Thank you all for the support yesterday. Reading your messages helped me feel so much better.
Yesterday one of my friends drove half an hour to go for a walk with me (which is more than bar guy would've ever done). Then we went to the shops and tried on clothes. Afterwards, we met up with a mutual friend and her friends. The friends were so nice. They gave me really nice hugs, made me punch pillows, talked to me empathetically, bought me KFC because I hadn't eaten all day, and then we drove to the beach. This experience has shown me that I can do so much better, as someone who hasn't had a good time socially.
Not getting closure in person and feeling the loss absolutely sucks. It's going to be sad for a bit. He didn't even fight for me! I had guys who I'd only been on a few dates with wanting to talk it out and try to problem solve. I should've left months ago at my first sign of doubt. But there's nothing I can do now. Now I know that I need to listen to what my body is telling me, because maybe it isn't all that shit. I shouldn't have to cry 30+ times just in a month because that is not normal (yep I have a crying tally whoops).
I also feel fucking relieved. Good riddance. I don't have to beg for someone to show up for me anymore.
Goodnight all ❤️Feeling depressed. The cold and dark sucks. Cost of living sucks. Need a holiday but can’t afford one. Going to take a week off work in a few months but it’s not the same as going somewhere and getting away from it all. Pet boarding would cost heaps so even cheap isn’t on the cards. Health is shite also (cfs etc) which makes it hard to plan and do stuff.
Tax cuts sounded great til I got a land tax bill that had doubled because it’s how Dan andrew’s is paying back the Covid payout debts. (It had a nice letter with it to explain that). And I know there’s people who are in very very shit circumstances compared to me, so self compassion isn’t a thing.
Isn't PPR exempt from land tax?
If you got a land tax bill for the one property that you reside in (owner occupier/ppr), call the State Revenue Office and they can have it removed. You may need to provide proof it is the only property you own, and that you live in permanently, but they will explain that.
I used to work for the State Revenue Office of Victoria, specifically collecting and investigating land tax and payroll tax. Please contact them if this tax bill is for your PPR!
Edit: my ex-coworkers, the people on the phones, are so lovely as well. They're used to senseless abuse, so if you're polite they will love you!
I moved in with fiancé so it’s subject to land tax now, it’s the only house I own. Relationship is a bit dicey atm, sadly. Can see why women get divorced around age 40-50.
I feel you hard. The SADs hit hard on these chilly and short days :/
Sometimes I feel so Groundhog Day. Each day merges into the next and the next. But unlike the movie there’s no magic trick to break the spell. Sleep eat work tv housework weekday weekend repeat.
The weekly shopping at safeway/woolies did it for me. I looked ahead and saw decades of it, I would cry in the supermarket i hated shopping so much.
Now I shop online and on random days.
@Seagoon_ @SituationCake When I start feeling that way, it's usually a sign for me that something has to change, or I need a bigger goal to look forward to.
Is it time to take up a new hobby? New job? Move house? Do something on the weekend you wouldn't normally do? Join a community group? Plan something? Catch up with an old friend or meet a new one?
This hit me the other day. Really, really hard. Here's to better days.
This was me last couple of years. I don't feel it atm as I'm new to my jobs and I certainly think getting out of my house for work helps make it less monotonous, but I can see it happening again on the horizon.
Its an useful feeling, it prompts change and makes us into more interesting people with more to offer the world. What's really helped in the past has been having a meaningful goal to work towards (savings being an obvious one), and in better times, scheduling in something unusual or out of the ordinary when I can (an overnight trip somewhere new, trying out a new activity, even looking at and applying for new jobs). I may not necessarily enjoy the latter, but it does provide enough contrast/discomfort to help me regain appreciation for my life or remember why I originally chose to play certain things safe.
**Trigger Warning: corriander
I've been out enjoying the lovely weather in the garden and am pleased to report that the late planting of corriander last year has successfully self-seeded and I now have a patch of baby corriander. There is also a bit of self-seeded lettuce popping up, and my bok-choy mustard hybrids are going well now the weather has cooled down.
I've also planted some snow pea seeds and will cross my fingers they don't get eaten before they manage to grow.
**Trigger Warning: corriander
Umm... "fuck coriander"? 😅
I absolute hate coriander so thank you for the trigger warningb❤️
Woop, this time it seems to be my turn to have eaten something that overstayed its welcome. Not sure if it was the rice or the dal. Probably the dal, it's lasted a week. Burping like crazy and feeling a few stabs in the gut. Usually my gut is fairly durable with old food, but it's been a little weird lately... handling coffee well again? But back to the burping? Hmmm...
E: I started using my new undated planner which has a "brain dump" section before every 7 days, to unload everything into a list and then assign a priority, and a date to do it by. Then I can pre-fill days in advance and each day has a "3 most important tasks" section to filter out the crucial items. I hope this will help with my life organisation, I think it works with my brain.
COVID and my period!? What else? What else Universe!?
WHINGE WHINE WAH
At least it's all over and done with at the same time.
Reschedule leprosy for next week then?
4:00: wallow in self pity;
4:30: stare into the abyss;
5:00: solve world hunger, tell no one;
5:30: jazzercize;
6:30: dinner with me - I can't cancel that again;
7:00: wrestle with my self-loathing...
I'm booked!Yeah I think leprosy will have to wait until next week
“You hear a lot of talk about the cartels in Mexico, but the truth is that the beaches are safe and all the surfers are safe, you just have to be alert, just as you would in any other city in the world,” said Otanez, whose group took part in a “paddle out” vigil for the three slain men over the weekend."
Um no this particular area is not safe. Not even according to locals. To think otherwise is simply delusional. And this plays out statistically as well.
"In 2021, Baja California had the second highest number of homicides in Mexico, accounting for nearly one out of 10 homicides nationwide."
It's really irresponsible to encourage travel to the area.
I've previously looked into traveling to Tijuana, which is in the Baja California region. You'd think a big city right on the border of the US is safe but most reddit posts on the issue were saying don't stay in the city after dark, travel to tourist areas only, so many precautions to take. Alert to the potential of violent crime is probably where I draw the line on travelling somewhere. If the likely worst thing that's going to happen to me is being pickpocketed or my phone snatched out of my hand by a passing motorbike, I can deal with that.
Someone fucked around and found out. It's a tragedy, but completely avoidable by not travelling to areas known for violent cartel activity.
6.15am, sleepy wife in passenger seat.
Halfway through a left turn, the guy behind me honks.
So as a petty revenge, I did 40 in a 50 zone. Guy behind flashes headlights.
Eventually the guy overtook us. My wife and I looked at the guy. Staring back at us was a possibly 19 year old green P Asian male in command of an MG HS.
I think I will do one week self care and self organising, then next week doing some stuff around the house and garden. 😊👍
I've put the oven on, I'm making banana honey bread and roasting a chicken for dinner. :)
Yes, yes...come to the dark side 🐔
It's a small chook and they don't have as dark meat but legs it is. ( Need bigger chooks. )
Sounds perfect. Meanwhile it’s salad at my place :-(
the chook is in the oven, rice is in the cooker and I will be steaming some broccoli. Then I just have to make the gravy.
The banana bread is chewy from the honey and will be good for brekkie. :)
Can I send you some?
the mornings and evenings in autumn are so full of bird song
Project day today! My nerdy electronics from that dodgy place that doesn't do refunds for mixing deliveries arrived today. Finally got around to fixing the boot errors windows was having. It seems it decided to do an update I never asked for and screwed up its boot file. I had to download the 6gb iso and flash it onto a hard drive to get a working command prompt, but it rebuilt the file no worries
Dammit. I hate this cold.
Getting back drip into my throat and it’s making me cough all day long and it doesn’t sound nice at all, like a frog dying or something.
What’s worse is that it’s keeping me from sleeping too waking up to coughing fits because whatever is in my throat is tickling it and making it dry.
oh noes, that drip is the worst.
hugs and have some steamy hot honey lemon drink 🍋🍯🍵
Sadly I don’t have that available to me :(
I’ll try to go to sleep as best I can. Lost the will to stay up to do anything.
Thanks for the hugs
Thumb wound day two. Not so bad. Was pretty concerned how long it bled for yesterday but now not bleeding, looks much better
spoiler
your condition seemed touch and go for a while.I’ve got to hand it to you for being so brave. 👍
Glad for the update so that we can really keep our finger on the pulse of the recovery.
Excellent recovery.
You really thumbed your nose at that can.
👍
brutal
Deffo reccomend those bandaids that close wounds, they pull the skin together.
Reminds me of when I was 10yo and I cut my left pointer finger, top and bottom, with a pair of scissors. Got a small amount of nerve damage, but if I curl my finger it looks like a bit like a mons pubis
mons pubis on my digit
That's hot
Woo, that’s a decent cut.
Did you end up going to the hospital? How did you treat it?
Try and keep it clean and use some first aid disinfectant wipes if you have any, otherwise either unscented isopropyl wipes or just soap and water and band aids/gauze will do
I wrapped it in a rotation of clean socks until about 7.30 at night (12 hours post incident) when I realis d I had band aids at home. I applied one over the bloody mess of my thumb and went to bed. After pic is the morning. I didn't go to hospital or call nurse on call or anything. I figured: if I die, I die. I'll monitor for infection though
so you know that "add extra member" option on Netflix to add someone outside your houselhold....when you add them (and pay, and provide their email etc), do they log in via their email and my password? or do they get a login request email where they log in with their email, and then get asked to set a password....? asking for a very tech illierate sister in law living in another state....(as in not really able to forward any email on to me) - can't find this on the website
We did this for my mother in law who previously used our account. They receive an email asking them to set their own password and then log in with their own credentials, you never need to share yours.
Cool. Thanks I'll let them know.
@Seagoon_ I really should be going to bed sometime right about now, yet I'm still procrastinating about doing the dishes...
Good night.
Man, this original X-Men cartoon from the 90's is seriously not for kids. Glad they've added new episodes this year but yeah it's pretty intense.
I watched and loved it as a kid when it was released. Very happy to get more of it now with X-Men 97.
80 mins until my alarm. Do I try to go back to sleep or just give up and get up?
Very tempted to sell some of my stoncks, and buy a 2 bedroom older walk up unit. Still have room for the CGT taxable part of the sale to go into First home super, and it's de-risking in case of a crash.
There's a tonne of them coming up for sale right now, and the mortgage + strata payments work out to be around the same as the rent.
What price range are you looking at?
Under $500K. Ideally under $450K.
Movie review. Knight of Cups with Christian Bale.
This movie is so beautiful nearly made me cry.
5 hobbits
I was looking at pasta recipes with pineapple and apparently it is a thing. It's called Hawaiian pasta. Everything that's on a Hawaiian pizza is in the pasta. Genius.
https://www.theslowroasteditalian.com/one-pot-hawaiian-pasta/
The German TV show "Dark" featured a (nostalgic?) dish called Toast Hawaii. I think it's just ham and cheese on toast plus a pineapple ring.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Toast_Hawaii
Now that I check, Wikipedia says it also had a cherry on top. Wild.
I love that show!
Hahaha. I think I need to do this. Thanks.
That looks incredible, not gonna lie.
It does! I'm gonna tweak it a bit though.
COVID nightmares are wild
Response to Seagoon: I bought codral, not Sudafed, so that's prolly why my nose is swollen. I should have bought Sudafed, or spoken to a chemist for the good shit (codeine)
I stupidly ordered nestle hot choc sachets from Amazon without checking the ingredients. Corn syrup dammit. Had the nestle hot choc sachets at a training centre in the city and could only find them on Amazon. Clearly not the same though.
That is disappointing. I have them supplied at work, so if you want lots of them you could try an office supply store.
Edit: I just had a quick look and Officeworks has it available online - you can get a 750g pack of the same mix if you don't want to buy 100 individual sachets!
Oooh thank you infinitely much. They make my office days much nicer.
Reminds me, I bought some Milo mocha sachets the other day thinking they'd be nice but they really suck. I can't taste either the Milo or the coffee, I can only really taste the sugar. Which is understandable, because on top of all the sugar in Milo, they put even more sugar into the sachet. There's something like 0.5g of coffee in it (not caffeine), which doesn't seem like a lot
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Plate of thumbplings please
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Double Force Burger Happy Meal pliss
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Forcemeat dumplings please, and some ginger tea.
👍🥟🫚☕️
[Insert cleverly worded Force food request here]
👍🍕☕️
