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What resources do you use to develop social skills?
  • Immersion, listening, observation, and understanding. (In person, Not online). At the surface this is mimicry, but it means nothing if you don’t really understand why you mimic. Observe physical mannerisms and listen to verbal mannerisms. Understand why they are used. Empathy and sympathy. Emotions are an important part of socialization. Containing them as much as showing them. Negative feedback from a little light bullying. Forming a thick skin to criticism and understanding why you were criticized. Positive feedback by receiving compliments and taking them gracefully. Forming transient friendships, or even more positive from forming life long bonds with others you relate to. Relating to what the person is saying to your own experience and finding commonalities. What did someone say in a conversation that made you feel at ease? What did someone say that made you feel uneasy? If you don’t know then at least try to understand what would make someone else uneasy. Learning to “read the room” based on social contexts. Sometimes not being able to relate but taking an interest and listing in the effort to understand and learn. Ask questions. Learn what is too personal to ask, and don’t. People have different boundaries so it’s good to not overstep. Listen. If you’re not a part of a social interaction then take note of how it is going and learn from others interacting. There are varying degrees of personal to formal interaction. Always default to formal until you become more familiar over time. Physical posture and physical mannerisms. Take note of the other person. If you’re not at ease then they will probably not be at ease. Be mindful of your own nervous energy. Reading body language and controlling your own are important to what you may want to convey.

    At some point you’re gonna start to identify positive and negative traits in others. Selfishness, selflessness. These are not binary. Someone can be selfish in some aspects and still drop everything to come help you. If you see a negative trait on someone don’t completely discount them. Just be aware.

    The older I get the less I care about these things, but I understand how very important they are in professional and personal life.

    Socialization is the best way. Get out and mingle. No matter how long it takes you to develop. Usually you would do this during years 1-4 socially and 5-18 In school. In my age group I’ve seen parents refuse to socialize their children too late at their detriment and they’ve already solidified deficient social skills. That puts them on the back foot going forward in life.

  • Please, For the Love Of God, Check Your Motorcycle's Bolts
  • You can’t even trust dealer maintenance shops. I was getting prepared for a long road trip last year and decided to get down low and inspect my rear brake pads and tire pressure. A fucking bolt on my rear hub fell out. I had just taken my bike to a Honda dealer for new tires the day before. I’m never going back there and if I take my bike to some shop for service I can’t do myself, I’m gonna damn sure double check the work.

    Addendum: this was a two visit ordeal. First visit was for tires. They broke the tpms senor on the rear tire. Second visit was to get it replaced. I guess I should have taken that as an omen. Next time I’m going to bite the bullet and try to replace my own tires with spoons and a torque wrench.

  • Cobb county employees came to my polling center dressed as "ghosts" during Early voting
  • But people in the original Lemmy thread told me it was the Klan! The op, “Buttflapper” reports: “They were filming and had fake county employee badges, immediately trespassed and removed”. Surely they didn’t jump to conclusions and were wrong!

    My guy early voting down in GA.

  • ‘Unknown 9: Awakening’ Arrives To 200 Steam Players, Poor Reviews
  • What is the actual quality of the game?

    Did you know about this game? Did you buy and play this game? Did you actually like this game?

    Are you one of the ~220 people who bought this game and didn’t spread the word to their friends.

    It sounds to me like this game sucks. Maybe it was rotten from the start. Maybe they were forced to hire a bunch of mentally ill people with a massive chip on their shoulder to ‘advise’ and change the game to tick some boxes on a list. ( don’t you just love having fun according to a list of prescribed requirements? ) I bet the people working on it like that. Talk about a soul sucking job without passion. We will probably never know the truth.

  • I'm done with Reddit and it's stupid Rules.
  • Aside from your choice to combat someone you perceive as wrong online in their own arena of sycophants. How many fucking Reddit account do you need? I’m pretty sure having more than one is against ToS. I could understand if you had a main account and an alt account for saying shit you feel ashamed of, but you literally make it out like you had dozens. That’s pretty damn weird.

  • Non preppers / Doomers. What's one small thing you're prepped for?
  • 5x 5 gallon jugs of water. A few weeks worth of canned goods. A stack of fire wood. Solar panels and a few batteries to charge small devices like radios. A couple of GMRS radios and a couple of HAM radios. Propane tanks and propane heaters.

  • New open-source project transforms Android phones into ham radio transceivers
  • More radio spectrum. Voice and data capability. Licensed HAM nerd shit. Meshtastic is relatively a narrow unlicensed spectrum with bandwidth limitations. It’s about tinkering just like Meshtastic is but with a license.

  • MicroProse, a Company With a Long History in Gaming, is Releasing a New Game Called Cleared Hot, Which is Inspired By Desert Strike | Retro Gaming News 24/7
  • I’m a pessimist.

    I think it would be ‘overstating’ deepening on which side of the fence you sit. Microprose can’t possibly be the same team members they were 20-40 years ago. If you are nostalgic for a game you played as a child then maybe be a little guarded for what a completely different group does with the IP.

  • Android Automotive is coming to a motorbike for the first time, thanks to KTM
  • I’ve seen that it tends to affect phones with a mechanical zoom camera. Like iPhones and Galaxy's. My bike has apple car play built in, so I tend to just keep my phone in my pocket and use the cross bar controls on the left handle to navigate the menus, no need to take my hands off the bars to tap a damn screen while going over bumps.

  • Sebastian Stan Says ‘If Marvel Was Gone’ It’d Leave a ‘Big Hole,’ Tells Off MCU Haters: ‘Don’t Just S— on Something Without Offering Something Better’
  • “I’ve never been part of a company that puts so much heart and thought into anything,”

    Maybe the movies he was a part of, but something has changed. Maybe the writers and producers are different on the contemporary projects and they lost the secret sauce of the phase 1 projects he got to be a part of.

  • Black Cats @kbin.social Mellow @lemmy.world

    Call of the Void

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    You bore me human.

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    Solar Eclipse April 2024

    In the path of totality at Carbondale IL. Carbondale Reservoir. Near Southern Illinois University. Thank you Carbondale!

    iPhone 15 Pro Max. No skill whatsoever.

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    Well... Shit.

    I was headed back home 1200 miles when at the first gas stop I let my bike fall over. I tried to park it away from the gas pumps to get off and stretch my legs. The spot I chose (poorly) was unleveled and the wind caught it and pushed it over. The tip over scratched the saddle bag and broke my brake lever. At my next stop I found an auto parts store for some steel stick epoxy to temporarily ‘weld’ the lever back together. I let it cure for a few 30 minutes before setting off angain, and then a few hours before using it properly, but that only lasted a few hundred miles. Everything is an easy fix, but damn I was utterly deflated the rest of the trip with my scratches of shame.

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    A Hawk in our Back Yard

    This guy has been visiting us regularly. I hope he takes care of our ground hogs for us.

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