Have you tried dating sites? I can't even get "ugly" women to respond to me so they must have "better options" reaching out to them or I really am just that undesirable lol
Let me tell you a completely unguarded open non-secret: most men will date anything with a pulse, quite literally. I'm not saying you should settle for any scumbag you can find, just that your odds are better than you think.
I get what you're saying, but they also have a point. Yes, men can wear makeup, but there are many reasons a lot of guys actively refuse that option. Are any of them "real", no, but considering the social nature of our species, even the ones that aren't "real" still matter to us
It's as "real" as your name is "real" and is really your name. It may not be a large object visible to the naked eye but it's still a solid thing stored in neurons of many physical brains.
Can you imagine the response from a woman after your first shower if you were good at applying makeup and used it all the time? "You.. you lied to me! Wait, are you gay? I'm so confused right now."
But really, I'm agreeing with the guy/gal. There's no ackshually. There are very real consequences to social faux paus. Language isn't a tangible object you can hood in your hand, but I don't think anyone would argue that language isn't real. Societal norms are the same.
Don't worry, I understood completely what you were saying lol. Most of our day to day is determined by things that are only real because we have decided they are. Morality, laws, language.. none of it's real, except that it is.
Being an ugly woman is not nearly the struggle that being an ugly man is. Women who aren't attractive need to approach at all and they'll have more success than ugly men who approach twice as often.