kids and I'm borderline no kids / 1 maybe. Also she needs to get married to a Christian cuz family pressure (which I'm not). Also sucks that she's exactly my type 😩. Oh well.
I have found that having different interests and to some extent different priorities is not the obstacle that society thinks it is.
Compromise, respect and good will is most important. Usually a good partnership will nurture each person in their growth, interests and aims.
Miss Seagoon learnt this the hard way, her 1st husband actively discouraged her career and interests to the point where discouragement wasn't enough to stop her, he started abusing her. He just had no interest in an equal partnership or her as a person.
What I'm saying is. If it feels very right then pursue it. This good feeling rare. You can sort out the rest later.
That's the thing though. I do want to pursue it but it wouldn't be fair to either of us. She wants to get married soon, I don't. She wants kids, I'm a maybe. And the biggest one is she needs to marry a Christian.
I am in trouble with Bill Cat. Ted Cat jumped up onto the bench while I was making my lunch ( Ted has alreay had two breakfasts and a bowl of lactose free cream ) So I smacked his bum and shooshed him off. Bill then reassured Ted and is giving me dagger stares. 😔
Extraordinarily happy new Doctor Who is up (please no spoilers). That said though, fuck the BBC and their refusal to make anything pre-2005, nor any of the spin-offs available here.
You'd really think they'd make it available, given we've been the only country in the world to have televised every episode at one point, but nope.
And companies wonder why piracy is such a big fucking issue in this country...
2005 was season one. There was no Doctor Who before then. 😃
On a more helpful note, I don't know whether you can get older content on Blu Ray in the UK, but if you can, they're the same Blu Ray region as us. I've imported a few Blu rays from the UK, and they work fine here.
If Saint Nick was exclusively a Melburnian what would he be like? Mannerisms, hobbies, clothes etc.
For me I'd like to think him and the Mrs has a time-share in Mildura, spending time fishing and when they're not there they're down at the Country Club for a spot of lawn bowls.
Also he doesn't say "Ho Ho Ho Merry Christmas" he says "oi oi oi. What was that loud bang?".
He'd have some kind of gimmick to stand out. Perhaps a large carrot he could carry around. He'd wear footy shorts as part of his head to toe black ensemble.
Day 43/70: First day of week 7 weigh-in.
Down 1.0kg. It's funny, bike problems had me running to/from work two days this week. A spike in runs (72km this week) has not translated to a spike in weight loss.
Edit: it was 0.9kg, but then I went to the toilet and lost another hundred grams!
You'll get there mate! Just keep plugging away at it. I've really dropped off on the exercises unfortunately.. I'm finding it hard to gouge even 10 minutes out of the day for just me atm.
Ah... the care is not yet booked. Filling out the form for her now and tomorrow I go get a gp referral for hospital. Gotta get the girl sorted before I go anywhere.
Ginger ale and crackers for dinner. Delicious. I love it when it gets to this
Another to throw in to the GOAT album discussion: Aqua - Aquarium. It spoke the voice of a generation. Every single song would probably have topped the charts if released at different times
Has anyone else noticed that over the past 18 months fewer people on PT and other public places seem to be on their phones .
It used to be about 80% , now it seems to be about 50%.
Assuming that is true maybe all the scandals and revelations that apps are taking private information are influencing people's decision to use their phone less.
Miniest (almost 10) inspected it coolly and declared, "It is cake. I will eat it." Elder (almost 12) said an appreciative "Mmmm" with a gleam of gluttony growing in his eyes. I think the cake could have Freddy Krueger on it and my kids wouldn't be fussed lol.
I was thinking nostalgically about the cakes from the Woman's Weekly cookbook that used to be the norm. Then I found some pictures of people's attempts and reconsidered that being a good idea. I am going to have nightmares tonight about being attacked and eaten alive by birthday cakes.
Only one human captain has ever survived battle with a Minbari Fleet. He is behind me. You are in front of me. If you value your lives, be somewhere else.
Miniest pestered me until I got the Xmas trees set up, and it looks pretty good. One is a cheapy they used at the local supermarket and sold to me for ten bucks when the place was closing down about 10 years ago. Mr P found one on the hard rubbish last year, neatly packed in its box and complete with decorations and lights. We put it together and it's one of those very shmick looking expensive ones. So we have 2 trees, which feels a little odd. My MIL insisted I take a picture and send it to a relative of hers who routinely sets up and decorates 6 trees in one room of her house, like we're competing or something lol.
Yep. Was sent photos one year. It looked quite lovely really, and they've got the house for it. I couldn't be bothered dismantling it all and apparently neither could they.. it stays like that until around August my MIL tells me.
The flowers are the start of plant sex, which is what leads to chillies. If you let them do that when they are too young you end up with welfare dependant chilli plants living in the caravan park raising juvenile delinquent chilli kids that will never amount to any good. If you make them wait until they have established themselves in a career with a good income and life skills they will be able to raise a much larger number of healthy well adjusted chillies that will be a credit to your garden.
In other news, I posted volleyball for the first time in my life today and have returned with a jammed finger. Fuck. It hurts. A bit swollen so will keep iceing it.
I've been looking at the weather forecast for the next week and there is a definite theme. Possible Shower. Late Shower. Clearing Shower. The only respite we have from the showers is on Wednesday, where we will instead be graced with rain.