Women dancing. Not talking about shaking ass and stuff which is meant to be sexy. I mean when they dance out of pure fun and happiness. When someone feels the music and just has to move.
Sexy - When a guy is really good at something and not at all cocky about it. That understated competence.
The Dunning–Kruger effect is usually defined specifically for the self-assessments of people with a low level of competence. But some theorists do not restrict it to the bias of people with low skill, also discussing the reverse effect, i.e., the tendency of highly skilled people to underestimate their abilities relative to the abilities of others. In this case, the source of the error may not be the self-assessment of one's skills, but an overly positive assessment of the skills of others.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dunning–Kruger_effect#Definition
It's real. Once you see that, you can't unseen it. Especially if we're talking about someone who's dedicated their entire life to something highly specialized; they will almost always overestimate the familiarity of the general public with their own area of expertise.
Hmm. This makes sense, usually the best dancers aren't the best dance teachers, even though it's not a techy career or anything that attracts super introverted people. Being able to transfer knowledge is its own sort of competence I guess.
Nerdy girls!!! Depth and quantity/range of interests. Not "I play games some times" I like "check out my spreadsheet, my code, and my project I just made" - level of nerdy; a copilot; an explorer of life in all its facets.
That's so great. I get kind of a pat on the head and awed look when I do stuff like that, he's happy about it, not threatened or anything, but I don't think he finds it sexy, maybe reassuring. But my legacy of nerdy daughters is my greatest achievement in life I think. The line continues.
as it turns out, beeing smart and willing to be vulnerable emotionally is damn hot
It really is!
Driving a stick shift
Well let me tell ya about an 8 speed rig with a triple splitter and air brakes, with a 53 foot van and a full hazmat... CERTIFIED!
You haven't driven a stick until you've shifted 24 times without repeats or synchromesh.
My first car was a stick shift with absolutely no electronics to prevent be from being a badass, or to save me from myself, or to save itself from me. I sacrificed the clutch teaching myself how to launch. I sacrificed 1st teaching myself how to double clutch. I sacrificed 2nd and 3rd's shift collars, respectively, teaching myself how to downshift without using the clutch while left foot braking, by first taking my foot off the gas and granny shifting it into neutral, and then briefly floorboarding it while it's in neutral, and then letting the revs fall until it matches the gear I want, and then granny shifting it again. Everyone should have something like that as their first car, drive it to the middle of nowhere where there's no one and nothing to hit, and destroy it for the sake of becoming the best possible driver. It's a travesty that they don't make cars like that anymore, truly.
Or as we in Europe call it: Driving
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Are you a guy? Because I drive manual (hate automatic transmission in cars, don't like shifting bikes at all though) and one time my husband borrowed his dad's truck because his car was broken, we went out to a concert and he (husband) got drunk so I drove us home, it was so hard to shift that truck, I had to stand on the clutch, like my ass came off the seat. Anyway, I downshifted to slow down and drunk husband found it really sexy for some reason. So you are not alone.
I am a guy but this is something that my girlfriend told me. However, I personally do find women riding geared motorcycles hot. So I totally empathise with your husband :D
I don't know how, I need someone to teach me!
That might be because I've been single for some years, but women smiling at/with me goes straight to the heart and that's connected to other parts. Obviously.
Body Scents for me. If they have worked up a sweat from hard work or exercise I’m pretty heavily into that. Not every person has a scent I like though, and that heavily factors in if I pursue a relationship.
A sundry of ostensibly inconsequential minutia regarding women, and abstract concepts complex to the point of absurdity about women, and black nail polish on women.
Confidence.
