I want to continue BG3 so bad, but the D&D combat is absolutely not my cup of tea. I love the world, the story, the characters. I loathe turn-based combat. Such a bummer.
honestly i just played at the lowest difficulty and picked a druid who by sheer chance turned out to be pretty OP in combat (imo). I still wanted to avoid bloodshed but when it came to it, I engaged combat from behind a corridor or a tight spot, slapped some ground spikes, and all melee enemies just died trying to walk up to me
I hated it at first as well. I really had to explore a lot and level up before it got good. Unlocking more abilities as you level really helps, especially on the melee characters which get extra attacks per turn.
We abused Asto a lot as a sneak attack sniper and locksmith.
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