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how and when did you find out you were bi?

Here's my story.

Sometime in April a guy who was a friend of a friend started touching me, yes I know I should have not let this happen but I found him kinda hot so I let him touch me. Started questioning when I got home. I then developed a slight crush on him but got over it after a few weeks.

I should have handled the situation differently but it caused me to learn about myself.

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  • This is always a fun convo!

    I think it was gradual, and I knew way before I knew to label it as bi/pan (I like the bi colors more 😅). Boys even as early in elementary school would sometimes talk about how pretty or hot their teachers were, and I didn't realize they usually reserved such comments for the female teachers. So I started think it about any I found attractive, men included.

    Past that, closer to teen years, I'd have fantasies of being caught masturbating, but the subject of those dreams also weren't restricted to just female figures in my life. Again, I didn't have a label for it, but it never felt weird or bad.

    Later on in mid-high school, I was driving my friend home from a party and he asked me if I'd ever had a girl suck me off. I hadn't, and answered accordingly. He asked if I wanted to know how it felt and started massaging himself over his shorts. Horny vibes took over and I agreed and that was that. I think I tried to deny it a little, but I was always in the LGBTQ+ crowd in HS anyhow and it helped me accept it a lot quicker. The guy turned out to be gay, and I think people are fucking hot, regardless of gender presentation or biological equipment.

  • 17 year old me in a party , found out I could kiss a boy and like it. Initially I was full of lesbian panic but no turns out bi panic all along. It was funny realization because I was so convinced I only liked girls , but nah if there is a boy i like i like kisisng them too.

  • Ngl I found out when I first heard the term bi from Mae Borowski in Night In The Woods, I looked it up after and that's how I not only figured out I was bi but a part of the lgbt community in general!

  • I think it was gradual for me. /r/bisexual on Reddit helped me a lot actually. I'm a male (genderqueer technically) and I am like 90% attracted to women (or people presenting as women), but there were always guys that made me stop and go "oh dear is it hot in here" if you know what I mean. However I never felt like I "qualified" for calling myself bisexual because I have never had sex with a guy or I didn't like guys "enough". The folks at /r/bisexual helped me realize "Nope, still bi, have fun!". Hot people are hot, that's all that matters.

    (On the note of bi/pan, I feel like bi encompasses everything that pan does. HOWEVER bi colors > pan colors :) )

  • It's been a journey of confused feelings and denial most of my life leading to, after dating a bisexual woman and pulling a lot of the bullshit the community complains about, thinking about myself more and trying to discover myself. It was a slow build-up, starting with me saying that I was, "80% straight." Eventually, I accepted that my real first celebrity crush had been on Anthony Perkins. While I still am more attracted to women more often, it's nice to accept my attraction not to everyone but to anyone.

  • I always knew I liked girls, but after enjoying playing with my bumhole in the bath as usual, I daydreamed about having a sex robot that could invert its genitals so I could see what it was like to have a dick in there. Then I realised that men have dicks and that therefore I would like to have a man put his dick in there, which was kind of a wild realisation.

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