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Ironvest still hasn't upgraded their masked cards -- looking for an alternative.
  • Yeah, most online stores don't accept gift cards, unfortunately. 🙁 Especially Amazon...tried to order some much needed products with Amazon cards, and they require a bank card.

    IME, (on Amazon at least...and a few others I've tried) masked cards are usually accepted as bank cards. Gift cards are not.

    I'd love to build myself a privacy-respecting online store that accepts everything from Monero to cash to Apple pay (for the general populous that doesn't care), but I sort of lack the capital. 😅

  • Ironvest still hasn't upgraded their masked cards -- looking for an alternative.

    From what I understand privacy.com does not have a method of ensuring your identity is separate from your card, but IronVest does. Been using IV for a while now, but earlier this year they put their masked cards under construction

    Which is kind of a shame because I had online purchases in mind.

    Is there any alternative people have found?

    Thanks!

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    Battery's dying on my Darter Pro 5. Is a later Darter Pro battery model (like darter 8) compatible?

    Question should be self-explanatory.

    My battery is only 75% effective. I came to the shocking realization my System76 is OLD! I can't seem to find a battery for it. Would a later-model darter battery be compatible?

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    Suggestion for Business Podcast?

    My dream is to own my own business (just kidding--own several businesses), but I'm currently experiencing financial hardship. After frantically looking for work for over a year with a network that let me down, I finally managed to find part-time work at a local nonprofit.

    But I want to keep the foot on the gas (quite literally). Looking for a good business podcast I can listen to on my drive. I've listen to some in the past, but the quality of them has gone down. Oftentimes the guests are showboating, with like 30 seconds of helpful nuggets in the middle. Or I'll roll my eyes when I see the guest is some Dr. Oz-like green juice prophet.

    Yes, I realize podcasts need to make money. I fully accept that if a podcast is free, ads are unavoidable. I simply skip past them.

    Previous podcasts that have fallen out of favor with me: University of Adversity, School of Greatness, Achieving your Goals with Hal Elrod, Mel Robbins, Entrepreneurs on Fire, and How I Built It (where each episode just sounded like a 50-minute commercial for WordPress).

    Looking for ones that focus on becoming rich, but also ones that talk about how to bolster a network and overcome hardship. Somewhere along there.

    Any ideas?

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    Why aren’t men asking women questions on dates anymore?
  • Wow. I always ask women questions on dates. If anything, I think I ask too many.

    I was on one date and was asking a girl about herself...casual conversation. I started to notice she looked kind of uncomfortable. Was trying to figure out why. Realized I hadn't told her anything about myself. Poor girl probably felt like she was being interrogated. So I injected an anecdote here or there through the course of the conversation; this seemed to relax her pretty quickly.

  • Anyone in Portland hiring?
  • I've considered this. I was close to singing papers for the 1.5 hour-long commute for a night shift at an Intel plant (which I was not excited about). That in addition to the fact that every facet of the job worked against my natural abilities (detail-oriented, fine motor skills, repetitive work, loud, noisy environments) was the final nail in the coffin. Opted for a pizza delivery job that I found at the same time.

  • Anyone in Portland hiring?
  • I've done retail, driving (non-cdl, as I don't have a CDL), direct support specialist (mental health field). My main area of expertise is in sw dev, but I don't have the luxury of waiting for a team's hiring process.

  • What was your favorite fiction book you read this year?
  • I currently can only read free books (open for recommendations, although I think I wrung the classics dry for all their worth), but I found a book in one of those mobile libraries that does actually have me hooked: The Innocent by Harlan Coben.

    It's not even close to being the best book I ever read. But it's well written enough and well plotted enough to keep me hooked. Probably my biggest gripe is the author's description of the women is how attractive they are. Even when he's describing the protagonists' wife, he only describes how much the main character thinks she's hot. Not a complete turn-off, but still a gripe. 😅

  • What book that everyone seems to love do you dislike?
  • The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo

    It wasn't terrible by any means. But I kept being told how-fast paced and gripping it was.

    The fastest the pace went was the main character ducking behind a barrier in a very brief firefight.

    I'm not one of those action junkies, but I was kind of expecting more.

  • For those who like suspense/horror sci-fi, I published the first 3 chapters of my novel, Shifter, for free online.

    write.as Shifter - Chapter 1 | Departure

    --- PLEASE NOTE: I'm publishing chapters 1-3 of my novel Shifter to crowdsource funding for the full novel. If you're interested in ...

    Shifter - Chapter 1 | Departure

    cross-posted from: https://lemmy.world/post/13583666

    > The plot summary is as follows: > > >Secret Service agent Rebecca Carter's world is upended when her husband goes missing in 2002. Two years later, Rebecca and her team are protecting the President during a high-stakes trade deal in China. But their mission is cut short when an assassin appears out of nowhere, kills everyone, and disappears, leaving Rebecca as the lone survivor. In the year 31,462, Xel-Na, a shifter (an individual who can move through time and space at will), receives no word from Thes-Omatz, the deep space research vessel carrying his wife and daughter. Upon launching probes to investigate, he finds everyone either dead or missing. Suspecting a fellow shifter, Xel-Na embarks on a mission to confront the perpetrator. In his quest he soon comes across Rebecca. Together, they face insurmountable odds, all while grappling with the weight of their personal losses. But as they delve deeper into the heart of the conspiracy, they discover that the murderous shifter isn't just after Rebecca, he's after power. And no matter what Xel-Na and Rebecca do, this cunning adversary is always one step ahead of them. > > I finished the first draft of the novel, but being out of work I'm not able to fund it myself. I was kinda like, well, nobody's giving me a call, might as well write it. > > Would love to hear your thoughts. Do you like it? I have a thick skin, so even if it's crap, go ahead and let a rip. > > And before you ask, no, it was not written by AI 😆 (though I did use AI to assist in editing). > > If you'd like to fund publication, I would greatly appreciate it. Or if you like and and don't like to give strangers money online, I'd be forever grateful if you share the post on social media.

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    Anyone in Portland hiring?

    Looking for pretty much anything. If you're hiring, I'm available.

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    What did you get up to during the COVID quarantine?
  • I was living at or below the poverty line for years before COVID. As a senior developer, I wasn't finding any work. Then when COVID hit, I wasn't able to keep up with the work. I was finally earning 6 figures. I was able to travel (like in a jet, legitimate travel) for the first time--just because. It was amazing. I was able to network with people and provide value for people. I felt like my career was suddenly moving!

    Then around 2021-2022 all my clients abandoned me, my network ghosted me, and I was back to square one. That's where I am today.

    I'm working on having a breakthrough because someone college-educated with a GitHub profile should not be standing at food bank lines every month.

  • How would fedi fans feel about a paid LinkedIn alternative on the fediverse?
  • Years ago I think I would have been in the same boat about not being a fan of something like this being paid, but I think the main reason why big tech platforms have become enshittified is because we haven't demanded value and instead demanded free. And because we've demanded free we have two camps: big tech that can yank our chain, and free/libre solutions that may survive just barely on donations and the good will of people (and wanting it to be free as in $ IMO is devaluing the importance of the fediverse). I think a good solution to promote software freedom and the fediverse is for some paid instances to be part of it.

  • How would fedi fans feel about a paid LinkedIn alternative on the fediverse?
  • Ah, I see. Yeah, I keep forgetting that a lot of people use LinkedIn for job-searching (I mean, I kinda do too, but been active on it like 7 years without a single follow-through). I see it as a networking tool. Job-searching may be part of it, but business leaders and ultra wealthy use it to make connections and support each other (theoretically). Businesses/creators would be the target market. Maybe some job-search aspect to it at some point.

  • How would fedi fans feel about a paid LinkedIn alternative on the fediverse?

    Before you start throwing 💩 , hear me out...

    I'm a huge fan of the fediverse...it's returning to the original design of the Internet...where everyone can communicate freely and openly and corporations have a very difficult time pulling anything creepy that LinkedIn/Twitter (yes, I'll still call it Twitter)/Facebook does.

    But I sense a huge frustration with businesses that want to network with others but feel their hands are tied by these walled gardens.

    I figure, why not make the fediverse business friendly?

    Right now most people on Mastodon/Lemmy/etc. seem to be more of the anarchist/weekend hacker types. So part of my concern with this is that it would taint the fediverse with a bunch of spam. But by the same token it would also help grow the job market and provide opportunities for people that they may not have had on LinkedIn. Of course, I'd stress for anyone on the site to operate in a community-first mindset.

    So, some question...

    1. Would this type of instance be met with disgust? I mean, obviously the great thing about the fediverse is that you can block servers you don't want on the network, but having the instance blocked would kind of defeat the purpose. 😅

    2. If you're excited by the idea, what things would you like to see? In my own armchair brainstorming, I thought joint accounts would be a good idea, as well as analytics.

    3. Suggestion for already-existing platform? Can't find a good one that would be ready-to-go to build off of. There's friendica, but I'm not much of a fan of PHP, and it seems to not have great adoption, either.

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    I'm sure we all have stories of bad bosses; does anyone have any stories of wholesome bosses that we can celebrate?

    Title says it all. Does anyone have any bosses you worked for where you felt they were the epitome of epic leadership?

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    Does "Rock music is evil / of the devil" have racist roots?

    As a Christian most of the circles I'm around are pretty chill...no stone-cold fundamentalists. But I have been around people (and even had family members) who are 100% convinced that rock music is evil and will lead people to engage in witchcraft and draw pentagrams all over their home.

    The root of the belief is that rock music uses drums, which are used by voodoo tribes in Africa to entrance people.

    Along a different track of thinking, from where did rock music originate? Slaves. They created the guitar because slave-owners didn't allow them to make music with drums.

    So then is "rock music is evil" sort of an echo of that attitude?

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    What kinds of things would you like to see in a dating app?

    Yeah, I'm a programmer and I've got the itch to create one. DEAL with it! 😝

    That said, open to suggestions...I realize that most dating apps have--shall we say--less than desirable people on it, but I'm concerned more about the way the platform operates.

    For me, I think the dating app world is a hodgepodge of garbage. I've been on a lot of the common ones (and I'm willing to pay for one), But most of them are strictly an app--no web interface, and fully closed source and a privacy nightmare...or online but they block you if you even think about using a VPN (because obviously only criminals use VPNs).

    So from a technical standpoint REST-based dating apps are best, because it can start on the web (and remain on the web), then a smartphone app could be built on top of it. Then again, my aim isn't to digitally violate my users, so I've probably lost that game. 🤣

    So, what about you folks? What would your ideal dating app look like?

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    Is Fear of Repetitions a Thing? Can't find a lot of information...

    fearof.org Fear of repetition Dittophobia. Dittophobia - FearOf.org

    Dittophobia is the fear of repetition Dittophobia. Symptoms of Dittophobia Phobias are to be taken seriously. If they aren't given proper attention and treatment, might start to limit the sufferers life. In some cases up to the degree of extreme anxiety and depression. Knowing how to manage thoughts...

    One thing I've found is that I have kind of a fear of repetition. Usually this manifests at work if I'm in a job that's repetitive. I have this kind of out of body experience where it's almost like I wonder how long I've been there and how many times I've done the thing.

    And in college I always tried to sit in a random seat for lectures. Any time I felt I sat in the same seat more than once I would start to feel anxious.

    I've somehow been able to cope exercising, not sure how since I take a few laps around my block when it's still dark out. I think it might be that I set a timer? I'm not sure, but there are times when I get that anxiety when I repetitive exercises.

    I've been trying to research online for ways of coping, but I'm not finding much. The link I posted seems to be just an article on phobias in general, and "dittophobia" sounds like something someone just made up.

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    Early 30's West Coast or Anywhere

    Hey, thought I'd put myself out there. I'm a guy in my 30s. I'm playful and dorky, but I still know how to settle down and have a serious conversation. I'm a Jesus follower, but totally fine if that's not your thing and would love to meet you anyway. Just know that I probably won't be pursuing marriage if that's the case.

    I'm an introvert (as most Lemmy folks are, I'm sure). Ideally for someone younger than me, but if you're older, go ahead and reach out--I won't mind. I work out every day and hike when I can. I love the outdoors, hate the city, and love going on adventures (with or without clothes, lol). I'm someone who can find adventure in the mundanity of life. And I have a huge long list of fun date ideas--I just need someone to come along for the ride. 😝

    I should probably also note I'm a virgin and will remain one until I'm married. I'm totally fine if you're not a virgin. For a potential partner I'm looking for someone who loves Jesus, appreciates humor, and has an active lifestyle (not necessarily a gym rat, but someone who can go hiking/running without being out of breath would be great).

    Even if you don't feel that's you but I sound like an interesting dude, feel free to reach out. Always down for meeting new people.

    Interested? Feel free to reach out by sending me a DM!

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    Should I Give Babylon 5 Another Chance?

    As a Sci-Fi fan I've been a huge fan of shows like Battlestar Galactica, The Expanse, Terminator: TSCC, Star Trek, etc. I keep hearing Babylon 5 is awesome.

    I was too young at the time to watch the series when it was on. But then as an older teen/ young adult I decided to give it a try. Everything was so cringe it was hard to get through 3 episodes. IMO the whole vibe was "safe..." maybe even a bit corny--not the intense, exciting, politically-tense space opera that I was told it was.

    So maybe the beginning episodes are just world-building? What do other people think?

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    What flavors do you find "grounding?"

    Title is basically it.

    For me, it's usually coffee, or anything spicy, like cayenne pepper. Apple cider vinegar usually does it, too.

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    Do you ever feel like people hold you at arm's length?

    I'm someone who craves (and thrives) on intimacy and closeness. I'm never been afraid to be vulnerable (I'd actually had to learn that I shouldn't be vulnerable with everyone). I love it when someone is really passionate about something, even if that thing bores me to tears. I love hearing about peoples' hopes, fears, dreams, opinions...

    But I often feel like people hold me at arm's length. Like they say, "OP, I like you, you're interesting, but stay right there."

    And it doesn't seem like it's a matter of following the "relationship journey" either. It seems like eventually I hit a wall of someone not wanting me to come any closer. And it hurts.

    Being neuroatypical I do realize I have an intense personality so people may not know how to interact with me. That may be part of it.

    Anyone else experience this? How do you cope?

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    I'm tired of all these Ahsooka and Han Solo spinoffs. For once I want Disney to give me the story of Steve, the padawan no jedi wanted to train!

    Steve: turns on lightsaber

    Steve: Hm...what does the green plasma taste like?

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    For folks who write for Medium.com, what's your engagement like, and how much do you make?

    I'm wondering if it's financially worth it to cover the $5/mo membership.

    I post Medium articles fairly regularly, and each email update shows I get ~500 reads total.

    Is that enough to cover the $5/mo? Would it be a wise financial risk?

    Are people willing to share their readership and total MMR?

    Edit: shouldn't have shared my financial situation; was interested in data/advice only.

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    It would be cheaper to foster an economy with more better-paying jobs so students would be able to pay off student loans, than creating a student loan relief program.

    I mean, seriously. I was stupid enough to take on the burden of student loans. At least give me the dignity of having the responsibility of paying them off.

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    writing @lemmy.world PlanetOfOrd @lemmy.world

    What are your favorite villain tropes?

    For me its:

    1. The villain's motivation isn't revealed to the reader/audience (or, if it is, at the very end; and, ofc, the author should go through the work of providing the motivation if it isn't seen)

    2. Some of the villains actions seem impulsive or out-of-the-blue. Especially for a villain that's usually cold and calculated this can seem especially creepy because you aren't sure if the impulsive action was intentional or if the villain is snapping.

    3. There's a softer side to the villain. Maybe he just bombed a synagogue but he still needs to pick up wrapping paper for his son's birthday party.

    There are a few more that are probably honorable mentions. And I'm mostly in agreement with the video about great villain tropes. But honestly one I've never really liked is the "villain monologue," and I'm surprised that made the cut (but I definitely don't mind seeing someone else's POV). It just seems too much like a Saturday morning cartoon. If the villain is really that dangerous, why doesn't he just kill the protagonist and be done with it? Why give him a few seconds (or 5 minutes) to escape? Perhaps to add to the screen runtime/word count?

    What do other people think? Are there villain tropes you like? Are there ones you can't stand?

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    Was considering recording my AMA vid today...couldn't do it.

    I post videos, content, or articles almost daily on my social media to show tech companies that, yes, I'm the guy you need on your tech team since I know my stuff.

    But each time it feels so...blah...because nobody ever reads anything I write. At least, nobody with money (despite me writing FOR people with money).

    I recently asked people to submit questions for an AMA on databases. I got 3 questions back. I think I'll use my local LLM app to generate a few more.

    But it felt like...what's the point? Even when I record and publish the video, so far nobody's ever engaged with my last 100 posts. Why would they do it for this one?

    Anyone else feel this? How do you cope or overcome?

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    As an AHDHer how are receptionist jobs for you? Anyone got stories? I'm needing to step outside my comfort zone and asking folks who have been there before

    I'm in tech and working with a guy on a very small project, but I'm definitely not able to make ends meet (thankfully family & friends have pulled me out several months lately). I've also been looking for a stop-gap job until I find a tech company that actually knows how to hire. But even that seems to be really difficult.

    Like most ADHDers, I have a processing disorder. Grocery stores trigger panic attacks. Monotony also triggers it. I'm also not good with detail-oriented tasks (so that leaves something like electronics manufacturing off the table).

    But I am a hard worker. No matter the pay, I will go above and beyond for my team to get a job done.

    I'm scouring indeed and Craigslist trying to find something I can get in the interim.

    For other ADHDers, what has your experience been doing a receptionist job? Is it ADHD hell? Or am I over-blowing the mistakes I'd probably make into major catastrophes? I realize it all depends on the employer. But what stories do people have (positive or negative) who have been receptionists?

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