That’s easy to say, you don’t know what already happened aside from her attempt to stop this. She could have had awful threats, maybe even towards her kids.
She already fought and lost, and there was and is still no one openly supporting her. Read the article, not even the military ( her employer) does.
Isn't it up to the local district attorney to press charges? Usually they won't go ahead if the victim won't cooperate, but that doesn't mean they can't.
IANAL, but I believe that is only a thing in Commonwealth states of Maryland, Pennsylvania, Kentucky, and Virginia. In normal states, I don't believe it is standard practice for the state to pick up the charge if the victim refused to prosecute.