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Sovcit doesn't have a Bible so baby doesn't exist.
  • They gave birth at home instead of in a hospital. Which means that there's probably no record of the child's birth and they haven't gone through the process that usually gets you a birth certificate. So they're deciding whether to go start that process for their newborn or not.

  • How do we replace YouTube?
  • [...] I don't think YouTube is even profitable for them.

    Correct. Even Google, one of the richest companies in the world, is struggling to afford the massive infrastructure required to run YouTube. That's why they've been cracking down on ad-blocking software lately.

    Also, this is likely why they've been pushing their new updated Chromium-based infrastructure for web browsers, which will prevent ad-blockers from working on websites. If you're not using Firefox or Safari to browse the Internet by now, you should switch. They're the only independent browsers not using the Chromium framework.

  • Fear of skill regression
  • When I was 13, I decided I wanted to learn piano because I heard Beethoven's Moonlight Sonata and became obsessed with it. I already knew how to read sheet music from performing in choirs since the 3rd grade, so I just had to figure out where middle-C was on the piano and pluck out the rest of the keys from there. It only took me 2 weeks to completely decipher and memorize the Moonlight Sonata, without any instruction or lessons.

    I was a natural at the piano, and I taught myself more complicated pieces over the next handful of years. My wife is super jealous of my skill because she had to take 4 years of piano lessons for her music college degree, and I, without any formal lessons, can play better than her.

    Fast-forward a few decades. I haven't been around pianos for so long, I've forgotten most everything I learned. I just bought a fancy electric piano at an estate sale (normally costs $5,000; family was willing to sell it for $240!) and I'm excited to play again, but I've been afraid to just sit down and figure out where my skill level is at now. Gonna be a lot of hard work just to get back into it. And I'm old now, so I'm hardly the impressive "teen piano genius" I used to be. Now I'm just an old guy who might remember how to pick at a few simple songs on the piano.

    Getting old sucks. Especially if you don't keep up your skills. You're special if you have great skills as a kid. But if you're old, people just assume you've had a lifetime of practice. And that's if you kept up with it over the years.

  • egg_irl [Gender-Nonspecific]
  • Spoilers for the series ahead:

    I remember binging the whole series when I was a teenager, and the second movie (Nihao My Concubine) was the first and only time where Akane actually told Ranma she loved him. But only because they were in a nasty predicament and expected to die moments later. She reneged on that confession as soon as they were safe.

    I remember being so mad that I had watched the entire series and that retracted confession was the closest they ever got to actually being honest about their feelings toward each other. They didn't actually get married, or even go on dates together. They obviously cared for each other, but they could never openly say it, choosing to fight with each other instead. It was a very toxic relationship, and it's hard for me to re-watch the series now, even though I absolutely loved it in my youth.

    EDIT: Re-watch, not re-read watch. Stupid autocorrect.

  • Why do some Americans get angry at other people for not speaking English?
  • American here, who has spent about a decade living in various countries around the world.

    The biggest problem with my fellow Americans is that we're raised in an isolated country, which only borders two other countries (Canada and Mexico). And our country is so massive, probably 90% of Americans don't live anywhere near either country border.

    Crossing borders is a big deal too; it's not like Europe where you can be driving and suddenly see a sign welcoming you to a new country. There are checkpoints, blockades, passports, regular inspections, etc. Especially since 9/11 happened, our borders have become even more locked down. Plus, going anywhere else requires expensive plane tickets to fly over the oceans.

    This leads to most Americans having no social interactions with foreigners most of the time. We're fully ingrained in our own culture bubble and we don't get a lot of interaction with other cultures, outside of stereotypes through pop culture.

    Combine this with the fact that we're taught from childhood that we're the "greatest nation on Earth," and you get an entire culture of entitled, narcissistic jerks who think the American way is the best way.

    Our education has been failing for decades now, thanks to politicians on both sides of the aisle realizing that we're more easily manipulated if we're less educated. So there's this race to the bottom, where we're being fed lies and embellishments about how great America is and how we're this amazing country that the rest of the world looks up to and admires.

    With this entitled world view, it makes Americans scared when foreigners come to our country because we only know of their culture through stereotypes and we fear their culture taking over our "amazing and most perfect country." Just as we've stepped into other countries and spread our own democracy, we're afraid other nations will attempt to do the same to us.

    It doesn't help that we have an entire political party who maintains their voter base through fear mongering about foreigners taking our jobs, stealing our women, and destroying our "great culture" for their "backwards and corrupt" values. It's complete lunacy, but to the average American who has no regular contact with the outside world, it seems plausible.

    So yeah, a lot of Americans get uncomfortable when foreigners speak their native language around us instead of English. They tend to find it rude at best, and offensive/dangerous at worst. And some of the worst Americans travel abroad and expect everyone to essentially worship the ground they walk on, so they get offended when other people don't know or speak English. It's a really messed up world view, but it's hard to change when we live such isolated lives.

  • egg_irl [Gender-Nonspecific]
  • I hope they don't drag out the "will-they, won't-they" romance suspense for the entire series again. Rumiko Takahashi is infamous for refusing to resolve love plots in her manga series, claiming that the tension keeps people coming back for more. My wife won't watch any anime series created by her, just because she knows the romance drama will never be resolved by the end.

  • What's the keyboard app for android with the most accurate swipe to type?
  • I used to use Gboard. I still do, but I used to as well.

    It used to be my default. Every time I got a new android device, I would immediately install Gboard before doing anything else.

    But lately, it's been garbage. It's been getting words wrong that I never had problems with previously. It randomly capitalizes normal words in the middle of sentences and I can't seem to train it not to do that. Like "Ever" is the standard capitalization now. I need to manually fix it every time I use that word.

    It's been forgetting my name, which is annoying because I have a very unique first and last name and I had previously trained it to swipe my name.

    It's also just sticking with variations of a suggested word instead of giving me words in the same swipe area to select. Like if I swipe "food" and it autocorrects with "good," my options to correct the autocorrect are things like "goodness," "goody," "God," etc.

    I'm trying to de-Google my life right now, so finding a new digital keyboard seems like a good idea. I'm gonna try some of the suggestions in this thread. I am definitely NOT recommending Gboard.

  • How is your consciousness/mind structured?
  • Thinking in terms of words and sentences always felt really slow and tiring, so I took the "picture is worth 1,000 words" metaphor literally and just visualize thoughts instead of using words. I could spend a few seconds/minutes piecing together a scene or conversation with words, or I could just instantly see it in my mind and have an innate understanding of the concept or situation, almost immediately.

    Of course, this makes it harder for me to communicate verbally (especially since I'm an introvert), so I've had to spend years practicing conversations out loud. And since I think in terms of images, I'm basically translating visuals to words every time I open my mouth. So I can be a bit awkward and fumble over words sometimes. I spent a lot of my youth just lost in my own head, because dealing with the real world was like trying to translate a foreign language in real time. It was exhausting, so I was just the quiet kid growing up. Kept to myself, for the most part, and just absorbed information about my surroundings.

    In the novel Hannibal Rising, they explain Lector Hannibal's brilliant mind as a sort of visual hallway, with many rooms branching off of it. Any time he needs information, he takes a mental stroll down the hall and into the various rooms, where he's filed away all sorts of knowledge. It's how he can recollect fine details about almost everything he's exposed to; he visualizes filing it away in a particular room in his mind, so he can go back to retrieve it anytime he wants.

    I always loved that concept of a visual recollection, but I feel it's too complicated a visual for myself in particular. It takes time to take that mental stroll down a hallway and go through files in my mind, so I keep it simpler and try to just jump right to the visual I need. If I can't find it, then I can't find it. Trying to keep mental files of everything just seems like way too much work for me, even if it would work as a shortcut to memory recollection.

    When puberty first struck me (about 25 years ago now), I found myself in a strange battle for control over my mind. I felt split in two directions: my intellectual side, which I felt was my true self. And my instinctual self; the impulses that tried to betray the strict moral compass I had in place. Almost a sort of Jekyll and Hyde thing, now that I think about it.

    I actually had a mini-struggle with this concept of a mental "self" when I was in elementary school. I was obsessive about details and had to do things in a particularly structured way. But I noticed that my peers were very lax about details and just did the bare minimum to accomplish tasks, sometimes very messily. It bothered me, and I spent several weeks agonizing over whether I should relinquish control and just be a messy, disorganized person like my peers, or if I should keep suffering under my mental structure and discipline. I didn't want to stop hyperfixating on minor details, but I felt like life would be less stressful if I could just give up trying and go with the flow. Little did I know I was already suffering from ADHD, even way back then. I wasn't even diagnosed until I was 37 years old.

    But as I started to mature both physically and mentally, that split between being "normal" and being "organized" became my instinctual and intellectual sides, and I spent many years fighting to hold true to my morals and personal beliefs. ADHD won in the end, and I refused to give in to my instinctual impulses all my life. And the older I get, the easier it is. As my hormones and testosterone cool off with age, I get less impulsive drives. I'm more careful and more patient, with less effort.

    In regards to OP's mental "depths"... I don't like to avoid topics just because they give me a negative vibe or emotion. I'm a realist, and I've always wanted to understand the world I live in, including the good and bad. I don't want to trick myself into a false understanding of the world; I want to see it as it truly is, so there's no misunderstanding a situation I find myself in.

    So unlike OP, who has layers of their mind where they tuck away negative thoughts, I prefer to process and deal with them up front, come to some level of understanding, and then file them away. Once I've processed it, then it doesn't hurt me as much in the future and I'm able to deal with it in the moment without freezing up or suffering from emotional reactions when I least expect it.

    It makes me more adept at handling real-world situations as they come at me. Which was really handy when I served in the US military. When you're being attacked by an enemy force, you don't have time to be horrified at the carnage around you; you need to be present in the moment and focused on the next step to survival. If something truly shocking happens, I can set that thought aside while I focus on what needs to be accomplished first. Once everything's said and done, then I can sit down and process that shocking situation I dealt with.

    TL;DR - I visualize thoughts instead of speaking or forming words in my head, because it's much faster. Also, my ADHD mind is a battlefield, wrestling for organization over impulses. ALSO also, I'm a realist who prefers to process everything up front, good and bad, instead of just tucking away negative thoughts and emotions and not dealing with them.

  • I'm getting real sick of your shit, Netflix
  • My pet peeve is when a show or movie ends and they immediately try to play a trailer for another show. I actually enjoy reading the credits! Or maybe I'm looking for the mid- or post-credits scenes. Either way, they give me like 10 seconds or less to cancel the next preview.

  • I'm getting real sick of your shit, Netflix
  • Oh man, since setting up my Plex server, I almost never use streaming services anymore. I mostly just keep them because my wife is obsessed with true crime shows and I don't have any of those on my Plex server.

  • If you don't work IT, retail, or food service what do you do for work?
  • Yeah, I was pretty jaded by the end of my career. Couldn't wait to retire, which is why I left as soon as I qualified for retirement. I served exactly 20 years and 6 days.

    I only made it to Technical Sergeant (E-6), but it was my ideal rank. I had enough rank and authority to manage personnel and resources, but I was also the technical expert and could get down on the ground level and do the work alongside my Airmen and NCOs. All career fields operate differently, but my IT field specifically didn't allow Senior NCOs to do the job. They were upper-management; they always got put behind a desk and made to do paperwork, pass down orders, and oversee projects.

    I didn't want that for myself, so I stopped trying to promote once I made TSgt. I expected I'd have to keep working once I retired, so I wanted to stay technical and keep my IT certifications and experience strong, so I could transition into a high-paying gig on the outside.

    Little did I know that I'd earn that coveted 100% Permanent & Total disability rating. Now my medical and dental costs are covered for life and my monthly VA check is bigger than my pension, so I'm essentially making a little bit more money than when I was serving, just to sit on my ass all day. So... yeah, I'm enjoying that hard-earned freedom right now.

  • ADHD Life Hacks which worked for you?
  • I tried the smoothies route once, about 2 years ago. I bought a Ninja blender, so I could make a personal smoothie to-go and not have to clean up a separate blender every time I made it.

    Turns out I suck at making smoothies. I thought it'd be simple. Just throw some frozen fruits in a blender, along with some ice and a liquid like milk or something to help it mix. But that was horribly bland. I tested a bunch of other recipes online that also mixed in kale, honey, flavored protein powders, and/or other ingredients and they also came out weird.

    I eventually found one recipe I liked that a friend recommended. But by that point, I was kind of burnt out by the whole thing. I only found one good recipe overall, and hunting online to test more recipes was getting to be a chore. This was supposed to be quick and easy! And now it's consuming too much of my time, just trying to figure it out.

    So... my blender has been collecting dust in my kitchen for the past couple years now.

  • If you don't work IT, retail, or food service what do you do for work?
  • I served in the US military. I was in the Air Force, but my profession was IT, so I spent my whole service working as a sysadmin.

    You can officially retire and collect a pension after only 20 years served. I joined at 18, so I retired at 38 years old. Normally, a 20-yr pension isn't enough to fully retire on, but I got a bit messed up during my service. The VA gave me a 100% disability rating, which includes a monthly pay bigger than my pension! Plus. My wife also served and was medically discharged with a 100% disability rating as well. So she gets the same medical benefits and pay as I do (minus a pension).

    With all three sources of passive income, we can live without working. We're not rich by any stretch of the imagination, but we pull in enough to live comfortably and have all our basic needs met.

    Like I said, I could go back into the IT field and double my current income (or more), but then I'd be stuck working all the time again, and I don't want to do that. The military was a 24/7 gig for 20 years. "Service Before Self" was one of our core values; we always had to prioritize the mission over our personal lives, and we could be recalled to work any time, day or night. So it's nice to actually have some "me time" now, where no one can make me go anywhere or do anything. Not looking to go back to work and give that up so soon.

  • If you don't work IT, retail, or food service what do you do for work?
  • I did work in IT, but now I'm retired young. I could go back to work and make double my income, but I just don't wanna. I'd rather have less income with a stable, comfortable life and the freedom to do whatever I want every day, than spend all day stuck in a job just to have no free time to enjoy the extra money I'd be bringing home.