damn, hearing it from someone else hits different. sometimes i yearn for the closeness of intimate friendships but the anxiety at the vulnerability of expressing a genuinely held opinion wont let me do anything else
so this was all done at the same time as that nights dinner (tofu cauliflower curry) and two prepped weeknight dinners (red lentil curry) for two adults and a pre-schooler, all of which took about 4 hours with breaks to eat dinner, wash a few dishes, help with a mini tantrum, read a bedtime story, and use the bathroom, so maybe 1.5-ish hours just for the lunches (not including the 3 hours hydration time for the farinata batter).
thank you! its is essentially the same batter as socca, but this week i went for an italian theme so i poured it thick and called it farinata. it is usually described as chickpea pancake or flatbread. you have to let the batter sit for a few hours for the chickpea flour to hydrate, and it oddly pours out quite thin, but 30-40 minutes in the oven have it coming out solid enough to slice.
i do like radicchio normally, but any strong food can usually be softened by soaking it in water for a bit, which is also how i take the bite out of red onion for people who like it less pungent.
i have not prepped farinata ahead of time like this, but from what i hear it is decent. if it turns out awful i will let you know
thanks! i work four ten-hour days, and i make enough for my wife to eat for lunch as well, so i always plan for 8 servings. sometimes i come up short, but close enough where at the worst case i can buy a piece of bread to make it filling.
thanks! ive been meaning to share for a while but i keep taking pictures with my daughter, and i dont really want to post those on the internet.
sure! i blanched about 1kg green beans (the only haricot verts i can find come in a plastic bag and id just rather not), and set them aside. then i melted about 1/4c vegan butter in a pan and added sliced almonds (i recommend without the skin if you can, i just didnt have the time to remove them), and cooked on medium until they smelled nice and toasty. then i added a finely chopped shallot and 2 minced garlic cloves and tossed around for about 2 minutes before squeezing in the juice of a large-ish lemon and a tiny bit of water to make it a bit more of an emulsified sauce. if youre serving it right away i would recommend adding the green beans to the pan and making them nice and warm but not too colorful and definitely using a way bigger pan than i did. since this was meal prep that would be heated later i just wanted to mix them in the sauce to make it easier to get some when grabbing them out of the fridge.
yea! i shredded 500g-ish of heirloom carrots and 500g-ish orange carrots, thinly sliced a bunch of french radishes (not a standard part of the recipe but they were leftover from a recipe i didnt end up making), a loose cup of parsley, and a lemon vinaigrette (75ml olive oil, 25ml lemon juice, tsp-ish of dijon and a bit of agave nectar--i used about half of the dressing for this salad)
thanks! the base is mostly silken tofu, flavored with turmeric, nutritional yeast, and a touch of white miso.
im almost 40 and my trick is to not try to fall asleep because if i try i end up staying awake longer due to frustration. i just watch youtube trombone tutorials until i pass out.
aside from some of the more obvious choices (rushdie, wallace, mccarthy, morrison):
don delillo, esp. underworld and white noise
ted chiang, esp. exhalation
marilyn robinson, esp. housekeeping
denis johnson, esp. jesus' son and tree of smoke
colson whitehead, esp. the intuitionist and the nickel boys
and while relatively new so maybe not at the same status as some other writers, jamil jan kochai and nana kwame adjei-brenyah will be making lists like these in the future if they keep writing the way they have.
there is a website for a pizza place in seattle whose website does this, maybe you can get some inspiration. dinos
its a weird thing to talk about, because so many times i tried to confide in other parents, and every single time i just get "oh it sounds like a normal toddler" no matter how much contextualizing i could try. youre the first person who is not my wife whose heard the story and hasnt had that reaction, so thank you.
my wife had a rough end of the day yesterday. it was mostly a nice day with our daughter (turning 4 in may) while i was at work, then out of nowhere she got hit with "i dont love you" while they were transitioning between activities. no conflict or anything.
while trying to talk it out, my daughter started saying that my wife hit her in the face and pushed her in the pool on our trip to puerto vallarta in october which is completely untrue (besides me there were four other in-laws around us at all times during the trip so there wouldve been drama if that did happen). my wife broke down because she didnt know how to handle that (what if she decided to say that in front of a teacher?).
then she just dropped it. she didnt seem remorseful, and she also didnt even say i love you to her. so when i get home, almost like rubbing it in, she starts singing a song about how she loves me. this and the fact that i was diagnosed with adhd as a kid makes me feel guilty for making my wifes job way more difficult.
this is all compounded by my wife raising her voice at my daughter a couple of times recently. she has always been the kind of kid who pushes boundaries to the max, who always grabs things without asking, whose reaction to school pickup and ending a day at the park is to run away and make us chase her. the incidents of my wife raising her voice were when my daughter decided to run while she was on a busy avenue, because despite drilling it into her head every time we get to a crosswalk, we dont trust that she wont impulsively ignore what shes supposed to do. since then she has ssid a few times she didnt want mommy to be with us for breskfast, which she and i make together every morning, "because what if she gets mad?"
really sorry for the rant and a half here, but its been that kind of day. so, i love my daughter, but i really wish she could just learn to chill out.
i shop bulk as much as i can, eat oatmeal for breakfast daily, and after i had my gall bladder removed i got in the habit of eating 2-3oz portions of animal protein no more than 5 times a week. i spend a bunch of time in the kitchen every week but it definitely softens the blow. it also helps that i have a couple of cheap staple meals i can make for less than $5 per serving.
i also shop around for value. i live near 4 different grocery stores so i dont spend a lot of time doing it, but i do make a run to grocery outlet every month in order to get discounts on bigger items but it can be hit or miss.