Lesbians

A lot going on, kinda need to let it out

So, like I said in my intro post, I’m pan but I’m technically sapphic and nonbinary.

I was in a NBLW (and open, so I’m allowed to date/have crushes outside of her) relationship with Natalia (19F), but it was long distance so we only talked through social media and texting.

Natalia has stopped answering my messages and overall just stopped being online as much, when she’s online, she doesn’t make time for me, just her friends. She says “Hi, how are you” or “Hi honey” once in a while if I’m in the group chat with her friends, but we barely talk one-on-one and I barely use the group chat.

She said she would check her messages more but hasn’t 😓

At first, her messages were screenshots to her friends of messages between AI bots. She would post romantic messages in her bio that she used to post with me, and acted super embarrassed when I asked her.

Now, all she does is play video games and her recent messages are just scheduling a time and game or gossip with her friend.

I think we’re basically broken up but I know if I “dared” to do so, she would slander me and call me an abuser/bad person for that just like last time.

On the other hand, I’ve been spending more time with Karl (18M), my friend who I kind of like. He called me cute yesterday, and I just found out that he’s pan (not straight). As an enby, this means I could have a chance with him 👀

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voytek709 @lemmy.ca 1d ago

New here, how are you all?

Hello, I'm Voytek.

I'm non-binary and technically sapphic (pan), IDK if I count but here I am!!

Also, would it be ok to post updates on my (male) crush?? :)

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erotador @lemmy.blahaj.zone 7d ago

i know a few who qualify, do you?

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insomniacalmond @lemmy.blahaj.zone

1w ago

“That’s what I thought until I met my boyfriend!”

(posting to here bc it’s my actual lesbian community)

Okay, that’s good for you that you thought you only liked women until you met your boyfriend, but that doesn’t mean that some man is gonna magically make me like men more.

I’m probably a biromantic lesbian because there are men I would still date, and they’re sorta like exceptions for me.

Whenever the topic comes up/I mention it for whatever reason, maybe for advice, whatever, I tell my friend (gf's friend, acquaintance i just met, or not a close friend who i talk to a lot), and they say something like “Oh, I used to think I only liked girls too until I met my handsome boyfriend ❤️”

And: “Maybe one day a man will change your life and point of view just like a man changed mine <33”

I’m happy for you and your BF, and I’m glad that you figured out you liked men too. I’m happy it worked for you, but like I said, some people aren’t attracted to men. A man isn’t going to “fix them” or “change their life”.

I don’t need a man to make me realize that I really like guys all along or anything. I get that some people are just trying to relate to the situation and that’s fine, but I’ve gotten this response a lot and needed to rant a little.

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