The problem is that people use humor as a weapon. If you fall those people point a finger at you and laugh while calling you an idiot.
Others use it as a way to deal with stuff or in general just see it as something to make light of a situation. Those people would also laugh but they would come to your help, ask if everything is alright and would help you up. While knowing that everybody falls down sometimes and that it can funny.
Everything can be funny with the right people and that helps to cope.
Dark humor is good as long as it's actually dark humor. As much as I hated the power mods of Reddit, Awkwardtheturtle's constant trolling of the dark humor sub was fucking hilarious. He'd throw random rules on posting and commenting that would take off most comments and posts by default. Seeing those immature assholes lose their shit over not being able to be as racist is hilarious.
Redditor "You like dark humor?"
Me "Yeah sure I guess"
Redditor "I LIKE RAPING BABIES AND MURDERING MINORITIES! I ALSO BEAT MY WIFE! PLEASE LAUGH!"
The problem with racist humor is that theres a limited number of premises. How many ways can you make a slavery or no father joke about black people? How many math jokes can you make about asians? Muslim terrorists? You get the idea.
I dont want the same lazy bullshit over and over. I want my dark humor to be fresh! I want my Titan submarine jokes before the bubbles reach the surface.
Racist humor isnt "dark" humor, its lazy tired rehashed crap. Real dark humor is like kids with leukaemia, it never seems to get old.
Fair, I never went on those subs and I'd imagine most Redditors didn't. I'd also imagine there are some Lemmy instances which are just as bad if not worse. I guess that's a bit different because federation means those communities are isolated from other instances, but I don't know if practically it's any different when it's so easy to have accounts across multiple instances. I'd imagine anyone using one of those highly isolated instances on Lemmy will have an account on another instance.
There was and still is a shit ton of racism on Reddit, among other -ism hate.
People like to hate on groups they deem “other” or less than. r/Freespeech is stuffed to the gills with transphobia and homophobia, for example. Anyone else remember r/FatPeopleHate? r/The_Donald hasn’t been gone that long. etc etc etc.
So does Wefwef, Liftoff and Jerboa. It's actually quite impressive that they managed to find the one Lemmy delivery method that doesn't let you easily hide comments 😂
Since lemmy is federaversed I would imagine that much worse crap than what you see on Reddit can come to the surface..
I hope to see a community where this is not the case... But since everyone can create it's own instance everything can exist.