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Never finished degree and I feel stuck/suicidal over it
  • Hey dude. I’m glad you made this post. Suicidal ideation is a big fucking deal, and shouldn’t be taken lightly. If there is any possible way to pull it off, I highly recommend seeking help like the other comments mention. Not just for the depression, but for the ADHD. Are you treating the ADHD? Do you have a formal diagnosis? I didn’t get diagnosed until I was 39… and it was a fucking game changer when I started treating it.

    You said you’re still living with your parents. I would presume that your relationship with them is decent then? If you’re 29 and they’re letting you live at home (even if they charge some sort of rent), they are likely concerned for your wellbeing regardless of the state of the relationship. It’s completely ok to lean on them for emotional support. Nobody gets through life without a support system of some kind. Literally no one makes it without help somewhere along the way from someone. I’d be willing to bet your parents are dying to help you right now even if they don’t know how.

    The thing with suicide is it’s permanent. Everyone knows that intellectually, but sometimes the need to stop the pain overwhelms the finality of it all. It’s a permanent solution to a temporary problem. And once it’s done, there is no going back. And what makes this bad situation worse is that your loved ones will be left to pick up the pieces. My partner had someone very close to her commit suicide about 14 years ago. She has been saddled with severe PTSD from that and will have to carry it with her for the rest of her life. I don’t mention this to make you feel worse or make you feel bad for being suicidal, but to try to hit home that we don’t live our lives in isolation, and our actions have consequences for those around us.

    Now the school thing? Don’t sweat it. School isn’t for everyone. Sometimes in life we try to force ourselves into boxes other people construct for us (or boxes we think other people have constructed for us). The fact of the matter is that we get to fashion the yardstick our success is measured with. So you’re 29 years old, haven’t finished college, work at Walmart, and live at home with your parents. So fucking what? That’s what the situation is. You’re probably not happy about it, but there might be reasons why school isn’t working that are greater than simply ADHD. Maybe you were studying the wrong thing. Maybe college isn’t what you need to be doing. There are more and more fields out there that can earn a decent living without a college degree. Work at Walmart and hate it? Look into a job at Lowe’s. Retail sucks… maybe look into a job at some local distribution center for some big business (I can think of two different regional distribution centers for different companies where I live…). My point is, if it’s not working, consider a different path. Talk about this with your parents too. If they can’t help a whole bunch with the mental heath bit (regardless of how much they might want to), they will probably be much more able to help in this realm if by no other way than ideas for alternative pathways.

    Anyway… I hope things improve for you dude. You’ll be in my thoughts.

  • Harris won’t cut or condition aid to Israel, former aide says [Jacob Magid | 20 August 2024 | The Times of Israel]
  • No, I think it’s a horrific policy. But constant messaging that Harris is bad because she’s going to continue the Biden administration Israel policies without also pointing out that the current alternative is just as bad or worse on this exact issue might help convince some fence sitters that Trump might be a better choice.

  • Harris won’t cut or condition aid to Israel, former aide says [Jacob Magid | 20 August 2024 | The Times of Israel]
  • You do realize it won’t be any different if her opponent is elected, right?

    https://thehill.com/homenews/campaign/4653322-donald-trump-joe-biden-weapons-supply-halt-israel-gaza/amp/

    And his base will love him all the more for it.

    https://news.gallup.com/poll/646955/disapproval-israeli-action-gaza-eases-slightly.aspx

    More Americans disapprove of Israel’s military action in Gaza than approve, and their opinions of Netanyahu are also negative on balance. Republicans remain much more likely than Democrats and independents to approve of Israel’s military action and to view Netanyahu favorably, consistent with the party groups’ broader opinions of Israel and the ongoing Israeli-Palestinian conflict. With a possible cease-fire deal and Netanyahu’s U.S. visit looming, Americans’ views of Israel and its leader could shift again in the coming weeks.

    These articles aren’t exactly the most recent, but illustrate that this isn’t a problem unique to Harris or the Biden administration.

  • Why don’t more politicians retire? A medical anthropologist explains how the US could benefit from a mandatory retirement age
  • Probably depends on the positions of the federal employees. The tech chief over the Voyager project might be a crusty old scientist (I don’t know… I’m just guessing) but I’ll bet he knows more about that spacecraft than anyone else on earth. If he’s still sharp, it’s probably best for him to stick around as long as he’s willing.

  • COVID surging in California. Is it time to bring back masks, hand sanitizer? What experts say
  • May I ask why? Legit question. I still occasionally see folks masking and such in my area, but the vast majority of people have gone back to pre-pandemic behaviors. Cases still pop up here and there but most folks treat it like flu… if you get sick, stay home until you’re better.

    If you’ve got an immune issue, I get it. But otherwise, why bother?