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volvoxvsmarla @lemm.ee
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"Suffering builds character". anarcho-primitivists, probably
  • As someone without a car but with a child let me tell you, cars significantly reduce our living standard.

    Most places we go I need to constantly tell my toddler not to walk too much to the left or right or run or slow down, I have to control her like a slave, or suppress her emerging wish for independence by holding her by the hand all the time, or even worse, put her in a stroller. Hell there are so many cars parked here (even on corners) that I often cannot leave the sidewalk safely with a stroller or cross the street safely (so that I would see a coming car or a coming car would see me).

    I'd happily be less of a "germophobe" and have my kid run around with dirty hands, pick up dirt, etc. But car dirt is definitely not the "healthy dirt" so no, no dirt for you. Don't touch, don't play.

    I want my child to grow up in a city that embraces her existence. I want her to feel like a welcomed member of society. But instead I have to keep telling her so many negative things, this is dangerous, don't go there, don't do this. She still loves being downtown and prefers this often to the playground or nature (which we try to encourage). She loves the tram and trains. But there are so many restrictions of free movement it breaks my heart.

    And I am in a privileged position living in a German city. I can't even begin to imagine how devastating it would be in an even more car centric society.

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  • I absolutely don't understand why a TV debate of two people has any influence on who will be in the office for the most powerful political position in the world. Neither does the format fit the importance, nor should the public opinion be based on a few hours of a conversation with an opponent.

    Let alone that one person/the executive branch should not hold that much power and a direct vote for the president seems like an awful way to try to get a qualified person into office.

  • sounds about right
  • This was such a nice reply, thank you, it really made my day (probably even two days). How sad that lemmy lost you, but I think I get it. It's not 100% my vibe either. Maybe one day it will change in a way that makes you want to try it out again. I'm probably typing this into a void but just in case you pop in again you, as well, deserve a friendly hello.

    And I really hope you pop back in because frankly, having an archeologist who specialized in deathways is super interesting. I imagine you have so many things to tell. How are American deathways different from other cultures? What stands out? How did Native Americans influence the settling Europeans, and vice versa? Was there any influence to begin with? How did it change over time? What is the most heartfelt detail about how the dead were/are handled that might be special to that culture, in your opinion? What is the most grotesque aspect? How has your studies influenced how you view death itself, and how has it influenced your view on funerals? What would you do if you emigrated into a vastly different culture (in regards to last wishes etc)? What are the most common misconceptions, fun facts, and what touched you the most? And why exactly did you end up specializing in such a field anyway?

    I realize I'm probably asking these questions into a void, but man, should you ever be back here - let me know how I can read up on your work, ok?

    You remind me of a PhD candidate I met when working for theater and he was writing his thesis on Russian folklore fairy tales, and told me that he noticed a pattern of a circular repetition of themes in each story. I wish I remembered his name and were able to look up what he published, but I don't, and it saddens me that I missed out on such an interesting topic that I would have wanted to know more about. It seems like I will miss out once more. (Hey, is that a circular repeat?)

  • What did your parents refrigerate? Mine refrigerated bread.
  • So the tip is inside and not touching the vinegar (there is a 1-2 cm distance between the tip and vinegar?), right? How wide is the opening on the tip? And can't the flies (at least some) fly out of it again back through the same opening?

    I've also heard something about adding a splash of soap so that they fall into the water, can that help?

    I've tried traps like that but mostly just with vinegar and a drop of dish soap (and no fancy cone installation) but somehow my flies ignored it. Or never fell into it I don't know. So now I refrigerate all my fruit (even the exotic ones) in the summertime :( I'll be happy to give it a try. Can it be normal vinegar though?

  • What did your parents refrigerate? Mine refrigerated bread.
  • I'm kinda intimidated by this whole thread. I'm scared to mention that I really hate thawed bread (I tried room temp, microwave, oven and toaster). (I even tried different freezers.) If I buy bread, then it's either the very smallest amount at the bakery when I really feel like good bread, or just a bun, or supermarket bread with preservatives. But mostly I just live a bread free life.

  • What did your parents refrigerate? Mine refrigerated bread.
  • I'm so confused right now. We aren't completely vegan but we mostly cook vegan at home. But like, that's the majority of the stuff that goes bad? All the fresh vegetables and fruit? Vegan spreads, milks and yogurts go bad just as fast as dairy ones. I have the feeling oat milk goes bad faster than homogenized cow milk. Eggs never go bad. I hardly remember ever tossing a piece of meat or fish, but hell whenever I have to buy a 2 kg sack of carrots because it is just so much cheaper than 700g of carrots and 1/2 of it goes bad (and it's still cheaper) or I buy a perfect bell pepper just to open it to find mold or that brown stuff in avocado or I buy organic lemons and they are 2/3 moldy the next day I can't even... I have a special storage thing for potatoes and they still go bad occasionally. Yesterday garlic from the store was half rotten. Or when you didn't notice a tomato got a hit in your bag and that injury proceeds to mold... Or when your kid tossed the apples on the floor and they all develop bruises faster than you can eat them all and they just aren't that tasty anymore... We are trying our best to go to the store for fresh stuff daily but I feel like it is still a fight against nature.

    So for real, what are you guys talking about? Absolutely no offense, I am genuinely curious why our experiences differ so vastly.

  • What did your parents refrigerate? Mine refrigerated bread.
  • I assumed it would be enough if the container was just 1/4-1/3 full, when I have space I also do that, I'll try a full on water container next time. Btw that's also a great way if you have chopped carrot sticks, they stay fresh for the next day(s). I think this works with all root vegetables since, well, it's roots that are meant to take in water and transport it

    I don't know whether this works in a horizontal position actually, I always assumed smth smth gravity, but on the other hand, when you fully immerse them then gravity can probably go out the window.

  • Parents, how do you manage summer breaks, who takes care of your children when there is no school?
  • Where I live, you get kindergarten basically all year round, except maybe 1 or 2 weeks off. You can also send your kid to kindergarten for 9 hours or more.

    But then school comes, they go to school for like 4 hours a day and there are about 3 months of vacation throughout the year.

    At that point my kid will be 7 years old and I will have rejoined the workforce. I have no clue what exactly the plan is here.

  • Believe EVERY dumb thing you read online
  • I'm 32 and I am constantly baffled by how inevitable we assume social media is. There are constantly articles and videos and blogs and vlogs and insta stories about how instagram and such make us either unhappy by constant comparison, by sucking up our time, by reducing our attention span, or by altering our brain chemistry. And all of this is presented in a way that doesn't even question whether we... need an instagram account?

    When facebook etc started to come around I quite immediately realized that if I started to engage in this, in trying to present myself online or look at others' presentations of themselves, that would be the end of me. It would suck me in. I stayed away from the beginning and I still have no instagram, facebook, tiktok, etc. I have no account on a platform where I would ever even be able to post pictures or stories of myself. And I am by far not a social outcast, introvert or alternative person. By most accounts I am very average and mainstream and I do just fine without social media (unless you count lemmy or watching some youtube video as social media). I manage to make new friends and even know what is trending without following vlogs and blogs and whatnot.

    Like, there is a life - a livable life, a life not on the outskirts of society - where social media just doesn't play a role. Where you don't need to consider whether this picture of you is providing too much personal information.

  • New German citizens required to affirm Israel's right to exist
  • I'm not sure what country you are from, but as someone whose vote literally is counted before I even see a ballot, let me tell you, please vote or at least do something. If you don't like the way politics in your country work, go out and demonstrate. Take it to the streets. Talk to your neighbors, make leaflets. But please don't just go bitter and sit in your corner because everything is shit anyways. Because this is how we ended up with a lot of the messes we are having now. I "voted" for the first time this year in a rigged election and before that I also always thought the way you do. Democracy is dead, why bother, my vote doesn't count anyway. But once I stood in this fucking line and smuggled in a non erasable pen and voted and went out knowing no one will even look at this ballot something changed.

  • Wo finde ich Listen mit geplanten Demos?

    Leute, ich bin einfach zu blöd zum googlen.

    Ich würde gerne an mehr Demos teilnehmen bzw mich informieren, wann wo was stattfindet. Ob München, Leipzig oder Berlin - ich schaffe es einfach nicht, eine Liste mit angekündigten Demos in meiner Nähe zu finden. Demos müssen doch eigentlich angemeldet werden, müsste es dann nicht ein Einfaches sein, für jede Stadt eine Liste zu finden? Bis vor Kurzen habe ich noch in München gewohnt und hätte gedacht, dass auf münchen.de sowas doch gelistet sein müsste, aber ich hab nie was gefunden.

    Immer wenn ich so etwas google, finde ich aber nur Nachrichten zu vergangenen Demos. Mit ganz viel Glück habe ich vor knapp zwei Jahren mal einen oder zwei Tage vorher einen Artikel gelesen, in dem Aktionen gegen den Krieg in der Ukraine angekündigt wurden.

    Vielleicht kann mir hier ja jemand weiterhelfen. Gerade habe ich wieder versucht, etwas zu finden in Leipzig oder Berlin am 24. Februar, und stoße schon wieder nur auf alte Artikel.

    Edit: Vielen Dank für die Antworten und die Links! Sie helfen sehr weiter. Vielleicht laufen wir uns ja mal bei einer der Aktionen über den Weg.

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    Is there a name for downplaying your suffering because other people have bigger problems?

    I am looking for a term to describe the line of thinking that goes something like "I hate my work, I am sick all the time, I am depressed, I can't find happiness. But I should be happy. Those problems don't matter. All my problems are so insignificant, there are little. They're just some stupid first world problems. I have it good, I have food on the table and a loving family. There are millions of people who have real problems, people living in severe poverty, starving to death, being bombed."

    I think about this often, it came up when I was talking with someone with mental health issues and I remember him telling me that this way of thinking has a name/is a common symptom that occurs in people with a specific personality disorder, although I cannot remember what disorder he claimed it was. Also this was more than ten years ago so it might have either changed or my memory of this event changed.

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