This is from a fresh boot of the system, except sshd I have not started anything else.
ram consumption used to be just 126-200 mb now it has jumped so significantly that I am concerned I might have unnecessarily bloated my system:
I intend to use the system as a local server with an optional fully featured WM(Hyprland which is installed, but this screenshot was taken before it was loaded) for occasional use.
Ram conservation is a top priority and I would like to know if such a big jump in usage is normal or are there is something wrong with my system config
Some times. This is actually where we run into one of the issues with open source software, competing standards. Some tools will call your swap or cache "reserved" regardless if it's actually being used or not. They're not wrong, it is reserved, but it's reserved for usage in emergency situations rather than being reserved in the way we look at the rest of memory
I do agree it's worth investigating if it happens again. My best guess so far would be some kind of data written to a tmpfs. That'd explain it not being associated with a particular process, yet counting towards actual used RAM.
You can also drop cache for debugging by running something like echo 3 | sudo tee /proc/sys/vm/drop-caches
But remember that the kernel knows best --- this RAM will automatically be freed up when needed and you should never run this except for debugging (or maybe benchmarking).
Uh, memory metrics in Linux are a pain. The only tool that reports most cached as available is htop. free, top and a lot of other software (like node_exporter) will report that a lot of cached memory is not available.
To OP: don’t worry, a lot of Linux tools are smart enough to give back memory if memory pressure rises.
I don't know when you had a clean boot using only 200MB, but it wasn't in the past few years with what you're running there.
Anyway, with half your RAM still available, things are more than fine. Make sure you have swap enabled, and you won't get OOMKill situations that tear things down.
You mention this is a server VM and so you probably don't need NetworkManager or the wpa_supplicant services. If you don't wish to setup a static IP for the server VM then install and use dhcpcd instead of NetworkManager/wpa_supplicant.
Unless you need to use WWAN (2G/3G/4G/5G) devices, you don't need ModemManager.
Depending on your workflow, consider reducing the number of agetty instances to 1. With a single agetty instance, install and use tmux multiplexer when you need more sessions on the physical VM console.
I don't have any experience of using seatd/elogind but I think you may be able to configure USE flags such that you only need seatd installed (i.e. don't need elogind) and since you need seatd only for running a WM occasionally, why not use seatd-launch to start the WM and not have the seatd daemon running constantly. See: https://github.com/swaywm/sway/wiki/Running-Sway-with-seatd,-elogind-or-systemd‐logind#seatd-launch
Lastly, the largest chunk of memory used other than the processes you can see in htop will be the Linux kernel. The Gentoo distribution kernel will have hundreds of drivers for real hardware which make no sense in a Kernel that will be used in a VM (unless you plan to use PCI/USB pass through). So, you should create a custom kernel (https://wiki.gentoo.org/wiki/Kernel/Gentoo_Kernel_Configuration_Guide) which is tailored for a KVM guest.
To do this (the following are not detailed instructions but just guidance):
You start with "make defconfig" which creates a ".config" file with the default options from the ARCH supplied defconfig (e.g. x86_64_defconfig).
Then you do a "make kvm_guest.config" which adds config options that makes the kernel bootable as a KVM guest.
Next you need to do a "make filesystem.config" which will add config options for filesystems you need the kernel to support. (* see note below)
Next you need to do a "make systemd.config" which will add config options for systemd functionality related support. (* see note below)
Next you need to do a "make arch_x86.config" which will enable additional config options for some virtual hardware support drivers (* see note below)
Note 1: The additional "*.config" files mentioned above will need to be copied into the correct place before make will find them and I've provided some some sample config files you can use to start with below:
Note 2: I'm not associated with the above github repo(cyano-linux/qemu-guest-kernel) but I have referenced it when I needed to setup a custom kernel. You can find a little documentation for the above kernel config here: https://github.com/cyano-linux/qemu-guest-kernel/blob/master/config.md
Remove Modemmanager if you don't use it, replace Network-manager and wpa_supplicant with connman or iwd, maybe look if you can remove elogind since you already use seatd.
Btw, syslogd, the reference implementation? Not syslog-ng?
And, uh, Systemd doesn't do supervision by itself, needs a service for it?
Yea, this kind of blows me away. Maybe I'm out of the loop, but 3-4 processes each eating away that much memory? Just to deal with the network stuff? Holy fuck.
MEM% for each NetworkManager process is 0.4 % of 3.28 G ≈ 13.1 M. Additionally, almost certainly most of this will be shared between these processes, as well as other processes, so you cannot just add them together.
The virtual size (315M) is the virtual memory. Quite clearly only 13.1 M of this are actually in use. The rest will only start getting backed by real physical memory if it is being written to.
The way this works is that the process will get interrupted if it writes to a non-physical memory location (by the memory management unit (MMU); this is known as a page fault), and executions jumps to the kernel which will allocate physical memory and alter the virtual memory table, and then proceed with the execution of the write operation.
Many programs or library functions like to get way larger virtual memory buffers than they will actually use in practice, because that way the kernel does all this in the background if more memory is needed, and the program doesn't need to do anything. I.e. it simplifies the code.
Well I wasn't thinking about memory (and maybe that's the reason some people downvoted that comment...) but because in my experience NetworkManager takes time starting at boot and with months/years it was taking more and more time. I reset it once and kept doing the same thing.
As you said you're planning on a home server kind of thing I'd think setting up a static ip is a good idea and NetworkManager is just an overkill for that - you could very well go along with Gentoo's netifrc.