He’s “served his time” with dishes. He started work as a kitchen porter a few months ago, so we agreed that ge should get a pass on doing the dishes at home. The next oldest two kids have that fun task now!
Due to the time he gets off etc we agreed the bins were the best candidate. Get home; empty bins; stick em out if needed. But apparently it’s too big of an ask.
Aye that’s my thinking at least. It’s been going on for ages as well, and no matter what I do or say it’s just not getting through.
I’m trying to set him up to be able to cope on his own and if he can’t (or worse, won’t) engage and start pitching in with such a small ask then he’s gonna be fucked when he’s trying to stay afloat on his own.
Dig Money
For those of you with older kids at home, what do you do regarding dig money?
I’ve got an 18 year old and the agreement was that as long as he pitches in around the house (bins are his responsibility - emptying into the wheelie bins and putting out whichever one it is that week) and attends his college course then he can keep his money. He’s at college 2.5 days a week and then work for the rest, clearing around £900 a month.
The issue is he is always fucking “forgetting” to put the bins out. Even when I’ve bought him a fucking echo so he can set up reminders etc.
There’s myself, my wife and the 5 kids (10-18) so there’s a fuckton of rubbish. Missing it even once causes massive ballache. Thing is, he’s always forgetting.
Came to a head this morning because, once again, he forgot. This is after messaging me last night 15 minutes before he was due home asking to have someone stay, so I changed all my plans to accommodate. And the shit didn’t put the bins out again.
I feel like I’m going round in circles with him and it’s beginning to really affect me. Stressing to fuck over bins, what even is that!
Only thing I can think of is to start charging him dig money now. I’m sick bending over backwards for him not to pitch in with this one thing.
Does that seem reasonable? Or am I being a crabit bastard? What amounts are people taking from their weans etc here? Was thinking £100 since I easily spend more than that on keeping the lazy shit each month.
Edit to add - Dig Money meaning money he pays towards household expenses :)
I came up a croppe once again. Just can’t face the fact of it finally being over!
Started China Mieville’s Perditot Street station instead, which seems to be pretty good so far. I’ll try again maybe next year!
I’ve finally worked myself up to read Shepherd’s Crown after numerous attempts but getting too emotional.
Just finished Wee Free Men this morning and I was already a bubbling wreck at the end. It’s gonna be a rough, emotional ride.
I’m the opposite. I manage a BAU team and our team are active on slack, and seem to be thriving. We have two webex meetings a week, keep in constant touch and we all love it.
Online communities are more than good enough at the best of times so I don’t see how they can’t work in the professional space.
Ok - but I don’t go to work for a sense of community? I go to work to earn money to survive. My tasks get done, profits are up overall so why do I need to feel engaged and how does being isolated have any negative effect on that?
No idea, always thought it was weird that one “offence” led to permanently losing my years old account.
I even appealed the ban, explaining the reasoning behind reporting the article, and it was upheld! Bonkers - I still have no idea what it was in my report that led to such a mental reaction. “What are these lies” were what I titled it.
I got perma banned from Reddit for reporting a Fox News article that was posted on r/politics which stated climate change had no impact on wildfire occurrences.
Said I was abusing the report function to bully or harass people. For reporting blatant fucking right wing lies! I’d never even reported any posts before.
People would rather bury their stupid fucken heids in the ground than face the truth.
Such a classic. Absolute _ banging_ music. Nothing quite like watching the hillside become a forest of graves as a testament to how much young you sucked.
It’s so demoralising as well. There was someone handing out (Scottish) labour flyers on the high street and looked at me like I was an idiot when I laughed and said they’re just red tories.
It’s a race to see who can fuck us over the most for the benefit of the “elite”.
Shadow chancellor Rachel Reeves says extra money for public services must come from economic growth.
Above my son’s bed! I found another two around the same size yesterday. One above my wife’s side of bed and another in the living room. She’s freaking out about it!
I think the Tory government are a shower of self serving cunts. That’s business as usual though.
I’ve honestly no idea why they keep getting voted in again and again. Baffles me even more why folk are voting Tory here in Scotland. “Fuck you, I’ve got mine” seems to be a big factor.
Sorry to disappoint re the lack of nsfw spider content.
It’s marked that because some folk are terrified of spiders though.
Sounds like a great Sunday!
I’ve gotten side tracked from bg3 due to the first two Children of Time books. About 35 hours in though and enjoying it more than any game in ages!
Happy Sunday folks.
Weans are back to school tomorrow up this end and despite saying I’d get them up early, I’m currently making my coffee and then gonna just enjoy another hour of peace and quiet.
Been rewatching workaholics with my daughter. It’s so stupid we love it.
Weekly releases: what we do in the shadows - new series is killing it.
How to with joh Wilson - another where the latest seasons 3 episodes so far are just fantastic.
It’s a waste of time. These types of people are as thick as mince, you’re not gonna change their mind because they have zero interest or incentive to do so. It’s a fucking cult of morons.
Nice one. Love Blackpool - my aunt stays there so I was shipped off down there every summer. Not been in ages though!
Happy Monday, whats the craic?
How goes folks?
Good weekend I hope. Get up to anything interesting? I’m at the tail end of a long weekend so once again I’ve let the weans sleep in and am using the time to get in about some Baldurs Gate 3 in peace.
Summer holidays are getting old - weans have their pc’s in living room and hearing my boy all day yesterday spout utter nonsense in discord was seriously ripping ma knittin’, as they say. Only another two weeks!
has there been a telly thread this week? there is now.
Happy Wednesday folks!
What have we all been watching this week?
I finished season 2 of This Fool which was great.
Currently sitting on my arse watching episode 7 of Hijack which has been a brilliant wee surprise. Not usually a fan of scary airplane stuff but this has me hooked.
Righteous Gemstones season 3 finished up this week too. Love a bit of Danny McBride and this season has been phenomenal.
Can’t forget What We Do in the Shadows - hilarious as ever.
Barber just fucked up my beard
After growing my beard out for maybe 5-6 years, trimming it myself and generally keeping it looking “reasonable” I thought I’d treat myself and go get it trimmed by a “professional” first thing before a day full of webex meetings.
Now admittedly it was maybe a bit What year is it?, but it was well taken care of. Wee dude even commented on how it was one of the softest he’d cut.
Then he fucking trimmed it to fuck, into a big sorcerers point while I just sat there aghast. Absolutely scunnered.
What’s everyone been watching on the Telly/Pictures?
Morning folks, got up early before work so I could finish off the last episode of Legion.
I absolutely loved this show - the music, the costume design - it did everything right. Favourite parts by far were whenever it had a musical number. So fucking surrreal.
It’s got me super hyped for Noah Hawley’s take on Alien as well. Cannae wait!
whats your family's wee inside jokes or names for things that other folk (or better - your kids) find weird and annoying?
We’ve got a bunch and the ones that annoy the weans, like calling Jalapeños Jalpaneros in public, are our favourites.
Arran looking lovely last night
I love late evenings at this time of the year. Added benefit because the beach is usually empty around 10pm.
Also saw a Great Heron here’s a shitty picture
Unexpected cake gifts are the best gifts
Happy Sunday folks!
Got the wean’s girlfriend visiting from Austria for the week and look what their Dad brought as a gift!
Would love to hear of some interesting/peculiar gifts that folk have unexpectedly received? I was absolutely blown away by getting this and it’s just such a nice wee gesture that I was blown away.
[I ate] a Sacher hotel Torte
I have my kid’s Austrian friend staying with us for a week and her Dad got us this fancy torte to try. It was delicious!
housing association assured me when I moved in that the shower backing up was not from the toilets. green food dye doon the loo tells a differenr story
Of course they shut early on a Friday and emergency repairs don’t consider shit water backing into your shower an emergency….
Whats for tea?
Evening folks!
Curious about what everyone is having for their dinner tonight. Bonus points for mouth watering pictures of said dinner!
Rags Parkland sings the songs of The Future
Anyone else here a fan of musicals/broadway?
I've never seen a show but I'm a huge fan of some of the cast recordings. Hadestown being one of my favourites.
I was looking for something similar and someone recommended Rags Parkland sings the songs of The Future, explaining the premise and that it was inspired by Philip K Dick's What'll We Do with Ragland Park?
It's my absolute favourite at the moment and the guy who wrote it, Andrew R. Butler, is fantastic.
Favourite narrators?
I'd probably say mine is Stephen Pacey - his Joe Abercrombie books are just something else.
Jeff Hayes as well, narrator of Dungeon Crawler Carl, is such a delight to listen to.
Didn't realise that windmill blades are serrated
Took the weans a walk away up the back of The Three Towns in Ayrshire where they are installing these big bad boys.
Board game fans - what are you playing?
Done a murder mystery game with the weans the other week and then another shot of Alien - fate of the nostromo, which was decent.
I’m looking at maybe getting Wingspan this weekend as I reckon weans will love that.
Just spent my lunch break giving my wife a buzzcut because she mixed up thinning scissors and normal.
Ended up taking a huge chunk out the side of her head. It was a massacre. There were tears and panic attacks, it was pretty full on and sucked to see her so upset.
I did the deed, my daughter told her she looks bad-ass, like Ripley and she's finally come around to how great she looks with a shaved heid.
Anyone got any horror haircut stories I can use to cheer her up? Cheers!