My dm's always open to chat :). You sound like the kind of person I'd like to see more of in the world. And it sucks that being a person who goes out of their way to help others is so often comorbid with having a (usually undeserved imo) negative perception of themselves. Do you the story about the Persian king who offered great rewards to anyone who could make him feel hopeful when he is sorrowful and ground him when he is elated? ( I'm paraphrasing and butchering the story somewhat)
You sound like a lovely person to have around and it sounds like you've really helped someone in need. I hope you were able to take some time for yourself and recuperate etc. Wishing you all the best in the future x
That sounds like a really shit situation, you're doing a really good thing for someone and I'm sorry it feels shitty
Please, don't call me put like this
Still feels like an unachievable goal at 32. Part of me still feels unsure that it's what I want, especially as it will mean losing my partner of 12 years. Yet I still keep finding myself on these subs, doing voice training it my alone time, shave my legs etc.
Love to hear it. I'm only saying it's lame cause I'm burned out with my work rn. Biology is beautiful regards
I'm in a not dissimilar position to you, right down to the childhood karate, and really resonate with your post. Except I'm 4 years older and my relationship has been going for 4 years older. It's always weird and scary to understand these things, and can be very hard to share with your partner. I've been talking to a therapist about some of this stuff recently and they recommended reading the work of Meg John Barker, particularly the material on plurality. They have a lot of material available on line for free and it's all short, really worth a read. The guist of it is that as a person you are likely plural, made up of multiple different "personas" that can be thought of the sources of various emotions/feelings, and it's likely that one of more of them are not the gender you're assigned at birth. You can embrace this at times without fully transitioning, or use it as a way to experiment 5o see if you want to live full time as a woman. I have so much respect for the girls here who have done it, but it looks like a challenging ordeal, even once you're passing, and it is further complicated by already being in a cis het relationship with someone you love, means there is a lot more on the line. Wish you all the best in figuring all this out (and maybe when you do you can let me know xD )
That sounds shit. No advice here I'm afraid but I'll pour out some eggnog for you. I hope you get through it all right xx
Not necessarily trans fiction, but an incredible book with an amazing deconstruction of gender, highly recommend.
Have you read The Dispossessed?
This is inspirational
How did you tell your wife? I think I'm in a similar spot, really feel ya regarding being hit with a truck if emotions, but I've no idea how to tell my wife (Technically just gf but of 11 years - starting to understand why I've never had a desire to pop the question )