Oh for pete's sake. My aunt who I saw on Monday was trying to clean out things from her house on Thursday and slipped on some gum leaves on her steep and uneven front steps and hit her head on the ground. Had a bit of minor whiplash. She's been resting all weekend thankfully. Once I've finished moving I'll go offer to help my aunt and uncle with moving crap outside. After reading about Bottom_racer's mum I'm not to keen on them risking another fall. They have two grown children who have no interest in helping...
I think she's okay given that the fall was on Thursday and she has been resting since. But I'm wary of her having another fall in the coming week, I hope she is very careful. She and my uncle feel like they have to do everything themselves because they are (a) frugal and (b) unable to rely on their kids for help, but it's not worth a fall.
Mum's going in for eye surgery this morning (which I only knew as of yesterday). She has only partial vision in one eye and that's what they're operating on. This is so risky and the outcome will take weeks. Fingers crossed.
So my aunt is clearing her house out as she's selling it, so has been giving boxes of old stuff to her kids. Yesterday she had a box for the birthday cousin (her son lol), and it includes his old pair of Heelys from when he was a teen.
I exclaimed how cool that is! How I always wanted a pair, and he should definitely try them on again and wear them! Because they're cool!
He laughed and said he wasn't gonna wear them, they have a skull design on them and he isn't interested...
Long story short, he gave me his Heelys after checking they fit. And they do! I thanked him profusely and probably will continue to do so lol
Saw mum this arvo briefly she was high as a kite but doing well. just got a call just now telling me to put something over her strawberries and I didn't have the heart to tell her something has already eaten them :(
Oh man. I really feel like Iโm deteriorating in the place where I live. Constant fight or flight and can barely eat.
The suburb is nice elsewhere but itโs quite rough in my immediate spot and there have been many incidents which have led to ptsd. It goes so far beyond a pinched package (or three). Some pretty serious stuff has happened here and I just havenโt gone into any of it.
Iโve exhausted every avenue that wouldnโt leave me worse off. Now shaking the tree for one last possibility on the chance I might be able to move out but the place wonโt even be built until like 2026.
Remember, you are safe once you close your front door.
and regarding serious stuff, I lived in downtown Detroit and I was safe. Crime was always in nightclubs and or among drug gangs. And because crime isn't random to be safe I just had to stay away from drugs and where dealers go..
The incidents will be the same, only against people/enemies they know, not random.
You mean well butโฆ I just deleted an extremely personal comment of everything that has actually happened to me here. Repeatedly. For years.
Here you go. I once chased an intruder out of my house on pure unthinking adrenaline. I was very lucky that the person was alone - and that they spooked when I rushed them.
That was the very least of it. That is the one thing Iโm willing to tell you about because the rest is so much worse and persisted so much longer.
I genuinely donโt leave my house a lot because things are โquieterโ these days but I still donโt want to keep an eye out or roll the dice on physical confrontations. Yes it is likely. Guess how I know.
Ps. The justice system is useless. Cops are overwhelmed. Donโt expect anything. I was lucky to finally get a camera through victims of crime after a particularly bad incident.
Youโre welcome to not believe me, thatโs cool. It is so unbelievable to someone who doesnโt live in my exact circumstances. Itโs unbelievable to me. I think it comes down to the area, previous tenant, and looking like an easy target.
But there are landmarks I can point to that explains it. Ghettos of untreated mental illness and substance abuse do exist in pockets (even in seemingly nice areas) of Melbourne. And vulnerable low income people do get warehoused in with it.
This is exactly how I knew what Baku was about to be dealing with.
Laundry is out... going through the clothes after avoiding it all morning. Emotions! Letting go of clothes that have meant a lot in the past but over the last few years of numbness that started during the lockdowns, barely looked at let alone worn. I'm not into dressing up much, but I miss the person who used to wear these. Some things I'm happy to let go of though. Lots of things from 12-14 years ago ๐ฌ
"I'm not into dressing up much, but I miss the person who used to wear these." Wow, that hit hard. I've got longline leather jacket, silk shirts etc that I used to wear but haven't in years and I can't let them go yet, I feel like I'd be throwing out part of myself. I got rid of all my high heeled boots years back, when motherhood arrived, and I still get upset about it sometimes. Did I really have to? But I was the one mostly left literally holding the baby, high heeled boots aren't sensible at all, and there was so much finger wagging from my in-laws about celebrities in ridiculous heels holding newborns.. Now I'm a fat mumma and a factory worker, not a glamorous or hip person at all. Sometimes I miss who I used to be. I had to give up so much as a mother, and I adore my kids but to be truthful it's sometimes a sore point. I swore I wouldn't be that person and here I am, wearing Millers Woman from the op shop, polishing off cupcakes from Coles because I am sad. Wow, that's pathetic, I didn't realise how bad it'd gotten!
Oh no Peeler. I felt so sad reading your comment. I don't know what to say because I haven't had such a big transition forced (?) on me in life, but I personally think the part of you that is fun and exciting and curious about the world is still there in the way you write โ how you observe the world. Please don't be so hard on yourself, you are a truly amazing woman no matter how you look on the outside ๐
Gone through all my clothes, culled about 30% - half in the bin, half to the op shop. Nearly all the other clothes are packed. As are the hangers, and all my paper bags and bubble wrap has been consolidated. Plus two loads of laundry.
Cooked up a big dish of pasta with white bean, roast pumpkin, salmon, zucchini and baby spinach for the next three days, and some dal for tonight.
Far out I'm exhausted, that's enough for me today. Next task is to consolidate all the bits and bobs hiding in drawers all over the place. And move all my boxes somewhere out of the way.
E: I also seem to have dislodged some kind of dust that's making me feel weird... better run the air purifier.
I've got so many things to go through and cull/pack... threw some laundry in too and having a late breakfast with tea... just want to have a lazy Sunday. ๐ฅฑ
I say this far too often because it's life changing advice. If you can afford it, you can hire help at about $120 a fortnight to manage most of these problems. As they're specialists at it they can smash them quickly.
I like to still do my own laundry and clean dishes whilst I cook as it's faster and more efficient but I haven't "cleaned" or had to "chores" in years.
I think I've been ghosted by a couple more buyers. Grrr. I did sell the cotton reel holders though, so it's not a complete loss. I'd just really like some of this big stuff to be gone!
Edit: I'd also like Facebook to realise that I'm selling stuff because I don't want it and giving me ads for all those things is completely pointless!
2nd Edit: One of the buyers has risen from the dead and is on her way! Hopefully one of the cupboards will be going bye-bye.
I hate opening a new bottle of something to find those stupid fucking plastic ring pulls. And if they happen to break while pulling then it takes all my courage not to throw the thing. ๐คฌ
I potted two more zucchini plants out into bigger pots. Trying to decide whether to keep 6 or keep it at 4.
If I keep 6 I will need more potting mixโฆ I still need the stakes too. It seems easier to get tomato stakes and put them in the pots so everything is freestanding. Plus if I need to move them thereโs minimal disturbance to the vines.
The potting mix isnโt a problem. Thatโs too heavy to get stolen (I hope). The stakes though incur a $25 delivery feeโฆ I probably have to enlist help there.
The pet shops are also giving me a hard time about delivering to a friendโs address. I forced myself out for the treats and Zylkene but hate doing it and the local doesnโt have her biccies. Iโd sort a parcel locker but ran into issues
4 zucchini plants will feed a family of 10 and have enough left over to put in a still to be boiled down for illegal alcohol. 6 - um probably too many for just one person. I'd go for 2 only I think.
Tteok-bokki is my comfort food right now! Went to Maita in Caulfield yesterday and bought so many goodies. They even had Coolish! Barely made it out the store before opening that up!
It was such a short sighted and stupid change to the law.
All the legitimate shops that sold refillable devices and juice got shut down and all the blackmarket shops who sell vapes with god knows what and to underage kids are still open.
My local council election results are in. The independent-but-member--of-the-Liberal-party candidate won, with a narrow member over the independent-but-maybe-corrupt candidate. Hopefully this means I can stop looking at the candidate's names and getting "Mr Brightside" stuck in my head (as the other candidate's name is Emily Brightside) ๐คฃ
Oh, yes I think I saw something about that (at least I hope it was about the same person, otherwise there's more of them).
I just had a candidate involved in controversy over a not-for-profit gym, which has been having problems with Council who have assessed them as actually making a profit. I have no idea whether the gym is being unfairly treated or there is something dodgy going on with it, but I got a bit sus when I saw the gym (which she is on the board of) was paying for her Facebook ads. Then I got a letter from someone doing a mail-out highlighting that she has been involved in the controversy, and that there are three people who are involved standing for Council in a presumed effort to overturn the Council decision about the gym. I don't really want someone who is going into the job purely for their own private agenda, so I'm pretty happy she did not win.