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Velocipedestrienne, flâneuse, solivagant, bibliophile, needlesmith. Swans. Cricket.

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The Daily Checkin for Sunday June 30th- Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • The Daily Check-In for Saturday June 29th, Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁! Woohoo, it's the weekend, we made it!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol! We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

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    The Daily Check-In for Friday June 28th, Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!

    Good Morning and happy Friday, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol! We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

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    The Daily Check-In for Thursday June 27th, Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!
  • "Not now, maybe later," is a surprisingly powerful tool.

  • The Daily Check-In for Thursday June 27th, Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!
  • Can I suggest you play the tape forward, to tomorrow, when you're hungover and sick? Think about how grim it is on day one (I have a photo to remind me, in all my hungover misery), and how awful that first week sober is as you try to rebuild your sobriety.

    What are your sober supports? Can you lean into those? Listen to a podcast, read a chapter of some quit lit, maybe drop in on a meeting?

  • The Daily Check-In for Thursday June 27th, Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!

    Good Morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol! We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

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    The Daily Check-In for Wednesday June 26th, Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!

    Good Morning and happy hump day, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol! We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

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    The Daily Check-In for Tuesday June 25th, Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!

    Good Morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol! We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

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    Gift ideas for a 2 months sober gal..
  • I bought myself a comfortable backpack for commuting.

    Or what about a nice bracelet? Amethyst was believed to protect against drunkenness, and there's some pretty amethyst bracelets on etsy.

  • The Daily Check-In for Monday June 24th, Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!

    Good Morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol! We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

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    The Daily Check-In for Sunday June 23rd, Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!

    Good Morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol! We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

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    The Daily Checkin for Saturday June 22nd, Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • The Daily Checkin for Friday June 21st - Just for Today, We Are NOT Drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • The Daily Checkin for Thursday July 20th - Just For Today, We are NOT Drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • The Daily Check in for Wednesday June 19 - Just for today, we are NOT drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • ADHD Women Community Weekly Check-in - June 16-22: How Are You Doing?
  • Me starting on the diagnostics pathway has been approved by my medical insurance.

    I'm in the UK so normally I'd go via the NHS but the medical insurance I have via work has a neurodiversity pathway and my GP asked me to take that route if at all possible, as it will be quicker and easier for me.

  • The Daily Checkin for Tuesday June 18 - Just for Today, We are NOT Drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • Australia throwing a game is the grim fantasy of conspiracy theorists
  • Cheating and corruption does happen, but the sheer logistics of throwing a T20 cricket match would make it borderline impossible, I think?

    It's not like Hanse Cronje and his declaration at the fifth test against England in January 2000, there's no declarations in T20.

    You'd have to have most if not all of the team be in on it, you'd have to overcome years of training so players dropped catches instead of catching them. You'd have to have multiple game plans in place ("opposition wins toss, puts cheating team into bat", "opposition wins toss, puts themselves into bat", and so on). You'd have to do all of this under the noses of experienced coaches, umpires, spectators, players, in a way that aroused few, if any, suspicions. It just seems really difficult, if not impossible, to pull off.

  • The Daily CheckIn for Monday June 16th - Just for today, we are NOT Drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • The Daily Checkin for Sunday June 16- Just for today, we are NOT drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • The Daily check-in for Saturday June 15th, just for today we are NOT drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • ADHD Women Weekly Check-in June 2-8: How Are You Doing?
  • Hi, I'm new here, just started the process of diagnosis in the UK. Strongly suspect inattentive ADHD, and I think this has all come to a head since I stopped drinking, no alcohol means no hiding places from your own brain any more...

  • The Daily Checkin for Friday June 14th - Just for Today, We are NOT Drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • Replace parking spots with plants? Absolutely
  • There's been a few different suggestions, I'm not sure what the current iteration says.

  • Replace parking spots with plants? Absolutely
  • As I understand it, the big problem with any Oxford Street pedestrianisation is the diverted bus routes. Everything would have to go down Wigmore Street, which would have to be converted back to a two-way street.

  • The Daily Checkin for Thursday June 13th - Just for Today, We Are NOT Drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • The Daily Checkin for Wednesday June 12th - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!
  • Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

  • Sleep

    I mentioned in a comment that I would do a post about sleep, so here you are.

    Among its many, many other impacts, alcohol impacts your sleep horribly. Your body, instead of using its downtime to do cell repair and everything else, is pulling its resources to your liver to process the poison you've consumed.

    Fixing sleep is a process, it's not a one and done. If you cut the booze and immediately start sleeping like a baby, you are very lucky, and lean into that, because everything is better with a good night's sleep behind you.

    This is what I did. Some of this stuff involves spending money (weighted blanket, diffuser and oils, blackout curtains), but those are the "nice to have" items, not the essentials. I got a bit obsessive in the first month or two, because I didn't want to get into "can't sleep, I'll just have a glass of wine to take the edge off", but I'm a bit more relaxed about it now because I didn't want to get into a headspace where I can't sleep unless I did all the things.

    For me, planning for sleep starts at lunchtime, which is when I stop drinking coffee or anything else with caffeine in it. I avoid sugary "processed" drinks most of the time anyway, but I make a point of not drinking those after about 4pm.

    I'm also fairly active, I cycle between 100 and 120 miles a week, and on the days I don't cycle to work it's a mile and a bit walk to the Tube station, a mile and a bit back in the evening. I usually try to get out and walk round the park at lunchtime. If I'm working from home I'll go out in the evening after work. I do a weights workout three times a week.

    this is all timed for being in bed by 10PM.

    I put all electronics into "night" mode at 9:30pm, which is my cue to stop looking at the electronics and start my winding down for bed routine, rather than an excuse to keep staring at the screens.

    Night routine is:

    • drink a mug of sleepy tea

    • Clean teeth, do facial skincare routine

    • pyjamas

    • close curtains (I have blackout ones)

    • switch on an electronic diffuser that's loaded with a sleepy blend of oils

    • switch bedside alarm lamp to sunset mode, where it gradually dims to a tiny nightlight glow

    • get into bed, under weighted blanket

    • put phone out of reach but start a sleep meditation session (all the apps like Headspace, Calm, and Insight Timer offer free versions)

    • My bedside alarm goes off at the same time every morning, even at weekends. It has a sunrise setting so half an hour before I'm due to wake up, it starts getting brighter and brighter, and then it plays birdsong at me.

    • When it's hot, I have a fan set up in the hallway outside my room so it's not right in the room being noisy, but I still get the air moving (I live on my own, so having my bedroom door open at night is fine).

    • If I wake in the night, or if I can't get to sleep, I lie there with my eyes closed, recognising that even if I'm not sleeping, I'm still resting. I don't reach for my phone and start scrolling through. If it is within half an hour of my normal wake up time, I get up and start the day.

    • I don't do lie-ins, once I'm awake for the day, I'm up and out of bed.

    That sorted it for me, but if it hadn't worked, I'd have looked at herbal sleep remedies, if those hadn't worked, I'd have talked to a pharmacist for advice, and if what they had suggested didn't work, I'd have gone to my GP.

    Some of the stuff in the list above involves spending money if you don't have them already (diffuser, oils, weighted blanket, blackout curtains, fancy alarm with sunrise/sunset setting). Fortunately, those are the "nice to haves" not the essentials. Sleepy teas are mostly cheap, although it might involve a small investment to find ones you like.

    The important thing is that you start the routine at the same time each night, you start giving your body cues to wind down, you go to sleep in a room that's as dark as possible, you wake up at the same time each day. It takes time, it's not a one and done deal, it involves investing time and effort in yourself and recognising that even if one night is a "failure" you're probably sleeping more than you think you are, and that even just lying in bed with your eyes closed means you're still recuperating, and you try again tomorrow.

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    The Daily Check In For Friday May 31st - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

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    The Daily Check In For Thursday May 30th - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

    3

    The Daily Check In For Wednesday May 29th - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

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    The Daily Check In For Tuesday May 28th - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

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    The Daily Check In For Monday May 27th - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

    4

    The Daily Check In For Sunday May 26th - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

    3

    The Daily Check In For Saturday May 25th - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

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    The Daily Check In For Friday May 24th - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, today is my second soberversary and you bet that IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

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    The Daily Check In For Thursday May 23rd - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

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    The Daily Check In For Wednesday May 22nd - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

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    The Daily Check In For Tuesday May 21st - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

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    The Daily Check In For Monday May 20th - Just For Today, We Are NOT Drinking!

    Good morning, fellow sobernauts, IWNDWYT 😁!

    We may be anonymous strangers on the internet, but we have one thing in common. We may be a world apart, but we’re here together!

    Welcome to the 24 hour pledge! I’m pledging myself to not drinking today, and invite you to do the same.

    Maybe you’re new to c/stop drinking and have a hard time deciding what to do next. Maybe you’re like me and feel you need a daily commitment or maybe you’ve been sober for a long time and want to inspire others.

    It doesn’t matter if you’re still hung over from a three day bender or been sober for years, if you just woke up or have already completed a sober day. For the next 24 hours, let’s not drink alcohol!

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