Have you ever ghosted somebody?

I am a ghost.

I'm extremely introverted and non-confrontational, so if a situation is too unpleasant or stressful, I vanish. It's what I've pretty much always done. I have no idea how many times I've had someone say to me, " Hey - what happened to you? I just looked around and you were gone."

It's sort of a trap. A lot of it is that, in addition to being introverted and generally non-confrontational, I'm hyper aware of people's emotions, so if I expect that they're going to be angry or hurt, I especially don't want to deal with it. But of course, then I introduce the chance that they're going to be angry or hurt because I "ghosted" them (or as it was most commonly known before the social media era, I "blew them off"). And yes - I feel bad about that.

All in all though, it's still generally less unpleasant than the alternatives.

I've got a great story about this one, but I will have to write it up in a couple of hours.

There's a whole half of my family I don't talk to anymore.

No. I think it’s a pretty shitty thing to do unless you had a reason to feel unsafe, which I personally never have.

Everyone I went to high school with. Although to be fair, they did the same. So I guess win-win?

All the time.

Pretty much never intentionally, though. I'm just bad at keeping up with people.

ive had a few times where the person just felt a lil creepy and i felt safer just dropping off

Only online. As soon as someone starts being pedantic in the comments and then argues about how they aren’t missing the point, I’m out. Not worth spending more time on.

I had an abusive family member. Whenever they wanted to start fights I would stay quiet. It got to the point of them insulting me every chance they got. I ghosted them for almost 3 years now. Just finally moved out of that house. My wife and I are living in our car, but we are free from abuse and that’s all that matters. That family member truly had a hold on us as slaves. So finding an escape was incredible.

I ghosted my father when I was 19. seen him a couple times since then at family gatherings but we didn't talk. once in a while he sends me mildly deranged emails or text messages after midnight but I just ignore them. I guess I've sorta ghosted my grandparents too, and my aunts and uncles. though I'm not ignoring their attempts to contact, we are just mutually not contacting each other. I feel bad about it sometimes but they are miserable people and very hard to be around for me and I have to assume they aren't too broken up about it because they never reach out.

Just did my former friends earlier this year.

Life is life. Gets crazy and we don’t work together anymore so we don’t get much time to hang out.

He blew up on me about me never reaching out but like when? And I apologized and said I would try to make a better effort to reach out.

After about an hour, he never texted me back and I realized that the last message sent before he blew up on me was me reaching out to him a few weeks prior and he never responded! So like wtf dude.

So then he or his wife said something and I never responded and they texted me a few times for a few days after but I never replied, let alone read the messages.

I was already on the edge about them anyway. They had a problem with everyone. Everyone eventually had a problem with them and it makes me feel like they’re likely the problem people in their various situations. They were very strict about things and it just never felt right with me.

I gave them my car that I was no longer using and they were super appreciative which is how we became friends, but I honestly was just trying to be nice. I wasn’t really looking for friends.

Idk. I feel bad about it sometimes but I also feel like it was long overdue for us to no longer be friends anymore.

Plenty people. For stuff like

• insisting on a subject after I clearly said "I don't want to talk about this"
• throwing a tantrum against me for something that is clearly not my fault
• sending me multiple messages sequentially, containing nothing of value
• trying to proselytise their stupid superstition, whichever it may be
• bossing me around with uncalled advice, after I said to drop it

And I don't feel bad for ghosting any of those. At all.

I hesitate to say yes or no because ghosting comes in many levels. There are many people I prioritize last if at all, and there are some people that some would say I definitely have good reasons to ghost absolutely, but the potential for circumstantial nuance (especially in my life) would make this practically difficult to foresee myself doing. The closest I come to a perfect example of a ghosted individual is my best friend's birth mother who wants to steer his life away from mine and my other best friend's since she (the birth mother) is culturally discriminatory.

Tbh, I probably would’ve answered if they had sent a second text

why would you think that you would have changed your stance when the first date already set off rejection in you?

No. It's alright to tell people it didn't click for you in a polite manner. Ghosting is for cowards and rude people.

I try not to ghost people. I don’t like being ghosted myself, so I want to avoid feeling like a hypocrite. But I typically get ghosted anyway. It’s frustrating, and depressing. If I’m giving off the wrong vibe, I’d like to know so I can correct it. But instead I’m left wondering what it could be and I have a bad habit of overthinking everything to begin with.

The last time I was ghosted was a couple weeks ago. I thought things were going well, but then she just stopped responding. I broke character and reached out one more time, but still got nothing. It sucks. Thought we had a connection.

🤷‍♂️ I miss the old days of dating.