Totally disagree, but that's a given when it comes to package managers I think. I showed my coworker who was RHEL to the core some neat Zypper features and he was pretty impressed. One feature I think is cool that I don't think anyone else has is zypper ps which shows processes with open file handles to files that were updated. I also really like the way it handles conflict resolution and the same package in multiple repos.
Something simpler than some of the other self hosted drive apps (nextcloud and seafile) that I like is sftpgo
Unfortunately no guide, just things I've pieced together myself over the years.
Cloudflare is probably the easiest and most intuitive part of the setup though, you can setup dns/proxy/firewall rules very intuitively, and I'm sure there are plenty of guides out there.
Here is my setup:
Cloudflare fronts all of my webserver traffic, and I have firewall rules in Cloudflare.
Then I have an OPNsense firewall that blocks a list of suspicious ips that updates automatically, and only allows port 80/443 connections from Cloudflare's servers. The only other port I have open is for Wireguard to access all of my internal services. This does not go through Cloudflare obviously, and I use a different domain for my actual IP. I keep Vaultwarden internal for extra safety.
Next I run every internet facing service in k3s in a separate namespace. This namespace has its own traefik reverse proxy separate from my internal services. This is what port 80/443 forwards to. The namespace has network policies that prevent any egress traffic to my local network. Every container in the WAN facing namespace runs as a user with no login permission to the host. I am also picky about what storage I mount in them.
If you can get through that you deserve my data I think.
I have been thinking about this. For other sites it is super easy to google e.g. "bifl socks reddit" but with federated services the information is scattered across many domains/services that the search engines do not know are federated. There either needs to be a site that archives everything in real time that search engines can crawl, or a robust search engine specifically designed for searching posts on all known instances.
Full disclosure I am not an expert on the topic these are just my thoughts.
I think all new technology is like that. Ultimately I think what is needed is a single mobile app that aggregates fediverse services and makes it stupid simple on the UX/UI. Advanced users can still migrate to other servers and have more control/freedom, and less savvy people don't even knoww hat is happening.
I've been hoping for a shift to decentralized social platforms for ages, so I really hope that's the direction things are heading.