drbollocks @lemmy.blahaj.zone im proud of who i am 🏳️🌈
monolingual loser, hope to learn more languages 💔
she/they - lesbian
she called a friend of mine a “b*tch”, presumably because said friend wouldn’t spend time with her.
these people are nice to your face (and sometimes not) but will talk behind your back. also, they’re so quick to discard you but then lovebomb again.
i’d assume she is, since she also pulls the “don’t leave me for these other people. they hate you, I heard them say it. they don’t understand you like I do, they think you’re different. an animal. they hate your disabilities” and also that she can never be wrong and nothing is ever her fault. suggesting someone might be better/at her level can throw her whole day off and cause her to hate everyone for daring to criticize her.
if she’s criticized, she goes quiet (probably mad). if she’s humbled (someone is more talented than her), she calls them slurs depending on if they’re a minority. like my friend is black and was more talented than her which humbled her, so she said “fuck you n*****r bitch”
abusive person is complaining that everyone is mean to her and no one likes her
this woman who was very emotionally abusive towards me (think a racist regina george) was really upset and taking it out on everyone, apparently people are now seeing how rude she is and hardly anyone likes her.
idk whether i should feel bad
the person who abused(?) me (who I’m breaking free from and focusing on me💪) acted like this: is this common with certain mental health conditions?
i don’t mean this to say that people with mental health conditions are all abusive, nor do i take your comments as a diagnosis, i’m more or less just curious. after all, only a professional could help the specific person.
i have been emotionally abused by someone. they can never accept their own faults or mistakes. telling them they made a mistake will set them off and cause outbursts of anger. they strictly adhere to rules and try to control people to follow a rigid set of them.
will often prey on weaknesses to make you stay with them because “no one understands you, just me”. discards you but comes back after a while and the cycle repeats.
often makes others feel bad about themselves, that they are the best/only good person and they should be the reliable one to come to when something’s wrong. in their eyes, you are worthless no matter what you do to change it.
why doesn’t blahaj lemmy have downvotes like most instances?
for example, when i go to lemmy.world, i see downvotes, but here, there are none. i find that pretty cool :)
i want to be able to post genuine things without being downvoted to hell, even though they shouldn’t matter to me in the end.
i am currently going through a lot. what can i do to keep my sanity and not become depressed?
i have a lot going on besides that. just broke up with a guy, realized i wasn’t even into guys (but it stung more that he didn’t pay attention to me/care regardless), then having some rocky relationships with my gf (open relationship) and long-time friend, the latter i’m cutting contact with. (meaning i will only talk to her if i have to or if she talks to me first)
with all of this, my anxiety’s acting up and i’m a bit (still although it got better) on edge.
how the hell do women like men romantically? :( (warning: ranty)
(im going to say that im a lesbian, first off, and maybe i just feel this way about relationships with men because i’m in a bad spot, or in other words, pissed.)
part of the reason i broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 years was because i figured out im a lesbian and couldn’t see myself dating nor attracted to a man.
the other part? he wasn’t there for me as of recent.
he was pansexual and i was a gay/bi trans guy. i met him through a friend, and he lost contact with the friend sometime after he met me and only we talked (our only mutual friend after that was some VERY controversial guy from tiktok but due to said controversy, we stopped being in contact with him and he blocked us).
a lot of the new friends we made on his discord server started to make silly jokes about us, like “get a room you two!” or “are you sure you guys aren’t dating?” it was very casual, i had feelings for him so i was just like “ if he wants to 🤷♀️” and he replied with “yeah ok why not :)”
so after that, we were a couple. we talked a lot as friends, we talked a lot as boyfriends. then i got a girlfriend (the deal was that we could date if we knew about the people, and he knew about my gf). we broke up the first time and she acted really cruel (saying i abused/assaulted her, either acted this way because i was a guy or because i was trans. maybe both). this made me feel terrible for MONTHS due to having bad-ish attachment issues.
i detransitioned after that, since the very thought of being a man reminded me of our relationship/breakup.
he, however, was there for me during it. at least, when he could be.
there would be periods that would last several weeks where i would hear nothing from him. even when i would see he read my messages and posted on social media, he would not respond to my messages. ever.
then he would be like, “sorry, i was at work” or “sorry, i was staying at someone’s house for a while”. i was quite forgiving and was honestly just worried about him.
then, it happened more frequently, again and again. he would hardly say he loved me or show any affection. my “friend” told me this was normal in relationships and thought i was crazy for thinking otherwise.
sometimes, he would say he loved me and actually be there for me, but he recently started leaving me on read again. i broke up with him and decided i was a lesbian since i kind of lost feelings and couldn’t see myself with a man or even attracted to one.
[so, im still kind of pissed at him, confused about my attraction a little, and at a rocky relationship with my “friend” and girlfriend.]
probably. i’ve never done this but if i started to mention other girls, that would generally mean i was losing interest.
she’s kind of a “lgbt right winger” last time i heard and her gf somehow has the same interests as her, exact same opinions, plays the same games with her, and doesn’t respond outside the group chat just like her…
i actually did break up with her last year because she thought i didn’t care about her. she then said i broke up with her because i’m a horrible person and said i assaulted her.
then, after a year, she apologized profusely and said she can and has changed.
anyway, i’ve tried starting a convo on the phone and it starts out flirty but then it’s just her talking about her interests and hot guys (which i don’t find interesting as im a lesbian 😅)
no, not really, to be honest.
i dated her bc she paid attention to me and treated me right. we’d talk about our interests, she’d say she liked my interests and that my autistic ramblings are cute
she would sometimes talk abt movies or video games, i’d also take an interest in them.
we would pick out stuff that reminded us of our relationship
she never offers to play video games w me, I’ve tried talking to her abt getting into them and she just doesn’t socialize :(
plus she’s obsessed with guys and has love notes about (male actors or ai men, i would assume) in her notes and when i flirtatiously ask who she’s talking about, she acts guilty and says she can’t tell me ??
she says one of them is her bf and makes sexual comments about him, also says he got her pregnant
idk, she seems to give her other partner attention and plays the games w her. they have the same opinions and interests so even tho my gf said she likes my interests, she never is actually interested in what i like :( only what she does
my gf is hardly ever online and prefers games
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/22098369
(found this community more fitting because im a lesbian, also because I see people get downvoted a lot in advice communities despite being made for advice)
> she’s just not a very active person online. when she is, shes only active in group chats with her friends. > > usually, she talks about video games, and is actually offline because she plays video games almost all the time. > > is there any way to salvage the relationship? she’s too focused on her interests to be interested in mine, and like I said, is almost always playing games so we barely talk aside from: “hi ❤️” “Hi sweetie ❤️” “hru??” “Good, just playing games, you?” “good :)) im listening to music” and then the conversation ends because she doesn’t message first and is busy with the other stuff.
(i have tried talking to her and she says she’s usually busy. shes either genuinely busy, busy with games, or in a bad mood and doesn’t feel like talking [sad/tired])
she either types “oh!” “…/.” or “erm what 😨” when i say smth
also, shes quite dry around me, often giving like one word responses and only being super energetic around her friends and when posting about video games.
idk if she’s actually just busy or making excuses, since shes usually talking to her friends or other partner (open relationships)
my gf is hardly ever online and prefers games
she’s just not a very active person online. when she is, shes only active in group chats with her friends.
usually, she talks about video games, and is actually offline because she plays video games almost all the time.
is there any way to salvage the relationship? she’s too focused on her interests to be interested in mine, and like I said, is almost always playing games so we barely talk aside from: “hi ❤️” “Hi sweetie ❤️” “hru??” “Good, just playing games, you?” “good :)) im listening to music” and then the conversation ends because she doesn’t message first and is busy with the other stuff.
(i have tried talking to her and she says she’s usually busy. shes either genuinely busy, busy with games, or in a bad mood and doesn’t feel like talking [sad/tired])
i know bilingual people who DON’T read english
update: now this user is a grown woman who has a girlfriend 🎉
if no one sees this, try an advice community or an lgbt one (bisexual, lgbtq+, etc). like i said but i think u deleted it, he may not treat u like his other friends because he doesn’t view you as a friend ?
he seems to like u but idk if it’s platonic or not
hmm… is it possible he flirts with all his friends but doesn’t flirt with you because he doesn’t view you as a friend ?
just speculation, he seems to like you, but it might be in a different way than a friendship way from all i see in this post
community where you can talk about people you’re attracted to
I created [email protected] for the people who have crushes
created crushes, where you can talk about being attracted to someone
anyone who’s attracted to someone can post here :)
I’ve seen adults with crushes so…
(possibly a lesbian ?)
i was straight as a little girl but a huge ally, at one point a girl just asked me out in fifth grade and i was like “sure, why not ?”. (things didn’t go well, we were both immature 10 and 11 year olds who argued about everything, plus i had attachment issues and was [i still am a bit] quite sensitive)
since then, i kinda lost interest in men and it feels more like i want to be them than be with them, to be honest, like when a straight macho man sees the spitting image of masculinity or something.