I may say this as a LW user, but LBZ feels like home and the whole community was rightfully pretty hurt about the 196 drama. Glad everyone stood together and made it clear what was up, and that Ada’s work in particular is much appreciated
In another month or so when LW updates (the synching issue will actually be delayed even further beyond that they said), will this really be as much of an issue anymore?
If they want to provide hosting services, then let them? We can always move if we don't like them, and let's face it that some of those giant communities are fairly toxic and would remain so wherever they go.
Then again perhaps I am speaking of things that I do not know here: out of the top 10 communities listed there, I am not subscribed to any of them.
If you dont want to see those type of posts, then you can follow communities which dont include them. And block any instances/communities you dont like so they disappear from /all. You can also create your own community with your own rules, or your own instance. Neither of these things is difficult, they just need time and determination.
I don't know if LW is too big, but there is such a thing a too big. Ideally no single instance should have to use "federation-style" synchronization within itself. Below that size economies of scale might justify growth, above... not so much.