How old is this cousin? Maybe they don't know how to deal with difficult information yet
When you're a type A kind of person who enjoys having routines and tasks to complete in order to keep your active brain happy, I find it's best that you intentionally include personal time into your calendar and stick to it as if it's an important meeting. Instead of waiting for free time to pop up and then thinking "well now what?," put plans in place ahead of time on your calendar to take time for yourself. Maybe the first few hours on the calendar are spent reflecting about the activities you already enjoy or some new ones you want to check out. Then plan out when you're going to do them. An hour on Wednesday afternoon going for a hike at whatever trail, 2 hours Saturday evening watching your favorite TV show, 1 hour Friday night joining your friend for an event you've never heard of before. Be specific and be intentional with your time. I think you'll find that it helps your brain to still be in that "go get it!" mentality when you're actively and purposefully setting aside time for yourself to break up with monotony and relax your brain. It's not only good for your overall physical health, but it will help you avoid burnout and allow you to become happier and more productive with the time you do spend at work.
That's what I'd suggest you start working on. Start today by putting an hour block on your upcoming calendar to sit down and intentionally plan out when you will take time for yourself and what you might want to do. Then hold yourself accountable for relaxing and taking care of yourself just as you would a job responsibility.
Often times we get stuck in the what-if and it comes with a lot of anxiety and worry about trying to find the "right" thing to do or say. But what helps me is asking myself the question, "wouldn't you rather know?"
I've been denied by many beautiful women and I've been accepted by others I never thought I'd have a chance with. The only ones that I regret are the ones I never had the courage to ask. Life's short my friend, don't burden yourself with worry and wonder. Give it a try, just ask her honestly and be ok with whatever the answer is.
If she just wants to help with the house? Great, you have a better chance of becoming friends now that you're not worried about what she thinks of you. If she's unsure or says yes, then just let things develop as they will. Worst case scenario, she doesn't talk to you anymore...sad yes, but at least you can look for someone who wants you back!
Clearly you don't understand how slow things are in government. 6 months is a really fast turnaround for the government to get anything done.
You've never been a rich privileged white man I see. Trump's only thoughts are "surely this can't be fair, there's gotta be something we can do to come to a better agreement" and he'll continue to be flabbergasted by any other result because he's never had to deal with real consequences in his life.
If it's a fact then why did 240 scientists disagree? What were their findings? Science doesn't create facts, it supports or rejects hypothesizes based on the original question. Calling science fact was your first mistake. Missing the entire point of the argument by cherry-picking data sets that fulfill your narrative was the second.
So now you're making your own arguments away from your original position? Got any scientists to back up your preconceived ideas? Find me some peer-reviewed articles that suggest (not prove cause that's very rarely how science works) that the cells developed are not dolphin embryos first. Since we're just jumping to whatever conclusion fits our narrative now...
Sticking your head in the sand is a great strategy for never helping to enact change. Knowledge is power, learn what you can.
Except they didn't fix the root of the problem, they just kicked the can down the road and made big banks even bigger. Some bigger than the Treasury itself. They set up a bigger ticking time bomb for someone else to worry about when they're gone.
Wow, I feel this lately. One day at a time, but you're telling me Christmas is in...18 days?
There's never a scenario on the internet where 99% of people agree with you...unless you're just talking to yourself. Just let it go, not like you lose anything with downvotes.
Sasha Cohen. Sadly it never quite all came together for her, but she was so elegant on ice.
I'd like to know where he got these "facts" because I know no such study with any validity exists. Did he just ask 4 high school students and call it an undeniable truth? That sounds like the kind of logic I'm used to from people like this.
It's not a fact. You're predicting events of the future that haven't yet happened. I don't care what you know about the legal system, you absolutely cannot call it fact.
You are not a supreme being with the power of knowing or influencing the future. That's just nonsense.
Also I hope you're right.
Well that's a more specific situation. Personally I try to get things done ahead of time in group projects. That just feels respectful to the others. I can agree that it's a bit selfish to wait until the last minute when others can't get their stuff done until I do.
I just wanted to point out that procrastination shouldn't be considered selfish. Different people have different working styles that work best for them. It's a compromise to incorporate different working styles and the person who likes to do things right away and then relax should realize that there's other styles and not everyone can operate the same way as them.
Woah woah woah... selfish behavior? What do you think you know about procrastinators?
I love that I procrastinate. It helps me to think about the issue/task for a longer period of time and allows for freedom to complete other tasks or relax instead of constantly stressing about getting things done immediately. I used to complete jobs right away and was rewarded with ever increasing workloads until I broke down from the amount of stress put on me daily. Procrastination isn't something done to spite or hurt another person/entity...you have me a deadline and I completed it before it was due. Shouldn't matter how I went about completing it.
Procrastinating has taught me how to work under intense pressure when it's absolutely needed, and I can respond in the moment with confidence in my ability. It helps me to find time to be more connected with my coworkers without being overburdened with an ever-increasing workload. If I don't take the time to be true to myself as a procrastinator, you will get less and less quality work out of me as my mental capacity becomes overloaded. It's selfish to abuse those that want/need to take their time while still working under last minute pressure to get it done.
Not everything is so black and white just because it doesn't fit with your style of working.
Calling people out on their BS is the right line to draw for me personally, but I still want that person to have the right to express their opinion. We just need to teach people that it's ok to be wrong as long as you can admit it and learn from it. No idea gets processed until pushed from an opposing party.
Sitting back and doing nothing teaches nothing. Calling it appalling and informing the person why they're wrong is the right step toward change. But if you can't say it in a way that makes them hear you, then you're doomed to have the argument all over again.